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    So as everyone knows (I think) I want boobs. I have a great opportunity. I have a regular that is willing to pay for them. I will have to pay him back but on my own terms and when I can.. So that's not the problem. The problem is those 3 or 4 wks that I won't be working. My hubby is unemployed at the moment so he has no income coming in. There are other things that I could probably put that money towards but I feel that I deserve these. I have been the one paying for everything for so long because hubby is always in and out of work. Mostly out... he's in construction. So yes maybe I'm being selfish. I'm going to also justify my decision by saying that getting these will increase my income alot. I'm already an attractive girl with a great ass and sparkling personality so these tata's are only going to help me even more. Then when I'm making more money we can get a better car, we can move, and I can start saving. What are your thoughts on my situation? If you're a woman answering this, would you get the boobs?? Honestly your answers are probably not going to change my mind...LOL but I'd still like to hear what everyone has to say. Plus you only live once right?!!

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    Default Re: I'm being selfish and I don't know what to do...

    It would only be selfish if you don't share them with your fellow SWers....get them baby!

    Why 3-4 weeks off work?

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    Default Re: I'm being selfish and I don't know what to do...

    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    It would only be selfish if you don't share them with your fellow SWers....get them baby!

    Why 3-4 weeks off work?
    3-4 wks off to recuperate... My manager did however tell me that I could come back and just work the floor after 2 wks if I wasn't comfortable going onstage yet. So that's a plus.

    I guess another thing to add is if everything goes SMOOTHLY it will only be a 3-4 wk leave of absence but if something goes WRONG it could be longer :/

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    Even though Im totally pro-boobies for you (congrats! im happy for you). I do have to say.. If it were me, I would wait a bit longer. How is everything suppose to get paid, hubby is out of work, you will be in recovery.. whats going to happen to all the bills?

    Also remember that you might be out in recovery longer than you'd think. You need to protect your investment as it will be with you forever! I went back to work at 2 months, but it did not feel comfortable (I was scared of guys touching them), so i went back at 3 months.

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    If you can afford to take the time off... go for it.
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    i am losing my fucking mind and i really just want this chloroform dream because i think that would just get me right with jesus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    Even though Im totally pro-boobies for you (congrats! im happy for you). I do have to say.. If it were me, I would wait a bit longer. How is everything suppose to get paid, hubby is out of work, you will be in recovery.. whats going to happen to all the bills?

    Also remember that you might be out in recovery longer than you'd think. You need to protect your investment as it will be with you forever! I went back to work at 2 months, but it did not feel comfortable (I was scared of guys touching them), so i went back at 3 months.
    Thank you

    As for the bills, I'm hoping that in the next 6 weeks I can make enough to cover bills/rent for the month that I'm off.
    It's just bullshit because I really deserve these! I have been paying for alot and I want something for ME. I don't want to put it off too long because I want to move in June when our lease is up. Ugh... decisions, decisions..

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    ^ If you already have a plan for the bills then go for it! You didnt include that in, but now that you know what you are doing. I think you can totally make the bills within 6 weeks! Go for it, you deserve this and if you REALLY want something like this, go go go! I cant wait to see your results!

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    Deserve doesn't have anything to do with it. You can either afford to take 3-4 weeks off work to recuperate or you can't and your decision should be based entirely on that alone.

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    If I was in the hubbys shoes Id have a very difficult time dealing with having some guy buy something for my wife that would be a permanant part of her body that I couldn't afford to. If he resents it at some point I could see if having a very negative long term impact on the relationship.
    If a regular bought my dancer GF or wife a car I don't think it would bother me, a boob job and I think it would.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chgojoe View Post
    If I was in the hubbys shoes Id have a very difficult time dealing with having some guy buy something for my wife that would be a permanant part of her body that I couldn't afford to. If he resents it at some point I could see if having a very negative long term impact on the relationship.
    If a regular bought my dancer GF or wife a car I don't think it would bother me, a boob job and I think it would.


    It's more like a loan. I have to pay it back... hubby is surprisingly fine with this.. I definitely took that part of the situation into consideration..

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    Get 'em. They are an investment (or you can rationalize them as that). Unless you're getting very clear negative signals from your mate or creepy signals fro
    the loan-officer custie, there is zero reason to delay.

    Besides, when you are healed you can come work here, a major market. <G>

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    I think you look damn hot with your current boobs, but if you really want new boobs - go for it!

    You definitely deserve to be a little "selfish" - though, I don't think you're being selfish - I agree that its an investment.

    No disrespect to your hubby, but maybe he should find another line of work. It doesn't seem fair that he's always in and out of work and you have support him.
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    Yeah construction is so dead even illegal immigrants are going home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Deserve doesn't have anything to do with it. You can either afford to take 3-4 weeks off work to recuperate or you can't and your decision should be based entirely on that alone.
    i totally agree to this, if you are unsure about whats more important finacially, then i would say wait untill you feel completely secure, theres no reason to rush into a surgery, wait unti you are 100% ready and dont need to post threads on SW to justify it to yourself

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    Yeah construction is so dead even illegal immigrants are going home.
    LOL... so true...

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    I'd go for it! I actually was in a similar situation...hubby wasn't unemployeed but couldn't make the bills on his own, and I DID go for it. It dramatically increased my income and I was able to pay off the credit cards we lived on for 6 weeks in about two weeks (working only a few nights a week cause I had a secretarial job during the day!)
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    i think everyone is looking at it from the financial standpoint, which makes sense. but i'm in the same situation, and looking at it from a relationship standpoint. i'm also saving up for boobs (no cool regular here. sucks.) and my SO and i have had this conversation about whether or not i "deserve" something thats 100% for me. he says hes okay with it, i will be saving the money myself and the bills are always paid first. but he IS a little salty about spending 7 grand on a "luxury."

    IMO, no you are absolutely not being selfish. You're in the sex industry-- not only will it improve your income, but it will help you feel better about yourself naked. thats our job. you've had a kid, your body went through changes, you want boobs back, or boobs for the first time. i explained it to my SO this way, "if you had a tiny dick and we could afford some kind of penis surgery, you would want it, right?" LOL. go for it and don't feel guilty!

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    **plus they arent 100% for you..he gets to play with them too!

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    ^ Very true

    Well hubby and I had a long talk last night and I'm feeling much better about things. He understands how much this means to me and he is being just awesome about the whole thing. So from now until April (when I'm hoping to have surgery) I'm going to work my ass off. Work like I've never worked before. Hopefully make about $2000 in the next 5 or 6 wks.. I make between $800-$1000 average a week so I shouldn't have too much of a problem.
    Thanks everyone for their honesty and advice

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Thank you

    As for the bills, I'm hoping that in the next 6 weeks I can make enough to cover bills/rent for the month that I'm off.
    It's just bullshit because I really deserve these! I have been paying for alot and I want something for ME. I don't want to put it off too long because I want to move in June when our lease is up. Ugh... decisions, decisions..

    You have an opportunity to get what you want so you should take it before you no longer have the opportunity. Don't make excuses and talk yourself out of it.

    Good luck and I am happy for you.

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    I dont know your schedule but is there any way you could work more shifts at work and save up for a few weeks and set an apt for your boobs for a couple months down the road? That way you will have extra money set aside for when you will be recuperating? Explain the situation to your regular and tell him you definetely are not backing out of his offer but that you have to work and hold off for a couple of months to guarantee you will not be strapped for cash while resting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    ^ Very true

    Well hubby and I had a long talk last night and I'm feeling much better about things. He understands how much this means to me and he is being just awesome about the whole thing. So from now until April (when I'm hoping to have surgery) I'm going to work my ass off. Work like I've never worked before. Hopefully make about $2000 in the next 5 or 6 wks.. I make between $800-$1000 average a week so I shouldn't have too much of a problem.
    Thanks everyone for their honesty and advice
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    Glad you two talked and worked it out!

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    I dont think it is selfish... but please please save extra money (more than 3-4 weeks) Aim for 8 weeks living expenses. If something goes wrong or some unexpected expense comes up you could end up in a hole you cant get out of. It took me a long time to recover from my surgery financially and I had all the money saved ($10k) plus ($6k) for living when I had time off and my husband does work and makes decent money and it still was very hard for us during that time off. Is your PS ok with you going after 3-4 weeks? I was not allowed to even lift my arms above my head for 6 weeks. Anyway definitely go for it, but just saying make sure your ready financially because if the unexpected does happen youll be screwed otherwise.

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