The basics: im 29, work full time(part time dance but slackin off due to burnout lately). Boyfriend and me have been together for almost a yr. Going to be moving in together in summer.
Anyways, moved back home in january cause my lease was up and I hated my place. My boyfriend has a room-mate and his lease is up in june which is when we are moving in together. Im basically there most of my time anyways.
But, and its always been this wa.. my FAMILY drives me crazy sometimes.
It seemingly looks perfect, but scratch that surface and....
Brother is mid 30s, married 2 children, successful.
Sister mid 30s, married, 2 children, very successful(even has the white picket fence).
Well I have no children, never been married. No desire to have children and my boyfriend feels same way.
My sister and brother ALWAYS ask me to watch the kids. I mean its getting to the point of ridiculousness. I do try to help when I can and I feel selfish if I dont. The past few weekends Ive had ONE night to myself and I went to a concert and next weekend Im seeing Lady Gaga(cant wait) I just feel like every weekend they want/need a sitter. My mom watches the kids alot and sometimes they get sitters. But my nephew is 6 and the youngest is 2. So its been 6 yrs now that me and my mom have been asked to watch the kids and frankly, im burnt out from that. I love them to pieces but as ive said, i have no desire to have kids and Im just not into kids.
Now that Im back at home i feel like i see my whole family ALL the time.
My sister is there once/twice a week with her kids. My brother likes to come over alot too. No conversations ever happen anymore. its ALL kid related. And I guess if I had kids i would understand but i cant tell you how left out I feel when the whole family sits around and bitches or boasts about this one or that one.
When I miss family events, I get the guilt routine from my mom.
As i said I stay at my boyfriends ALOT and my mom seems to get attitude cause i dont call home enough(brother/sister call her like everyday). And thats fine that they do but I dont need THAT much contact.
As ive said I love my family but they can be quite stifling at times.
I guess theres no real advice Im seeking, this is more of a bitch thread.
Now im off to a family party for my brother in law. Grrr..



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