I am writing an essay and I am trying to articulate this phenomenon. Can anyone help me by offering their own definitions, stories, etc? Thanks.
I am writing an essay and I am trying to articulate this phenomenon. Can anyone help me by offering their own definitions, stories, etc? Thanks.
Originally Posted by ViolaStrings![]()
I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.
http://www.davkadeergirl.com
definition? the white knight who rescues the damsel in distress
yeah but in relation to this type of customer...
Originally Posted by ViolaStrings![]()
I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.
http://www.davkadeergirl.com
A lot of time they tend to become very insulting when you make it clear you aren't going to swoon into their arms and ride off with them into the sunset. I think deep down, they really have zero respect for us as women, because they think us incapable of taking care of ourselves, and also because they tend to feel that we "owe" them for spending so much time and/or money on us.
^Agreed. Captain Save a hoe is only a white knight in his own mind. In reality he wants the woman to be incapable of taking care of herself so that he can own and control her. Thats why he always tries to make the girl quit working. The line is "You're better than that" or the more straightforward, "You don't have to be a slut/whore/stripper anymore" Anything to knock her feet out from under her so she'll have to be dependent on him.
A pig who imagines himself a hero. No thanks.
Working one night and my heel broke. fell off the stage. CRACKED MY HEAD WIDE OPEN. this guy scooped me up. took off his shirt and pressed it on the wound. He road with me in the ambulance to the ER. I got 4 sitiches......got me a cab home and paid for the ride.
KINDA WISHED I KNEW THE BAD ASSES NAME SO I COULD TELL HIM THANKS.....




Captain Save a Ho is passive agressive. He dreams that he can support a woman and so instead of earning a woman's attention by exchanging money for her time within the set up of the strip club, he doesn't tip her anything (or perhaps might stingily tip a dollar as if it's some big deal), but acts as if he has the means to support her. His delusions also make him believe (or acts like he believes) that the woman would rather be his indentured sex slave for food, and rent and basic necessities, rather than the high-flying freedoms that the sex trade and the money we earn offers us. It's basically a misogynistic urge to keep a wild vagina in check.
The genuine men are those who spend money on us, appreciate our boundaries, and get to know us as people-- what our aspirations are as well as any struggles we might have overcome or might be going through. These men are the lovely people who then might offer help without any strings attached, unlike Captain Save a Ho's nasty-ass tentacles. Insofar as relationships occur between patron and dancer, it is likely after the man has freely engaged in VIP time and acted like a gentleman and been genuinely interesting. I don't know why, but there's a flood of little boys these past few years who think that if they come into a strip club, not do any dances, not tip money, and act like they are entitled to be in our workplaces without paying us anything, that we will fall at their feet. Captain Save a Ho is just a specialized section of this pack of socially challenged narcissists.
I'd love to have some pat story for my interactions with the little captains, but really, they occur maybe 4-5 times a year to varying degrees, and as soon as I see it heading in that direction I shut them down quickly by saying something along the lines of, "this is my workplace. I love what I do. I get to travel whenever I want, go to school, and I can take days off. And I can even tell certain customers, should I need to, to fuck off. Now, I'm working. When you feel like having fun, you let me know. Otherwise, I see one of my clients waiting for me."
They tend to be surprised at the blow-off, and I typically see them either a) sitting by themselves for the rest of the night, or b) sucking in some stupid girl who thinks she can get money out of him (or else the type of girl who drives me crazy because she wants to sit and have alcohol paid for her and rewards this type of customer with her attention rather than helping train him to expect to shell out cash to get a dancer's time.)





See: Inegnue http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ingenue_(stock_character)
White Knight expects his chosen partner to play the part of the innocent and helpless forever. When he sees she is indeed capable and eager to provide for herself and show her independence, white knight turns passive aggressive (as stated above), and often times emotionally/verbally abusive in an effort to keep his woman 'reeled in'.
See Also: Superiority complex http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superiority_complex




A customer that saves a dancer in distress at the end of an un-lucrative night.





He's the Guy who wants to save the dancer from herself, make her better than just a stripper. I've actually been w a white Knight.
He spent money on me, easily $300 two to three times a week. He was interesting and actually convinced me to leave my husband (later remarried him). He was good to me, until he decided I wasn't leaving stripping soon enough. He then became controlling, but for my own good. Think of Edward from Twilight. He controls Bella for her own good as this white Knight tried to do to me. It didn't work out-i left him and returned to my original Guy, who, bless him, took me back.
"You can close your eyes to reality but not to memories -Stainslaw J. Lec
Confuscius say: "Man who pull bra stap get bust in face"




Captain Save a Ho's are the guys who come into the club and try to 'rescue' you from the horrors of the sex industry, or whatever horrors they feel exist based on their own delusions. Usually they will be very talkative, ask personal/intrusive questions, get very detailed, and focus little or not at all on why you are there with him...to sell dances!
After some chatting they usually offer you a solution to your 'problem', which is their monetary support, salvation (religion/spiritual based), or secretary job/personal assistant job/sugarbaby, etc, etc. Typically these men have a narcissistic personality, inflated ego, and see themselves as 'above' sex workers and as if they have the power to 'save' them. The best approach for these idiots is to leave them at the table and explain that you enjoy working for yourself, because you know best.
However, it should be noted that I personally have met ONE genuine man who offered me a legitimate sugarbaby/sugardaddy relationship. He was respectful and understanding of my job, boundaries, and saw me as an individual. I didn't take him up on his offer though.
If you are willing to do for one year what other's won't, you can spend a lifetime doing what other's cant.
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