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    As a lot of you read on the board, I lost my boyfriend to cancer last week (thanks again to everyone who expressed the sympathies, I really appreciate it ). Up until now, he was my main motivation: make money to be able to afford flying back and forth to be with him. Now...well, now that's not neccessary anymore, but I still have rent due in a couple of weeks, need to pay some uni fees, need money to live, et cetera. Sadly the world didn't decide to stop and acknowledge my pain and all the mundane stuff are still as they were. Sure, I could lay in my bed and play dead for the next couple of months, but...he'd hate that. He wanted me to have an amazing life and it'd be a huge disappointment to him if I ruined my life because of sadness.

    I need motivation and encouragement BAD. I think part of me is really afraid that it will trigger something in me since I spent a whole lot time with him on webcam, chatting, getting naked and cooking...whatever.

    How do I get myself back to work, ladies? How do I get dressed up and play sexy and flirt and smile? It's beyond my comprehension! Help!

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    Default Re: Motivate me!

    Well, as you know, I'm kinda in the same boat, (my friend) + I am still not over a fam member, + some other stuff.
    Give yourself some time for starters? Maybe ease into it, a little bit, or do some other stuff?
    Anyway, best of luck to you, take care.


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    Misty and Whirlez! **BIG HUGS**


    Misty, I didnt see your thread about this! Im so sorry sweetheart! Just give your self some time if you think thats what you need. What about doing some Mygirlfund pic sets or videos? I can usually make $150 in a day just selling a stupid 9 min lotion video to a few guys. Its not too involved and you dont have to be "on" that much.

    Or mabey even jump on cam to get your mind off of it since distractions can be good too. You dont have to get naked if you feel like its gonna be weird. Not sure if you cam on MFC but if you do mabey set your room topic to something like...tell me a joke and cheer me up. What about naked yoga? Exercise might be good for you? Im going to try to think of some more stuff for you.

    Hang in there girl. Your bf would want you to be able to pay your rent woman

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    Misty my heart just sank... I said a little prayer for you

    I agree with cherrie, maybe sitting on MFC and just distracting yourself and even just talking and getting to know the guys and maybe a new newbies could help. you would be surprised how many guys love to sit and talk. taking care of you is most important right now.

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    Oh god. I'm sending warmth & love your way.

    Definitely keeping yourself busy can be a good remedy to stave off depression (at least for me). But I think it's also important to take care of yourself, treat yourself to good things. Your favorite comfort food, a long massage, whatever it is that makes you feel safe and pampered.

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    Remember to let the airline know your flying for a funeral (i know this is the last thing on your mind and super morbid) but it will greatly reduce the cost of your airfare.

    And the best thing you can do is keep busy, have a friend on speed dial for those times you just need to rant and dont make any crazy abrupt changes to your life.

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    I am very sorry for both of your losses.
    I think it would help to ease into it as somebody else said and doing little things that make you feel good/sexy/motivated. Like exercising, mani/pedi, professional pictures by an awesome photographer. These things will also keep you busy so you don't fall into a pit of depression/laziness which is definitely no healthy. Maybe work on content for a day or so and post all your new sexy pics and videos and then proceed back to work, Hopefully your content will sell soon after so you can be less stressed out about working in front of a cam. I believe after scanning what other's said real quick someone said MFG, I also think that would be a good option. Take time for you! Do something you enjoy like a hot bath with essential oils and candles or a massage or a walk in the park! (Spring is starting and just hearing birds chirping outside helps pull me out of a funk)

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    I tend to fall into unmotivated spells a lot... honestly the thing that has helped me the most is to JUST DO IT. Even if I feel like shit, or I think my makeup sucks, or I'm upset about something... just do it. I tell myself, "Okay, I'm just gonna sign on and do ONE private. Just one. It can't be that hard..."

    Usually once I do the first private, I realize how easy it is ... and it becomes easier to keep going and do another one.

    I know you're in a very difficult situation right now, so I'd maybe take it really slow... do one private and if you don't feel comfortable with it, just sign off. I would also take some pics and record some movies so you can make a bit of money without being on camera. I don't know if you can sign up to MyGirlFund in your country but it's a great way to make decent money without having to go on webcam if you don't want to. I've been spending a lot of time on that site and it's pretty easy to make $100 / day without too much effort.

    *hugs* I hope you feel better soon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MistyRose View Post
    Sure, I could lay in my bed and play dead for the next couple of months, but...he'd hate that. He wanted me to have an amazing life and it'd be a huge disappointment to him if I ruined my life because of sadness.
    (((hugs)))

    Maybe it will help to remind yourself that he wanted you to thrive and to do the best you can to find ways to have that amazing life.

    I try to think of myself as an actress playing a part on days when I'm just not feeling it at all. Maybe just promise yourself you will get on for 15 minutes and see how it goes. Sometimes I find the hardest part is getting started.

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    *hugs* Everyone here is sending you lots of love, I'm sure!

    I agree with putting up some content on MGF (or maybe VLA?) and then taking some time for yourself.
    Actually, yeah, put stuff on VLA, because then you don't even have to be there to sell the stuff, you just upload and go.
    That way, you've still got an income, you're still working on cam stuff, but you can ease into it, and take the time to look after yourself. Maybe once you have some money from that coming in, you'll feel up for more cam work.


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    Yeah, I've been wondering how you'll be getting along. Ah, well, my thoughts

    You should put the freakiest nastiest videos possible on c4s.
    Farts,
    Balloons
    Pour cereal on yourself.
    Giantess
    feet in mud


    And then just let those sell for your rent to be paid.

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    I'm sorry about your loss )-:

    As far as the practical side goes, perhaps do a couple of video clips and sell them on AW? my friend does well from this and you won't have to be "on" all the time x

    Or some pics on mgf or aw?

    I know the feeling, just have to try and find a balance between making the necessary money and taking care of yourself especially at this time xx

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    Sending you much love.

    I also vote for working on content

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    Ladies, THANK YOU. You're wonderful. *grouphug*

    I wanted to go work on AW a little but I realized I just wasn't ready tonight. Maybe tomorrow is a better day for me, but today sucked hard for me and I cried a lot and it wasn't an option. However, getting evicted won't improve my life quality now, nor would getting kicked out of uni, so I'll have to work eventually. It's WORK, after all. I don't have savings yet to carry me on a bit, so it's a must, which is exactly why I needed you lovely girls to pick me up. Plus, I agree with what some of you said, staying busy might actually be helpful.

    I checked MGF, I can sign up, and I'll definitely do so and dedicate about two days to shooting pics and movies (love the suggestions, bun, thx) and upload everywhere I can. Will check out VLA, too. I'll also try to just kick my pale ass, glue my eyelash on and make an effort to put in some hours. Who knows...maybe it'll really distract my mind a little!

    I know it has to be done and I know I can't stop living, it just isn't easy. Thank you everyone, I'm so grateful for pushing me forward.

    P.S. I found it so funny that we all use these acronyms like...AW, SM, MGF, MFC, VLA...without thinking twice and to everyone outside camworld they don't mean squat. Silly, but it amuses me. I'm a simple gal.

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    Well, boohoo. MGF won't let me sign up because of my location and c4s, from what I see on the site, offers checks and wire transfer (Checks are hugely impractical and I'd wait for them to clear forever, and I can't use wire transfer). I guess it's just gonna have to be my regular stint.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MistyRose View Post
    Well, boohoo. MGF won't let me sign up because of my location and c4s, from what I see on the site, offers checks and wire transfer (Checks are hugely impractical and I'd wait for them to clear forever, and I can't use wire transfer). I guess it's just gonna have to be my regular stint.
    are you in europe?

    p.s. i'm so sorry to hear about your loss. i know we dont know each other but if you ever need someone to talk to about what you are going through please dont hesitate to contact me

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    I would email support Misty. Ive seen girls from Italy, England, and Russia on the MGF. I think they will make exceptions. I think they are just trying to avoid studio girls. Dont forget about VLA, its just like MGF. **hugs** Let us know if you need any more smacks on the ass to get you motivated

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    my condolances <3 *hugs*
    email tech guy on MGF- i live in holland and he let me sign up.

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