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    Default Rant: Long hair preachers

    After a horrible incident where a hairdresser "accidentally" chopped off a foot of my hair, I have been trying to grow it out for years. My hair grows incredibly slowly (about a quarter inch a month, if I'm lucky) so it was a long, tedious process full of deep conditioning treatments, vitamins, and careful brushing with a wide-tooth wooden comb.

    My hair is still not as long as it was, but it's long to average people-it comes just at the top of my bra.

    I'm really sick of the reactions people have to my hair.

    Every time I wear I wear it down, everyone from coworkers to complete strangers come up to me and say "Your hair is so pretty, you should donate it", or my favorite, "It's really selfish of you to keep your hair to yourself. Little kids with cancer need it!"

    1. Why is it okay to demand I donate my hair? If I walked up to someone and said, "hey, nice shoes, you should give themt o Goodwill" that would be obnoxious
    2. Most of the "hair for wigs" charities are notoriously horrible. Locks of Love is one of the worst ranked charities according to the Better Business Bureau, and if the hair has been dyed, highlighted, or heat styled, it can't be made into a wig anyway.

    And finally...

    3. I WANT TO ENJOY MY HAIR MYSELF.

    Do any other long haired girls have this problem? What is a polite but witty response?

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    Default Re: Rant: Long hair preachers

    I had someone tell me that once (while I had extensions in, no less)... my answer was
    "I can't donate my hair. I have alopecia... this is a wig." /look sad
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Default Re: Rant: Long hair preachers

    hahahahahaha that's pretty priceless, I'll have to remember that one

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    It's slightly less funny because it's actually true... I *do* have alopecia... it's just that my hair doesn't fall out unless I'm CRAZY stressed. It's only happened once and was a tiiiiny clump where no one could see it...
    But it's enough that no one has the right to tell me I should cut off my hair! LOL
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    WTF Who are these weird people! I've had long hair my whole life and no one has ever said such silly shit to me.

    I don't think its necessary to be polite to rude, nosey people. Pointing out something that they have and advising them to donate it should get the point across.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kandie_kitten View Post

    What is a polite but witty response?
    How about this: "And you have such a lovely rosy complexion*. You should donate a couple of pints of blood to the less fortunate. That would get you good and pale."


    * Only works for white people.

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    To me, the word "should" is a dirty, filthy word.

    Those people have to ask themselves--- if they suggest that you 'should', would they do it themselves???

    Oh snap! I bet they certainly wouldn't....

    Some folks loooooove to give advice, wholeheartedly knowing they would never take it if it was offered to them. I assume it is because they love to hear their own voice; but that is considerably better than the other option--- in which they are determined to give you BAD suggestions so that you look shitty and they make more money.

    Either way, just smile and nod politely. Then, do what you know is right. Their opinion ain't nuthin'. Stay true to yourself... and don't pay any mind to their blah-blah-blahs.

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    Yikes. I have long hair, but no one has ever said anything that stupid to me. Just because you have something others do not doesn't mean you should go without. No logic. People throw the selfish word around much too liberally.

    I wouldnt be able to politely respond to a dumb comment. In my world a dumb comment usually merits a dumb response. "Why dont you go kill yourself so that you can donate your organs to someone who needs them". Its not funny by any means, but it matches their stupid logic at least. **shrug**
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    With the exception of once in college and after my two sons were born, I've never cut my hair shorter than bra strap length and have still never had anyone be so rude....and untill my mid 20's I could sit on my hair it was so long and is thick to the point, everytime I go to a new salon the stylist will call over every other stylist to check out my hair. Weird, obnoxious rude people should just be ignored.
    "I hear you calling and it's needles and pins. I wanna hurt you just to hear you screaming my name...You're poision. but I don't wanna break these chains.... I wanna love you but I'd better not touch."

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    ^How is that possible? If I wear my hair down, I get stopped at least once by a complete stranger to tell me I should hack it off. And God help me if I'm in an elevator-then it becomes the topic of choice

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    1st & foremost, I am so sorry that b*tch of a hairdresser did that to you!
    I had a similar (not as bad) experience, from a cosmetic chain salon 'stylist' who'd been coloring highlighting my hair for a year. She darkened it too much, then when I went back to get it redone, she actually left bleach sitting on my hair I even complained to the State License Board, to no avail! Um, get paid off much?
    After over a year +, I'm still working with it to get it back to former condition! I'm lucky, my hair grows fast.
    Some outstanding points/comments made here! Miss Lucy, lmao! *Slight thrdjack: a blood donor called & asked me to donate , I said no I can't, he said why did your doctor tell you that you can't..WTF: I SAID NO A/Hole!
    Yes, a drunk chick actually followed me all over a venue, said, 'O, my **** (whatever relative) has cancer, blah, blah,you should donate your hair! I said, "So does most of my family"! Which is actually true! So, yeah, I'd first give them an incredulous, WTF look, & turn around, & ignore, or one of the GREAT comments here!


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    Default Re: Rant: Long hair preachers

    I get told once in awhile i should donate my hair.. It takes forever to grow my hair and how I grew up.. I want to keep my long hair.

    But I need to find a good book on braids.. I been wanting to do a reverse gwen french braid ponytail..

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    Default Re: Rant: Long hair preachers

    In my experiences these kind of people are usually the ones that are feeling guilty for something themselves, so they project their guilt onto others to make themselves feel better.

    "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Yes, a drunk chick actually followed me all over a venue, said, 'O, my **** (whatever relative) has cancer, blah, blah,you should donate your hair! I said, "So does most of my family"! Which is actually true! So, yeah, I'd first give them an incredulous, WTF look, & turn around, & ignore, or one of the GREAT comments here!
    Also, who says they need a real-hair wig? Synthetic wigs look great. Otherwise they can just go buy a real hair wig like any of us. They're not that expensive. And besides, it's become much more socially acceptable for women and children alike to forgo itchy wigs and go bare or wear scarves so why donate your long hair???

    As for lines:
    "Lots of people need kidneys. Why don't you go donate yours?"

    "There's so many unfortunate people out there who can't have kids, and you have such nice BIG birthing hips. Why don't you just get right on being a surrogate mother!"

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    I've never had that happen. I've always heard oh don't ever cut your hair it's so long and pretty. Someone did ask if I would ever donate it if I was to cut it. Maybe it's the part of the US you're from. I agree that it's quite rude of people to say crap like that. I'd probably smart off to whoever said that to me. Grrr.

    I did look at the Locks of Love website and it DOES say they will accept dyed hair. I looked it up since I do dye my hair.

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    It's your hair. If someone doesn't respond to whatever polite way of saying 'mind your own business' that you can dream up, you should feel free to give it to them straight.

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    How bizarre! I don't think I've ever had anyone say something like that to me, and my hair is naturally golden blonde and comes down to about mid-back. If anyone ever tried to guilt me into donating it, I would laugh in their face.

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    I always have this problem. Always. I have long hair and it gets to sit on it lengths. I hear it all the time. I just laugh it off and let it be. It's a personal choice. I have nothing against these kinds of things I just don't want to do it. Even though I work in a salon I have only seen one person do this anyways. Ignore it.





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    Quote Originally Posted by fantasiarene View Post
    I've never had that happen. I've always heard oh don't ever cut your hair it's so long and pretty. Someone did ask if I would ever donate it if I was to cut it. Maybe it's the part of the US you're from. I agree that it's quite rude of people to say crap like that. I'd probably smart off to whoever said that to me. Grrr.

    I did look at the Locks of Love website and it DOES say they will accept dyed hair. I looked it up since I do dye my hair.
    Oh they accept it, but it's not made into wigs. Hair that is donated that has been heat styled or colored is sold to hair salons to be made into extensions, not into wigs for cancer or alopecia patients. They have made only 1400 wigs since their inception, but received enough hair to make over 100,000. The rest is thrown away or sold-I just think if people knew that there was a chance their hair would be sold to a salon, they may not be so willing to chop it for charity.

    They also don't provide the wigs free, which is also a common misconception. The children still need to purchase the wigs, and need to jump threw crazy hoops to get them even then.

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    I thought about donating my hair until I read that locks of love is in trouble for a scam, selling the hair for money. So Im keeping it maybe Ill sell a bit later. If you want it to grow faster try Ovation Cell Therapy it doubles hair growth I use it and love it.

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    If someone wants some hair nothing is stopping them from buying 26inches of it themselves in 4 packs and having a wig custom made. I have no problem with locks of love, but whats yours in yours. Also, If you have health insurance and lose your hair or enough of it to become an issue, your insurance will cover full lace/lace front wigs, various types of extensions because it is considered a prosthesis which is necessary for quality of life. They even have options available for the totally bald. Didn't know about the insurance coverage until I was chatting with a tricologist. Don't let people make you feel bad because they think someone needs what you have more than you do.
    Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.

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    I love my hair. people say its the most precious thing i have and thats true becos its long it reaches my ass and also thick too. but i have never had someone to tell me to donate it or somth like that.this winter i was pretty worried because it started to fall more the usually and i took some vitamins but now all good.i cant see myself with short hair or another cut because i have this long hair since i know myself..oh and yes i wd never donate it or cut it for money or for somthing else. it is my precious thing

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    Quote Originally Posted by So Fine Divyne View Post
    If someone wants some hair nothing is stopping them from buying 26inches of it themselves in 4 packs and having a wig custom made. I have no problem with locks of love, but whats yours in yours. Also, If you have health insurance and lose your hair or enough of it to become an issue, your insurance will cover full lace/lace front wigs, various types of extensions because it is considered a prosthesis which is necessary for quality of life. They even have options available for the totally bald. Didn't know about the insurance coverage until I was chatting with a tricologist. Don't let people make you feel bad because they think someone needs what you have more than you do.
    Right!^
    There's a website, I can't think of it now, that people sell their own hair on. Anything, from the minimum amount, to like 4 feet. Buyer & seller agree on the price, then the buyer has it made into a wig. They even sell videos on there, of getting haircuts, etc


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    i've heard that before too. my hair has been long most of my life.

    in the past, when i have cut it, i've kept it. and i haven't donated it. because locks of love is a scam, and they can kiss my ass. besides, i've never cut all that much off at once, it wouldn't make a great wig.

    i think most people who say it are trying to show off that they're socially conscious and care about children with cancer and stuff like that. like people who told me to donate money to haiti. well, i didn't, and good thing too since the people of haiti aren't benefitting from any of the aid that was sent their way.

    anytime anyone mentions that i should cut it and donate it, i tell them- locks of love is a scam. they throw out or sell most of the hair that gets donated to them.

    didn't know they charge for the wigs too. that's just classy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    i've heard that before too. my hair has been long most of my life.

    in the past, when i have cut it, i've kept it. and i haven't donated it. because locks of love is a scam, and they can kiss my ass. besides, i've never cut all that much off at once, it wouldn't make a great wig.

    i think most people who say it are trying to show off that they're socially conscious and care about children with cancer and stuff like that. like people who told me to donate money to haiti. well, i didn't, and good thing too since the people of haiti aren't benefitting from any of the aid that was sent their way.

    anytime anyone mentions that i should cut it and donate it, i tell them- locks of love is a scam. they throw out or sell most of the hair that gets donated to them.

    didn't know they charge for the wigs too. that's just classy.
    Well said! I didn't know those things, but I suspected. I've also heard they sell the hair on the black market.


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