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    So what's wrong with being single?

    There are upsides too.

    Spontaneous. Really can come and go as you please.

    Shopping. When, where, and for as long as you like.

    Guilt free. You not leaving anybody, out of anything.

    Companionship. you can go out and find it; and come home to get away from it.

    Space. The blankets, the couch, all the shelves in the fridge are yours.

    The only hang up really is sex. Couples certainly have more sex, just by proximity. Yet, sex is out there for singles too, if only by the hour.


    So what's wrong with single?

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    Absolutely nothing.

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    I love being single. AND I get plenty of sex;P But that is easier for girls, haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lacy Luck View Post
    I love being single. AND I get plenty of sex;P But that is easier for girls, haha.
    Specially the hot ones, and being a stripper sure doesn't hurt either.

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    I'm single during the week, in a relationship during the weekend. Now that my friends, is the best of both worlds.

    But if I had to choose one, either bring the relationship back to full time, living together, or 100% single, I'd choose to be single again. It rocks.

    I have my career, hobbies, interests, great friends, my own place, own car, financial stability, etc...to keep me busy. If one doesn't have those things, I can see the greater requirement for a companion. Oh, and children, which I don't want...so, single is the best.

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    There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. I loved being single before I met Joe. It was an absolute blast.

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    Single is awesome! NO drama! And I love my AA batteries!! I watch what I watch when I watch it. Also I chat,cam, im, phone men daily. I think I can do without the physical stuff. I get paid to interact with men, I really no longer see the reason to do that for free. If someone want a companionship situation, trust me he will pay for that too. Until that time I'll enjoy my clean lavender scented sheets buuuuz buzzzzzzz heheh

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    More good stuff about being single:

    I have terrific taste in food! I can have veggies and dip for dinner, or I can cook an elaborate, delicious meal, or I can pick up the phone and have dinner delivered--and I don't have to ask anybody's permission or listen to anybody's complaints!

    I have great taste in entertainment! I can stay home and watch TV (Chicago has excellent public television--who needs cable?), or I can go to a movie or concert of my choosing. This is 2011--I don't need an escort!

    I can do whatever I please without asking anybody's permission, listening to anybody's complaints, or worrying that he's holding back his real feelings.

    And should I ever feel the need for companionship, I'l find it easily, because I'm am interesting, relaxed person who is self-confident and comfortable with her own company. (Since I'm my own best friend, I can be a very good friend and companion to someone else.)

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    Default Re: What's wrong with single?

    just got out of a one year relationship. I was on the road for about 5 months though. SO GLAD to be single again. The guy is great. Took the breakup well (it was on Sunday) and I'm happier than ever. I'm a 25 year old sexy as fuck stripper. I deserve and WANT to be able to run around after guys and do whatever I want without worrying about a guy at home.

    live the life you want to live, ladies! In my case, being single is aces. I get to be me... not part of an us. And don't get me wrong, I liked that at first. It just ran its course and now is done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grac View Post
    More good stuff about being single:

    I have terrific taste in food! I can have veggies and dip for dinner, or I can cook an elaborate, delicious meal, or I can pick up the phone and have dinner delivered--and I don't have to ask anybody's permission or listen to anybody's complaints!

    I have great taste in entertainment! I can stay home and watch TV (Chicago has excellent public television--who needs cable?), or I can go to a movie or concert of my choosing. This is 2011--I don't need an escort!

    I can do whatever I please without asking anybody's permission, listening to anybody's complaints, or worrying that he's holding back his real feelings.

    And should I ever feel the need for companionship, I'l find it easily, because I'm am interesting, relaxed person who is self-confident and comfortable with her own company. (Since I'm my own best friend, I can be a very good friend and companion to someone else.)
    All this. Ain't jack-diddly wrong with being uno. When these things come up that inhibit my selfishness, I really go "Dammit, why the fuck did I agree that we should take our friendship further?" I miss not having to answer to anyone, being able to do what the hell I want to do when I want to do it, and clean vibes. Oh how I need to clean vibes.

    I love him dearly, but being emotionally obligated to another human being is tiresome.

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    I've been single for about 2 years & was in a relationship for 16 & love it. Dating does become very expensive if your going out a couple a times a week. I have a physical relationship that is strictly fucking so that helps with needs. I do plan on doing some traveling this year & I may go by myself may find someone.

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    I love this thread and I looove being single! I love my freedom and I love being able to date different guys because they offer different experiences. Sometimes I love dating the upscale guy who takes me to plays and a nice dinner. Then other nights I love putting on a pair of sweats and a tank top and chilling at Dave and Buster's. Then most times I just wanna chill with my girls or my sisters. I am too fickle and spontaneous to settle down at this moment. Plus I've just gotten into the adult industry and really don't have time to deal with anyone else's insecurities.

    I used to be that chick that had to have a man but I realized that those were my own insecurities and that I didn't think I could be complete by myself. Now I know better and I love myself so much!! not saying there's anything wrong with being in a relationship but it's just not for me at this moment.

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    Default Re: What's wrong with single?

    I love being single!

    I love my freedom & my independence its all about me!!!

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    I don't ming being single, as long as I have a beautiful woman that takes care of me by doing all the things a good wife would do for me.
    Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
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    I'm happier now single than I was with my ex I broke up with a few months ago. He was making me feel bad about myself and sometimes feel like I was going crazy. I forgot who I was. Now I'm me again.

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    Here's what many women would see as wrong with staying single.

    1. Wanting to have kids. Yea I know these days it's more acceptable for women to have babies on their own, but many women still do not feel comfortable doing this. (kellydancer is one example) or mebbe they would but they can't afford it all by themselves. Or mebbe they can afford raising a baby on own, but can't afford the sky-high costs of adoption or infertility treatments all on their own. Adoption can cost upward of $40,000 and being single can hinder some opportunities for adopting.

    2. Not wanting to end up alone someday. This applies 3x mores if the woman is also childless, and prolly 7x mores if she's childless AND doesn't have a close suppportive family. A myriad of sociological and psychological studies show that while unwanted childlessness (I.e., infertility) can cause depression in women, by the time women hit elderly they aren't that much less content with their lives than the women who DID get to have kids...IF they're married. However, life for childless unmarried women is a lot grimmer. Those same studies also show unmarried childless senior women to be more likely to live in isolation and to lack friends or social life, and more likely to develop severe depression. But women aren't the only ones. Studies show men are just As negatively affected and then some About lack of spouse as women by elder age.

    3. Some women want sex but are opposed to risky promiscuity or being used as a "booty call". Studies also show that the people who get the most sex are ones in relationships. Also, being single and relying on booty calls has higher risks of stds (since it's not a relationship, likely the guy has other booty calls on the side) and less stability or chance of lasting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    I'm single during the week, in a relationship during the weekend. Now that my friends, is the best of both worlds.
    ^ Interesting hybrid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by penandink1019 View Post
    ^ Interesting hybrid.
    Never mind, i wish I was totally single right now after all, ha!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    Here's what many women would see as wrong with staying single.

    1. Wanting to have kids. Yea I know these days it's more acceptable for women to have babies on their own, but many women still do not feel comfortable doing this. (kellydancer is one example) or mebbe they would but they can't afford it all by themselves. Or mebbe they can afford raising a baby on own, but can't afford the sky-high costs of adoption or infertility treatments all on their own. Adoption can cost upward of $40,000 and being single can hinder some opportunities for adopting.

    2. Not wanting to end up alone someday. This applies 3x mores if the woman is also childless, and prolly 7x mores if she's childless AND doesn't have a close suppportive family. A myriad of sociological and psychological studies show that while unwanted childlessness (I.e., infertility) can cause depression in women, by the time women hit elderly they aren't that much less content with their lives than the women who DID get to have kids...IF they're married. However, life for childless unmarried women is a lot grimmer. Those same studies also show unmarried childless senior women to be more likely to live in isolation and to lack friends or social life, and more likely to develop severe depression. But women aren't the only ones. Studies show men are just As negatively affected and then some About lack of spouse as women by elder age.

    3. Some women want sex but are opposed to risky promiscuity or being used as a "booty call". Studies also show that the people who get the most sex are ones in relationships. Also, being single and relying on booty calls has higher risks of stds (since it's not a relationship, likely the guy has other booty calls on the side) and less stability or chance of lasting.
    All of the above. Most of you who are happy being single are in your 20's and being single then is great. I couldn't imagine having gotten married before 30 and almost everyone I know married mid 30's and above. However as you get older something strange happens and you realize your sense of mortality. For instance my grandparents are fading and I can't imagine them without each other. I often think of these things because while I do have a brother and sister in law and niece it's not the same as my parents or my own family. If my parents were to die while I was single I couldn't handle it. Yes I have friends too but not the same thing.

    I often do think about the elderly lady with cats and that terrifies me. I've spoken to women who never had kids and while some are happy (these tended to be women who were married) many others regret it. I suspect if I don't have kids or never marry I will regret it, even more than never reaching upper management in a job. This is why I am looking for a spouse now even if I don't marry for a few years. Trust me, many of you will understand this if you are 40 and still single. I was so anti marriage until 30 or so and the idea of having a child repulsed me. Now the opposite is true.

    Also, the fact about single men being afraid of being alone is very true and something people ignore. I often see people online and offline making comments like "if he's 40 and single he plans on staying that way". I actually disagree with them because over 90% of people will marry, yes even the most anti marriage people. In fact I just read a study that stated the average age of marriage is going up and much higher in large cities. Also, the greatest increase of new mothers is 40-44. Men actually panic just as much as women do because a 40 year old man has a lower chance of marriage then a 40 year old woman (and the myth about women have a better chance for a terrorist attack is a myth).

    What I am going to say will probably get a few upset but I am being honest. If by chance I am able to meet a never married childless man and he wants to marry and have children I will likely marry him. I hope that he is my dream soulmate and that I am in love with him. However, I realize there might be a possibility I don't love him but like him. I hope it doesn't come to this but it might.

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    nothing is wrong with being single. the people who make you feel bad about being single are the same people who are desperately afraid of being alone.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    I love my single life.

    I was just thinking today how much it would suck if I had to give up my freedoms.

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    Kelly, I agree with you. I read studies that confirm what you say about some childless women feeling okay if they're married, but others feeling resentful. I also read studies about how terribly infertility ruins marriages and especially sex lives.

    My girl friend is 27 and single. Same chick with that jerk bf who was an emotional android, made her buy herself her own drinks on their date, then made her leave before she even had a chance to drink the drink she bought. Over a yr later she still hasnt been able to date anyone since. She loves kitties and constantly blogs her big fears about becoming the crazy cat lady someday. A
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    Also. You mention how bad it would be to be childless, single, and have parents die. I have another friend who IS childless + motherless. She's been baby obsessed for yrs now. Shes younger than you, turning 30, but she resents that she's the same age her mom was with 2 kids, yet has nothing. No kids, no marriage, no mom. Her life is grim. On top of all that, she got surprise pregnant only a few short months after her moms death and people kept nagging her to abort even tho she was in her mid 20s and very self sufficient. They also gave unwarranted putdowns to the baby's dad. She ended up miscarrying from all the stress from others. That experience made her baby obsessed, But the miscarriage also made her infertile. Each yr her baby obsession grows to bigger and bigger levels. It's at the point that it's a bit unhealthy. It all started becuz of a miscarriage during the grieving period of her moms death.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kthnx View Post
    Kelly, I agree with you. I read studies that confirm what you say about some childless women feeling okay if they're married, but others feeling resentful. I also read studies about how terribly infertility ruins marriages and especially sex lives.

    My girl friend is 27 and single. Same chick with that jerk bf who was an emotional android, made her buy herself her own drinks on their date, then made her leave before she even had a chance to drink the drink she bought. Over a yr later she still hasnt been able to date anyone since. She loves kitties and constantly blogs her big fears about becoming the crazy cat lady someday. A
    Lot.
    I have too, especially one about divorce after infertility is really high. I can see why since stress does a lot in life. At 27 I wasn't worried about being a cat lady, not until I was 35 or so but it is scary. It's especially scary when you see people 10+ younger getting married and wondering if you missed your chance. I think this is why I waited for him because then I wouldn't have to actually date others. Since he's gone looks like I have to start looking which means hundreds of dates with losers before I can find one passable guy I might like.

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    yeah. i'm happiest being single. sure, i'd love to find the right guy, but i'm not really in the mood to dredge through the wrong ones right now. so single it is. it's going quite well.

    but there's the sex issue. i'm not too big on gambling. masturbation is a sure thing. most guys aren't. and even if they're good, i'd still probably get myself off better, and i don't have to worry about my hand not answering my call when i'm in the mood. i sure could go for some great sex with a dude though. that'd be nice. oh well.

    i used to be bummed about not having someone to sleep with, like sleep sleep. then i got a body pillow. best money i've ever spent. it's soft, doesn't snore, and my arm doesn't go numb if it ends up under the pillow. and no dramaz. no idea why i didn't get one sooner.

    everything else about being single is pretty awesome.
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    I'm just glad i'm not stuck in a dead end relationship with a shitty fkn guy. Therefore, single is great. No drama & anxiety bullshit.

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