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  • single kiss

    12 28.57%
  • peck on the cheek

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  • full-on make out

    8 19.05%
  • hug

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    This survey is for women: At the end of a good first date with a guy you're attracted to and want to see again, which of these do you prefer:
    (1) a single kiss;
    (2) a peck on the cheek;
    (3) full-on make out;
    (4) a hug; or
    (5) sex.

    According to survey of 200 women by Men's Health magazine, these were their findings:
    (1) a single kiss - 52%
    (2) a peck on the cheek - 23%
    (3) full-on make out - 8%
    (4) a hug - 15%
    (5) sex - 2%
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    Default Re: Kiss After First Date

    I guess it depends on the guy, the situation, and how good the date actually was. And was this a blind date, or have you known the guy for forever and shit finally started happening? If it's the latter, I'd probably be up for the mattress rumba.

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    Depends on the situation. If it's someone I am just meeting, nothing, not even a peck on the cheek. If it's someone I've known a bit longer it depends. When I dated my last guy I French kissed him on the first date but generally I don't do that until awhile.
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    If Im REALLY attracted to him, and do want to see him again, and the date went great. Then I'd like to make-out with him or a kiss. A peak on the cheek and a hug usually was always included (if things are comfy). But it truely depends on the guy, on me, and the situation, I've had dates that went to just to a hug or to sex.

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    Default Re: Kiss After First Date

    Usually, if it's been a pleasant (or better) time, then either a peck on the cheek and a gentle hug...or a single kiss and a hug.
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    If a first date is good, I am more than willing to have sex. If the sex is good, then it's worth putting some time into a relationship. If the sex is not good, no amount of time spent on the relationship will ever make it worthwhile.

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    Default Re: Kiss After First Date

    I said peck on the cheek.
    Honestly... men who try to fuck me on the first date... don't get a second one. Most of the time it comes across like they only bothered to take you to dinner because they thought they were getting their dick wet as a reward for spending $50.
    If they want someone they can buy sex from with dinner... let 'em go find her. It sure the fuck isn't me.
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    It depends on so much. If I barely know him, say we just met off a dating site, then hug. If we have been flirting for a while and this is the first date, then make out.

    And then there is the naughty girl truth. Every guy I have ever been CRAZY about, I either wanted to or did bone on the first date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    I said peck on the cheek.
    Honestly... men who try to fuck me on the first date... don't get a second one. Most of the time it comes across like they only bothered to take you to dinner because they thought they were getting their dick wet as a reward for spending $50.
    If they want someone they can buy sex from with dinner... let 'em go find her. It sure the fuck isn't me.
    This is exactly how I feel. I've dated way too many guys who think if they spend $50+ on a dinner then I'll fuck them. They get mad when I don't. I assume these guys just want sex and not a relationship. This is why when I have a first date with someone I really don't know well (or just meeting) I want to go cheap. When I did internet dating (and am considering it again) I would meet the guys for a predate drink and try to get there early so they didn't feel obligated to buy it. That way if a predate didn't lead to a date (and most didn't) then there was not a lot of money spent.

    Younger women who sleep with guys on the first date (I admit I've done this in the past) often don't realize that waiting to have sex is the best indicator of whether they want a relationship or just sex. If they just want sex then you'll know (and this is fine if all you want is sex). Yes they can leave at anytime, but usually guys who want a relationship will be patient and wait for sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I've dated way too many guys who think if they spend $50+ on a dinner then I'll fuck them.
    It's like a disease in LA... over 50% of the dates I went on before meeting my SO ended with basically "Okay, we had dinner, where do you want to go for the sex?" like... REALLY?
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    I had that problem doing online. That's why I switched to predates and when they even bring it up I tell them no way is sex included until it's a serious relationship. I am not making the mistake again where I sleep too early with a man. If I just want sex I'll go to one of my potential FWBs. Of course this is likely why most of these guys never call for another date but good riddance.

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    As a guy I will say that I look for class in a woman first & that goes back to how you carry yourself. I've had sex on the first date & I ended up marring her after many years of courtship. Now that I'm single I've had sex on the first date & what I'm noticing is I put women in categories of fun girl or quality. I've met many fun girls & just a few quality.

    If I see her as quality I usually just go for the hug because I don't want to fuck it up. The prize would be a quality woman that likes to fuck & that is why I married my ex...lol

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    Probably the most romantic relationship I've had in the past five years started with a casual date that nearly ended with a kiss (we both wanted it) but I basically ran off, scared by the level of feeling. (We joked about this after we started dating.) The day we finally slept together started romantically, too, with us falling into bed and silently looking into each other's eyes for what seemed hours, as our respective friends called our cell phones, which remained unanswered across the room as night fell. She was an interesting, accomplished and beautiful woman, but she was rebounding with me from the abusive, rich alcoholic she'd been dating. Yup, you guessed it. After she dumped me, she went back to him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    As a guy I will say that I look for class in a woman first & that goes back to how you carry yourself. I've had sex on the first date & I ended up marring her after many years of courtship. Now that I'm single I've had sex on the first date & what I'm noticing is I put women in categories of fun girl or quality. I've met many fun girls & just a few quality.

    If I see her as quality I usually just go for the hug because I don't want to fuck it up. The prize would be a quality woman that likes to fuck & that is why I married my ex...lol
    So in other words, the whole "some girls you sleep with, others you marry?". I know many guys who do that and I have as well. Some guys are just fun to sleep with but I wouldn't marry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    So in other words, the whole "some girls you sleep with, others you marry?". I know many guys who do that and I have as well. Some guys are just fun to sleep with but I wouldn't marry.
    At my age I don't play games anymore. The focus isn't about getting laid but about finding quality. In the mean time you meet people & have fun & if you set the right expectations nobody gets hurt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    Now that I'm single I've had sex on the first date & what I'm noticing is I put women in categories of fun girl or quality. I've met many fun girls & just a few quality.
    I agree with the general concept, but I think using "quality" for more serious dates might seem to imply that the "fun girls" lack quality. I've had very high quality "fun girls" in my life, but long-term compatibility didn't exist - so it remained casual. I'm sure you've experienced the same thing.

    Also, your "fun girl or quality" classification might be interpreted to suggest that your "quality" girls are not as much fun as the "fun girls".

    I think a better classification system would be "casual/short-term or strong compatibility/long-term potential". I don't think this would hurt anyone's feelings.

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    No feelings, hurt I was being very general in my descriptions. My definition of quality is more of the lines of things I'm looking for in a long term relationship. Fun would be more of we can go out & have a good time but that's about it & that's what I'm finding. I think I'm just like the movie 50 first dates.

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    Usually if the date had gone well, I would have kissed him far before the date was over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zofia View Post
    If a first date is good, I am more than willing to have sex. If the sex is good, then it's worth putting some time into a relationship. If the sex is not good, no amount of time spent on the relationship will ever make it worthwhile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lacy Luck View Post
    It depends on so much. If I barely know him, say we just met off a dating site, then hug. If we have been flirting for a while and this is the first date, then make out.

    And then there is the naughty girl truth. Every guy I have ever been CRAZY about, I either wanted to or did bone on the first date.
    Yup. I honestly can't think of a boyfriend I've ever had that I waited more than a week for sex. Most happened on the first date hehe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
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    Yup. I honestly can't think of a boyfriend I've ever had that I waited more than a week for sex. Most happened on the first date hehe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    I agree with the general concept, but I think using "quality" for more serious dates might seem to imply that the "fun girls" lack quality. I've had very high quality "fun girls" in my life, but long-term compatibility didn't exist - so it remained casual. I'm sure you've experienced the same thing.

    Also, your "fun girl or quality" classification might be interpreted to suggest that your "quality" girls are not as much fun as the "fun girls".

    I think a better classification system would be "casual/short-term or strong compatibility/long-term potential". I don't think this would hurt anyone's feelings.

    Just saying...
    I never understood this. Why cant a "fun' girl have sex with a guy within a short amout of time and still be a quality girl? My ex even said that to me "Dont jump in bed quickly with the next guy you date, cause it wont end up being serious like us." What if a girl prefers to jump right into bed but still remains a good partner, is that so hard to find from girls or is it just a guys thinking she's cant be in a long term relationship?

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    ^ I agree just cause you are sexually free doesnt mean you cant do long term relationships. If I knew the guy already but this was our first date and I really liked him, I would just follow the mood of the night. If the mood was horny, then bring it. A single kiss is a little too tame for me and Ive been in a 8 year relationship and 7 year relationship.

    If it was a guy I just met, I probably wouldnt feel comfortable having sex, but you never know, if there is a connection there I wouldnt hold back for the sake of appearing serious. Im only myself... like it or loath it, Im not going to pretend to be someone else. Even on a first date.

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    ^ Generally, if (A) I'm having a great time with a woman, (B) we're both sexually attracted to each other, and (B) neither of us wants to get serious (i.e., neither of us is looking for a serious relationship or its apparent that we're not compatible for a long-term relationship), then, the pressure and insecurity goes away, and we can advance right into sex.

    On the other hand, if I am out on a date with someone that is potentially my "soulmate", I feel a lot of pressure and insecurity and have to be on my very best behavior. I don't want to risk screwing up a shot with the "perfect" girl by being too sexually aggressive. Go back and read DesuvsDeath's comments. I am going to act like a "gentleman", and not like a desperate and horny PL.

    Having said that,... if she rips my clothes off, jumps on my stick and proceeds to fuck my brains out,... I am not going to stop her - because that would be rude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    I said peck on the cheek.
    Honestly... men who try to fuck me on the first date... don't get a second one. Most of the time it comes across like they only bothered to take you to dinner because they thought they were getting their dick wet as a reward for spending $50.
    If they want someone they can buy sex from with dinner... let 'em go find her. It sure the fuck isn't me.
    Yes! this is me exactly! In my younger days(not that I'm that old now, But when i was less sure of myself) I did have sex on a first 'date' ect. but I have too much respect nowadays for myself to do that, no disrespect to anyone who acts differently, believe me I'v been there, we all have prob. but I have found for my personally I end up looking like for lack of a better word a 'skank' when I screw someone on the first date, it never works

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    I never understood this. Why cant a "fun' girl have sex with a guy within a short amout of time and still be a quality girl? My ex even said that to me "Dont jump in bed quickly with the next guy you date, cause it wont end up being serious like us." What if a girl prefers to jump right into bed but still remains a good partner, is that so hard to find from girls or is it just a guys thinking she's cant be in a long term relationship?
    That really is the ultimate prize to have a quality woman that you have high respect for that can express herself sexually. Sex doesn't disqualify quality or define fun the term of the relationship does.

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