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    Question Need some advice...

    I met this super beautiful/ amazing man where I live and we hit it off right away. He's not my boyfriend or anything but being a cam girl you understand what it's like to be by yourself most of the time working to make that daily goal... Anyway He comes over quiet often and I have to work around my "work" schedule to accommodate my fun with him.

    Okay so I am not sure if I should tell he and how to tell him. I want to tell him so he can understd why I can't have him over or come see me at 2am but IDK Please tell me what to do

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    I think just be straight up. Explain that you have something you want to talk to him about and get pretty much straight to the point. Explain that it's a job and that you hope he's cool with it, because you are. I don't think there's any way of telling him that will make him cool with it if he's not that sort of person. But, I think more people are cool with it than we generally expect. I have only ever had one guy be weird about it, and he had way too many hang ups for me anyways.

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    I don't think you should tell him until you guts get "serious". He isn't your dude and you're not his lady so at this point, his understanding of why you can't magically materialize or clear your schedule every time he comes calling isn't important. He just needs to know that you can't and accept that. You're a grown woman with personal priorities and that's all he needs to understand at this point. As for him coming around at weird times (2 AM???) um...chill time should be between the hours of noon and 10 PM. Back when I would date, that's prime time for having normal dates whether its ice cream and walking through the park or dinner and drinks. And it only happened a max of 4 times a week.

    I'm a hard-ass though and my approach may be counterproductive in the eyes of some but unless I'm attached to someone, I don't see myself as owing them any explanations. But you like him so I can see where you'd want to be as nice as you can be and give him a bit more insight into why he can't be willy-nilly with your time. I still stand by not telling him just yet though. That could cause some undue duress.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spinnerette View Post
    I don't think you should tell him until you guts get "serious". He isn't your dude and you're not his lady so at this point, his understanding of why you can't magically materialize or clear your schedule every time he comes calling isn't important. He just needs to know that you can't and accept that. You're a grown woman with personal priorities and that's all he needs to understand at this point. As for him coming around at weird times (2 AM???) um...chill time should be between the hours of noon and 10 PM. Back when I would date, that's prime time for having normal dates whether its ice cream and walking through the park or dinner and drinks. And it only happened a max of 4 times a week.

    I'm a hard-ass though and my approach may be counterproductive in the eyes of some but unless I'm attached to someone, I don't see myself as owing them any explanations. But you like him so I can see where you'd want to be as nice as you can be and give him a bit more insight into why he can't be willy-nilly with your time. I still stand by not telling him just yet though. That could cause some undue duress.

    LOL 2am is my free time. He likes to come by in the am on the wknds and after work on the weekdays which is work time for me because I have a son

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    I dont think everytime you meet someone or date a few times that you need to come out and say it but once it gets to the point where you just seem to be seeing each other and no one else then you should. If he becomes your boyfriend and you dont tell him then you're just starting off a relationship with a lie. If right now he's just someone you see sometimes then he doesnt have to know why he cant come over at certain times because its not really his business. I'm lucky that my bf knows what I do and is good with it but I also told him about it before even signing up for a site because I wouldnt have done it if he was uncomfortable. We'd been dating for 7 months at that time and were about to move in with each other so I thought we should discuss it...lol

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