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    Duh when did i become so mistrusting?

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    Last edited by Athenathefabulous; 02-25-2011 at 03:22 AM.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: when did i become so mistrusting?

    Has anything been happening in another part of your life that would put you "on edge" or make you more irritable? A series of annoying customers at work? Problems with another friend or a family member?

    It could be that you are not specifically conditioned regarding romantic relationships but are just feeling quick to judge and "bitchy" in general.

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    Default Re: when did i become so mistrusting?

    Well to be fair you did call the guy and he did bail on you, it is a fair assumption to make. Dude could have said he was sick.

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    It happens from experience. Personally I think its a good thing athena, keeps u on guard and not having unrealistic expectations.

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    I think that sexxin just makes for vulnerability in how we feel sometimes. Like ... whether you wanted to or not .... you felt vulnerable after and you wanted reassurance from him that he WASN'T going to be flaky on you. When he seemed flaky, you jumped to what you jumped to.

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Especially after my last experience, I am quick to jump the gun and decide everything has gone to shit after sex. For me, it seems like sex ruins everything

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    i don't think you're distrusting. i think you've seen dudes be douches enough times to reach a logical conclusion.

    a couple years ago, my aunt had called me a couple times, but i'd been too busy to talk to her. before i know it, she leaves me a message asking me if i'm avoiding her, if i hate her, etc. which was completely atypical of her. she's one of the chillest, most together people i know. however, my dad and stepmom had recently moved up, and my stepmom (former as soon as she signs the divorce papers) is nuts. so in only about 4 months of daily contact, my aunt had developed what seemed like a post-traumatic stress response from being in an emotional war zone. as soon as i explained that to her, she shook it, but it was the most surprising thing to see someone like her freak out so bad at all. even strong people can be affected by bad experiences.
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    Honestly, I would have assumed the same thing. You havent known him THAT long & you never can tell with people these days.

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    I really dont like it when a guy doesnt text when he says he is going to...To me that is a sign that I am not enough of a priority to get back in touch with. I dont like people who have excuses unless it was an emergency..But I am very hard on people...But what I have found is that if you dont set ur expectations high you will get below par treatment. Be hard on the guy. If he gets lazy about responding then maybe he isnt worth the time anymore.

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    I really dont care that Im mistrusting. I see it as a very valuable protection mechanism. I know many people would disagree and see it as a huge character flaw-but I have no remorse.

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    Eh, I wouldn't be upset about it, some people are just flakier than others about texting. Irritating but I don't hold it against people so long as I know it's their pattern.

    It may be sad you're more distrusting now but really it's sensible... and once you know they're not going to be a dick you're good to go. If you find that you can't trust people even when you know they're loyal friends, well that'd be a concern. IMHO.

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    Honestly, I would have had the same response. When you're conditioned to expect something, it takes a lot of contrary to make you see it otherwise, know what I'm saying? I don't blame you and I don't see it as a flaw. Keep it. I'm a strong advocate of never trusting anyone until they've proven they can handle it.

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    Perhaps, it is more of being cynical based upon past experiences. Trust is something to be earned as with respect over time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Athenathefabulous View Post
    update: even though he was sick, he came over last night and helped me with my car... i need to take it to a BMW mechanic but he got it so it will run in the mean time. he is definitely still quite sick and we hung out to watch a movie, hooked up a bit, but he passed out shortly after. hes a cute little (well not little, tall and skinny and babyfaced) louisiana boy with the southern accent and southern gentlemen manners. i.e. even though we are just fuck buddies, he is very sweet, takes me out and pays, holds open doors for me, is generally concerned for my well being etc.
    Hmmm - he treats you well, you use him as a fuck buddy so the sex can't be too bad, and you otherwise seem to like him as a person. Is there a foundation for something more here? Friends come and go in this life, but a good partner can be forever...

    Anyway, just my

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    He, he like those cute austrian boys!

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    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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