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    I've only recently started dancing. I usually start out by shaking my butt a little bit. Then I grind on their crotch backwards and turn around and do it forward. I also breath on their neck moan if I'm attracted to them etc. That is pretty much all I know how to do.

    Describe your best lap dance ever? What are some moves you love? I'd love some pointers from a customer's point of view

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    I'd had so many that I'm not sure I can pick out a "best dance". And each guy has his preferences. That being said I enjoy when a girl nuzzles my neck, kisses it lightly, nibbles on my ears, some will stick their tongue in your ear, eskimo kisses (rubbing noses) is nice as well.

    I'm a boob man so anything with the boobs is appreciated. Teasing, smothering (within reason!), and I enjoy when a girl gets on her knees and rubs her boobs on the crotch. With a large enough couch or bench some will do the boob/crotch rub from a horizontal position.

    That's about all I can think of for now! Good luck to you and keep experimenting!

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    In the very best dances the girl acts and moves like she's attracted to me and wants me sexually in a very genuine way. 1/3 of dancers don't even pretend to want me, 1/3 make some effort but you can tell they're faking it, 1/3 do a decent job, and 1-2% do an amazing job. Aside from the moves that might be construed as extras in some places, I also like eye contact, natural smiling, and moaning/panting in my ears.

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    It's all about eye contact. I spend just as much money on minimal one-way contact dances from a couple of favs in Mass clubs as I do on full two-way contact dances in RI clubs. The common denominator is eye contact and the dancer's ability to make me feel like I am the only thing that matters for those few minutes that we are together.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    It's all about eye contact. I spend just as much money on minimal one-way contact dances from a couple of favs in Mass clubs as I do on full two-way contact dances in RI clubs. The common denominator is eye contact and the dancer's ability to make me feel like I am the only thing that matters for those few minutes that we are together.
    I agree. The eye contact aspect more than equals the full-contact aspect of dances.
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    Keep in mind that realistically we realize that you are not turned on. Moans and sighs can be ok but they must be somewhat believable. Moaning in my ear fifteen seconds into the song is not going to be a good thing. You obviously need to keep in things within boundaries of your comfort level and the clubs rules. That being said and you mentioned frontal grinding...some sort of action making us believe you are enjoying it would be a positive thing. A small smile with raised eyebrow? A slight ''mmmm'' as you grind? As mentioned, eye contact is always good. Keep any compliments realistic...don't express your amazement at how fit the fat man is !! What nice hair the almost bald man has !!

    What not to do??? Had one lady years ago that had a routine and she never varied from it. It was do 'a' then do 'b' then do 'c' then do 'd' then back to 'a' and start all over again. To make matters worse...each move was for precisely the same length of time. There may only be a limited number of things you can do but vary up your routine and don't repeat in the same order or for same length of time.

    Watch some of the other ladies that are successful in your club and see what works for them. Don't copy style exactly as that can be annoying but maybe you can pick up and idea or two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raider View Post
    What not to do??? Had one lady years ago that had a routine and she never varied from it. It was do 'a' then do 'b' then do 'c' then do 'd' then back to 'a' and start all over again. To make matters worse...each move was for precisely the same length of time. There may only be a limited number of things you can do but vary up your routine and don't repeat in the same order or for same length of time.

    Very good point. Multiple moves, frequent changes, and randomness are good things.


    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    It's all about eye contact.

    Forgot that one. Real important. Real rare though. Nothing worse than a girl staring off into the heavens (or ceiling).

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    Quote Originally Posted by 59 View Post
    Very good point. Multiple moves, frequent changes, and randomness are good things.





    Forgot that one. Real important. Real rare though. Nothing worse than a girl staring off into the heavens (or ceiling).


    This.
    Remember that other customers can see you dancing and looking like you're not bored will ensure a pique of interest from them

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
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    Remember that other customers can see you dancing and looking like you're not bored will ensure a pique of interest from them
    Hah! I just got back from a club where I was having this exact conversation with one of my long-time favs. I know I always watch girls when they are giving other guys dances and the "going over my grocery list in my head" look is a real turn-off. I also watch to see how many songs a guy does with a girl on average and if she goes in to VIP a lot. If I have my eye on a girl and I see a lot of smiling faces from the guys she is dancing for I'm in!

    It's always about selling but the deal isn't done simply by getting the guy to take you to the LD area. You have to sell the fact that you are happy to be dancing for the guy both to him and to others in eye-shot.
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    Default Re: What makes a lap dance exceptional?

    Oooohh - this is a hard one. I've had so many amazing dances from so many different girls, and they were all different! If you're i Vegas, I can tell you clkubs to go to and specific dancers to get tips from, lol.

    The not-to-do's are just as important.

    Don't POUND on me. Ugh. Just had one of these the other night. I swear i thought I was going to be one massive bruise from chest to knees by the end of those 3 or 4 minutes!

    Grinding - tailor this to the customer. Some guys want it and lots of it, some don't. Read his responses to your various actions and focus on the ones that get him going.

    Eye contact - this will also vary by customer. A lot of your real SC addicts and regulars are big on it - but it intimidates some guys, too. If you're dancing for a guy that was on your rail, notice if he makes eye contact on stage. Lots of eye contact on stage probably means lots during a lapdance. little on stage, less in a dance.

    TEASE. Tease tease tease. Make it an art. Grinding isn't really teasing. The contact means so much more if there is more build up and less of it. Some guys will argue 'cuz they want all the contact, fine. But tease him, get close, etc - then the contact that IS made has the anticipation built up. Makes it MUCH better.

    Don't be boring. 'nuff said. I once had a girl that seriously sat in my lap and did a little boogie move for 3 straight minutes. REALLY?!?!

    Hair curtains. Interlaced finger drags. Back arches with your neck by their face. All good moves.

    Pay attention to him, make him feel special.

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    Default Re: What makes a lap dance exceptional?

    slow hot winds in the ear and neck
    when she runs her fingers through my hair
    when she stares into my eyes all glossy eyed with passion, not from drugs
    one girl pulled out my shirt and ran her nails up and down my back, that was hot
    one girl bit my abs, was unexpected and nice

    My advice:

    Think intimate (as in closeness), passionate, sexy, erotic, giving a gift of beauty
    Save the extras like biting abs or running nails for someone special. Someone you want to give a little extra to. And don't do it on the first dance, maybe the third or fourth.

    More than half of a good lapdance is the energy involved in my opinion, the vibe, the tone of the moment.

    Things I don't like:

    Same old dance routine, get creative.
    unpleasant smells
    constant grinding
    talking dirty or making unnatural moaning sounds when I just met you, how believable is it? It's not. Just ruins the vibe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 59 View Post
    I enjoy when a girl nuzzles my neck, kisses it lightly, nibbles on my ears, some will stick their tongue in your ear, eskimo kisses (rubbing noses) is nice as well.

    I'm a boob man so anything with the boobs is appreciated. Teasing, smothering (within reason!), and I enjoy when a girl gets on her knees and rubs her boobs on the crotch. With a large enough couch or bench some will do the boob/crotch rub from a horizontal position.
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    In the very best dances the girl acts and moves like she's attracted to me and wants me sexually in a very genuine way.
    My answer is a combination of these two (except the tongue in ear). The dancer has to be naughty and erotic, but also sensual and sweet, like she's very attracted to me.

    Stroking my ego is always appreciated. If you can say anything nice about my body, say it. Look at me with passion (I agree with others about the eye contact) and make me feel like you're dying to be my GF and to have intense passionate sex with me.

    Of course, the flipside of this is that you execute this perfectly, some naive guys will really believe it, ask for your number and get pissed of when you refuse to give it to them.
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    I got secret tricks to get them hard & it's a simple pressure point that works like magic every time. However I give the best dances by far according to many of my regulars. In fact they have picked other girls off their lap & told them that weren't doing it right after getting dances from me. I generally will line up lap dances simply from other customers watching me give a dance or their friends response to a dance they got from me. I simply make sure I smell really good usually VS very sexy which they enjoy on me & I ride the beat like a mother fcking freak -- that & I make sure I teasingly show off all my assets, but yeah I feel sorry for those guys that come in when they just turn 18 & get their 1st dance from me cuz I'm a pro lder.
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    ^ Fuck,... I got hard just reading that...

    A nice smell is critical to me, I don't know whether its perfume or moisturizing lotion,... but, I LOVE IT when a dancer smells nice. On the other hand, BO will be an instant turn-off, no matter how hot and naughty she is.
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    I've been very fortunate that I have had only a few lousy dances over the years, and those lousy dances had two main things in common - dancing for me as if I had a dick, and then attempting extra-EXTRA heavy grinding on my poor 'toris in a noble (but futile) attempt to make contact. Ouch!


    Oh, and one important thing - No glitter! EVER! EVER!

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    In our house we call body glitter "stripper herpes" - 'cuz once you get it on you, it never - EVER - really goes away completely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Almost Jaded View Post
    In our house we call body glitter "stripper herpes" - 'cuz once you get it on you, it never - EVER - really goes away completely.

    lmao - boy, you ain't kiddin'!

    I swear that I'm still brushing away that sparkly menace ever since I got a couple of dances back in February from a dancer that was literally awash in the stuff! But the dim lighting in the club, along with the fact that I was somewhat distracted by her other many attributes.....I didn't realize it until it was too late.

    It's like glitter lays it's glitter eggs on you and continues to reproduce long after you've left the club. Ten thousand showers and multiple clothes washings will do you no good - it's alive I tell you!

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    ^ I think the glitter looks great on dancers. The sparkles contributes to the glamour and/or sex goddess fantasy... But, how do you explain all the glitter on your shirt to your GF or wife?
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    Any dancer (presume newer) picking up ideas from here also needs to remember that everyone likes something different. Everyone finds something else disgusting or that might be past their personal comfort level. While guys on here mention tongue in ear or nibbling on ear...I freakin hate it. Like the ladies here with limits on what they accept, a dancer gets one warning and then we are done !! Ha ... Also, keep in mind some customers can't leave having a heavy perfume smell on them.

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    A sweet perfume scent is a subtle yet powerful platform for the dance.

    I also like it when the dancer reaches under my shirt and feels my chest and man breasts.

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    There's a few key things that always worked for me, especially since I couldn't fake sexual attraction or bring myself to do grinding.

    1) Be genuine. I always gave every guy a SINCERE compliment. Even on the fattest, smelliest dudes, if you look, you can find ONE good thing about them- even if it is just complimenting them on their cool shirt (had that happen to me).

    2) Someone mentioned nose rubs. That was key for me. Look in their eyes, smile, pat their cheek lightly, then rub nose to nose. It's an intimate gesture that seems sweet without having to do anything overtly sexual.

    3) Eye contact is VITAL, during the dance AND while proposing it.

    4) After the dance, always say thank you and hug the guy. If they declined another dance, I always said something like "Aww. Well thank you so much, I had such a good time with you! Give me some love!" and opened my arms for a hug. Trust me, they really appreciate it. Walk them at least to the door of the dance room. Quite frequently I would walk them back to their table, or I would say "I'll catch up with you after i get dressed ok?" then ALWAYS walk back to their table, squeeze their shoulder and say thanks again. You may not consider that part of the dance, but sincerely, it is. It promotes the feeling of being special, and three months before I retired, I had a man come all the way back to New Orleans from Minnesota for me because of these practices.

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    I totally agree with what mediocrity says about the genuine compliment and walking guys/gals/couples ( I personally prefer couples myself but that is another topic) back to the table or at least the door of the room/area. You would be suprised how many girls don't do that and wonder why they don't have regulars or get extra tips/dances. You basically want the person to feel like they are the ONLY people/person in the room for whatever time they are paying you for. It really does make a difference.

    If you don't know what turns your client on just ask. " So what turns you on about women the most?" "What makes a dance exceptional for you?" These are both good things to ask before the dance because they not only let you know what they are looking for but ensure your client that you want to make this experience the best you possibly can.

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    Default Re: What makes a lap dance exceptional?

    This is more aimed at after the dance..
    Do not act like it is a one and done, "Ok I got my lapdance money, I'm done with him, On to the next.."

    I hate that. Any dancer who can give me a genuine thank you afterwards and even a simple hug will reap huge benefits over the ones who will just walk away as if i'm an ATM and she has already gotten the money out (except she didn't check the entire balance before she left me, she just got a quick withdrawal, and now i'm a one and done with her LOL )

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    Quote Originally Posted by XAnastasiaX View Post
    If you don't know what turns your client on just ask. " So what turns you on about women the most?"
    Doesn't happen often but this is appreciated. Always fun when a gal tailors her dance to my likes. I'm paying, after all.


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    4)Walk them at least to the door of the dance room. Quite frequently I would walk them back to their table, or I would say "I'll catch up with you after i get dressed ok?" then ALWAYS walk back to their table, squeeze their shoulder and say thanks again. You may not consider that part of the dance, but sincerely, it is. It promotes the feeling of being special...
    Nice touch. Doesn't have to be all the way back to the table but it's a nice gesture which continues the "connection".

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    Yes I always enjoy the question, "So what is your favorite part of a woman's body?". I'm not one to direct dances right off the bat ..but everytime a dancer asks this question, I get the type of dances that I wanted, and end up getting more, which of course in turn makes her more money.

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