How do you deal with people assuming they know “how the club works” when they couldn’t be more wrong in some cases? For instance, the other night I sat next to a guy who wouldn’t tip anyone that came around after getting off stage. He finally said to me, “I think it’s so rude to ask for tips. I would rather they ask for a dance because at least then they’re being paid to do something. I don’t think girls should be allowed to ask for tips.” In my small club, every girl there makes more in tips than dances. There have been nights were girls didn’t get any dances but made over $200 in tips. I tried explaining this to him as briefly and politely as possible, but he just kept going on about how it was “rude” to ask for tips and “it shouldn’t be allowed.” (Btw, after all his talk about how it would be better for girls to ask for dances, he never got a single dance from any girl who asked… ugh) He’s just one example of the kind of guy, who we get a lot in my club, who likes to whine about “why can’t you girls just sit and be chill? Why can’t you just be real instead of looking at us as ‘dollar signs’?” I just really don’t know how to respond to these sorts of statements without a long-winded, bitchy rant about this being our job.
I also had a friend come in and see me once with her male cousin, and while I was sitting with them, girls would come up asking for tips, and her cousin would awkwardly turn them down, looking like he felt bad. My friend turned to him and said “If you don’t want to tip them, just say so. They get rejected all the time – it’s no big deal.” Yeeeah, to an extent that’s true, but I don’t promote sitting there watching all the girls on stage and then saying “no, I don’t want to tip you,” while assuming that it’s “no big deal” to the dancer. I didn’t really know what to say to her without seeming like I was getting bitchy and on a high-horse.
Idk, I guess in general, I feel like when I “correct” people, I just come across as preachy/bitchy/angry. But then again, I don’t want to sit there, letting stupid customers believe stupid things about how the club works.



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