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    Default How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    we all start somewhere, i used to be a different person outside of the club until i got confident . i was very shy starting out.

    what helped boost your confidence as a dancer?

    .. i figured this may help some newbies in the section as well.

    please share your stories

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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    I'd love to hear some feedback on this one. I've always been painfully shy. I mean, I've always had a naughty side. (I'm here aren't I?) but still very reserved, very withdrawn. I wonder how dancing might have an effect on your personality in the long run. Does it make you more overtly sexual or loud or crazy outside the club? Or does it just give you a subtle sense of confidence? I'm curious too...

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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    Hwew are some thoughts.

    When you walk out on a stage, you are playing a character.

    As an exotic dancer, you are playing the character of the fulfillment of any and every fantasy that all the men in your audience have ever had. You are a goddess of beauty; you are a sexy angel who can fulfill every fantasy they ever had--far better than they ever dreamed possible.

    But you're going to make them wait! Why? You are the goddess of sexuality; you know best that there is no greater pleasure in the universe than the sweet, agonizing torture of the sloowwww fulfilment of every pleasure beyond their wildest dreams.

    You are the goddess; you are in charge. You know that you are everything that the men in your audience want. And you'll give them pleasure beyond their wildest imagination--but on your terms! Why? Because you are the hottest, sexiest angel ever created; you are the Venus, the goddess of love; you have everything and you have the power to give whatever you want to those who you feel are worthy.

    But on your terms! Why? Because they are on your turf; they are in your club, and you make the rules. If they misbehave, they will be banished.

    But if they behave...and treat you like the goddess you really are...you have the power to bring them pleasure beyond anything any man has ever known--just with one look from your beautiful tigress eyes.


    (Just a few thoughts to get you started. )

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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    i was extremely shy when i started out as well. i never thought i could actually make money being a stripper because i have extremely small breasts. i thought i should get implants first before dancing but then i said fuck it, i'm stripping.

    now i don't even plan on getting implants. i made regulars liking my breasts just the way they are. my confidencce boosted a lot when i made my first 300 from one guy. i was extremely surprised that a man will spend that much money on me because he found me extremely sexy.

    i have this inner confidence wherever i go after hearing from so many men how beautiful and sexy i am. i love it... it feeds my ego whenever i have many men spending so much money on me. the feeling of being desired is what gains me a lot of confidence
    "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning how to dance in the rain."

    "Everyone wants happiness. Nobody wants pain. But you can't have a rainbow without a little rain.

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    I've just started and I feel more confident. There is much rejection but it really puts into perspective how much attitude and confidence can affect the way people look at you. I realize that in a lot of ways I put myself down to make others feel more comfortable. I can't do that. I wont sell dances. It's not appealing to be insecure. I just get it. I never made eye contact with people before. Now I understand I need to look straight in their eyes, speak fluidly and pull my shoulders back. Regardless of what anyone says I'm amazing. So there... that is from two nights of stripping :p lol

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    I didn't get shit from being a dancer.... I knew I was a little sexpot the minute I popped outta mommy's vajayjay
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    AnotherBruisedPeach - I've got my first amateur night coming up tomorrow & I'm scared! I too don't like to look men in the face because I dont want them to think I'm interested but that's gotta change! I've got friends who dance and they've given me some good advice... I like that your kind of new too, I've read a couple of your responses and I identify with you alot.

    I look forward to being a confident, sexy dancer (when I start.)

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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    Quote Originally Posted by SexyLyric View Post
    AnotherBruisedPeach - I've got my first amateur night coming up tomorrow & I'm scared! I too don't like to look men in the face because I dont want them to think I'm interested but that's gotta change! I've got friends who dance and they've given me some good advice... I like that your kind of new too, I've read a couple of your responses and I identify with you alot.

    I look forward to being a confident, sexy dancer (when I start.)
    From one newbie to another. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are you WILL get rejected. Yes the money is very nice and the hours are flexible but the rejection can STING Remember it's true what they say. BEAUTY is subjective. As time progresses you'll realize the men who rejected you (some could be hiring managers) will go for girls you thought were butt ugly. I mean REALLY UGLY..

    Don't worry about your audition. Club lighting can hide a lot. Nobody can see the cellulite on your butt or your little ingrown hairs. Move slow and point your toes. Be as seductive as you'd be alone in the mirror. If you feel like your going slow GO SLOWER.

    I had a horrible first night. I can't tell you how much I was rejected. You might not believe me but I'm considered attractive. I've been asked if I model by other women and I get whistled at on the street. I'm assuming I'm no totally delusional.

    You're a fantasy. Plain and simple. If you act a lot like a friend they rarely buy dances. changingminds.org is a great site on body language. I'm brand new but I'm already averaging three hundred or so after tip out. (That is good in my club) It's been really slow and I work days.

    Eye contact= sexy.

    Once you make eye contact for three seconds the person is programmed to react. Hold your head to the side. Wear only symmetrical clothing. Do your make up equally on each side. Men are attracted to fertility and health. When you go to work your skin should look healthy and flawless. Your hair should look shiny. Glitter eyeshadow is good.

    I've learnt a lot already. I hope that helps. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I didn't get shit from being a dancer.... I knew I was a little sexpot the minute I popped outta mommy's vajayjay
    your confidence and energy on all these post give me life..I hope to get like you in the game

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    Default Re: How did you gain your confidence as a dancer?

    Put yourself in a character. Like from a roleplay, like it's not real. It's fun

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    Following because I'm starting at a new place on Thurs. and as the days go on, I'm getting in my head about it because I'm excited and nervous bu have been thinking a lot about sex appeal and creating a personna

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