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    Deleted... Crazy momment.

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    Default Re: What to do about sex life?

    i wouldnt feel bad about going to bars to find a no strings attatched sexual encounter. ive never had this issue, but i go out a lot...

    i guess if you are opposed to going out, a dating service? ok cupid maybe?
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
    customer: we should get married right now! we should get a shotgun marriage!
    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: What to do about sex life?

    You need a fuck buddy that is not your ex boyfriend. Exes are good for the occasional romp, but you can't keep acting like you are still in a relationship with him.

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    First of all, STOP sleeping with your ex! Don't try to seduce him anymore, you're letting him have unneccessary power over you. Am I reading correctly that you two no longer live together? I hope you are apart for your sake. You need to move on.

    If you're opposed to going to bars, meeting people through friends, or asking a friend to be a fuckbuddy, I would definitely recommend Okcupid. The only problem you will have is you are so hot the guys will be lining up trying to talk to you (I've seen your pictures girl).
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    Default Re: What to do about sex life?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    Reason 2, He knows me, what I like etc, new person wont know, I feel akward the first time. Is this how it works, or am I just akward on sex overall?
    What if you reframe this anxiety (quite natural, by the way) into excitement about exploring the unknown? Go West, young lady! (Expanding on this directional metaphor: Don't go South immediately with any new guy. Instead, go North! Explore his mind, and if that pleases you, commence a nice roadtrip headed South together.)

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    I have a physical relationship that I met online that's been working for me. I was very upfront that I am seeing other people & that let her know that we weren't serious. I have noticed that when I do go out on new dates the pressure of sex isn't there because I know I can get laid. The down side is I have noticed she is getting attached & at some point feelings will be hurt. I have a killer hotel booked for tonight down town for some room service.

    The only rule we have is respect each others time together & don't bring drama.....a adult relationship.

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    Have you tried just telling the guys what you want? getting a woman off isn't exactly an exact science. It's more like knowing the combination to a lock, you might know a lot of combinations but that sure as hell doesn't guarantee you are opening a particular lock.

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    Default Re: What to do about sex life?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
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    As sad it sounds, that seems too much work hah! I dont want to get to know them, I couldnt careless... but if that will help will the anxiety I guess I will have to.
    From a systems standpoint, you get out what you put in. One-nighters can be exciting in the same way that screaming on an empty beach can be novel and exciting. But like any solo performance, it gets old pretty quick.

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    That sucks hon, i can see how guys would get obsessed over you.

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    Do you have any platonic friends who may go for it? There were times when I didn't want a relationship but was extremely horny. I had a couple of male friends that helped me. However, the biggest problem is when someone develops feelings, and this happened when a few wanted me as a girlfriend. If you are both on the same page it works perfectly.

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    ^^^Sometimes you just want to tell people to shut the fuck up!

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    Wow I was reading and whooo what was that ? I think someone has a stalker on this thread.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr-Popsicle View Post
    Especially when they go on and on about how important their religion is and they don't even follow it.
    Where has she judged anybody...or tried to sway someones beliefs? You are judging her...Who are you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    Where has she judged anybody...or tried to sway someones beliefs? You are judging her...Who are you?
    I have to ask, since I don't see that post, but who were they talking to? If that post was intended for me (and I wonder since I have made my religious views clear)then first off, I don't do that now. I did it mostly years ago before I went back to church. Second, I don't find anything wrong with sex. Third, no I don't care how others live, I just care how I live, and that involves finding a mate who feels the same. This is NOT the same thing as judging people. I am not judging men who have different views, our views don't mesh for a relationship.

    Actually I wish I had known who Mr Popsicle was talking to, because if it was me I would give him a piece of my mind. Since the post is deleted I have no way of knowing unless someone can tell me. Just because someone follow a religion doesn't mean they believe all the views, or that they are a prude.

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    It was you, don't waste your time responding to a troll please.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    It was you, don't waste your time responding to a troll please.
    I figured as such. Probably the alt of another poster (I have a few I suspect)who has nothing to do (including never being able to have sex).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I have to ask, since I don't see that post, but who were they talking to? If that post was intended for me (and I wonder since I have made my religious views clear)then first off, I don't do that now. I did it mostly years ago before I went back to church. Second, I don't find anything wrong with sex. Third, no I don't care how others live, I just care how I live, and that involves finding a mate who feels the same. This is NOT the same thing as judging people. I am not judging men who have different views, our views don't mesh for a relationship.

    Actually I wish I had known who Mr Popsicle was talking to, because if it was me I would give him a piece of my mind. Since the post is deleted I have no way of knowing unless someone can tell me. Just because someone follow a religion doesn't mean they believe all the views, or that they are a prude.
    If I recall correctly you were currently suggesting to someone to just have sex with some friend. That does not fall into my understanding of what the Roman Catholic church teaches. You can't pick and choose what you want to follow if you are a Catholic. You must follow all of it. I erased the posts but you want to keep it going. I only posted things because you are so outspoken about your religion. Just my opinion but you are a real hypocrit. Whatevr I don't care. I'm sure if you talk to a priest he will agree with me.

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    You keep talking as if your opinion mattered, you should fix that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr-Popsicle View Post
    If I recall correctly you were currently suggesting to someone to just have sex with some friend. That does not fall into my understanding of what the Roman Catholic church teaches. You can't pick and choose what you want to follow if you are a Catholic. You must follow all of it. I erased the posts but you want to keep it going. I only posted things because you are so outspoken about your religion. Just my opinion but you are a real hypocrit. Whatevr I don't care. I'm sure if you talk to a priest he will agree with me.
    But she's not Catholic (or I don't think so). I am no hypocrite because I am not on here preaching to how people should act. I don't care how they act because it doesn't pertain to me, unless it deals with financial reasons like welfare because that does pertain to me. I'm not even sure how I'm even that outspoken about my religion unless you are talking about my refusal to date divorced dads. I think that's the only time it comes up. Once again not sure how that pertains to the op since as far as I know she's not Catholic.

    You seem to know quite bit too much about me, which leads me to believe you are the alt of someone else. Either that or maybe you were one of the divorced men I rejected from a dating site. You need to get over what I say and perhaps look for other things to do. I went back and looked for your posts and all the others are about me as well. Very suspicious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    You keep talking as if your opinion mattered, you should fix that.
    Why doesn't my opinin matter? Everyone posts their opinion on here even people like you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    But she's not Catholic (or I don't think so). I am no hypocrite because I am not on here preaching to how people should act. I don't care how they act because it doesn't pertain to me, unless it deals with financial reasons like welfare because that does pertain to me. I'm not even sure how I'm even that outspoken about my religion unless you are talking about my refusal to date divorced dads. I think that's the only time it comes up. Once again not sure how that pertains to the op since as far as I know she's not Catholic.

    You seem to know quite bit too much about me, which leads me to believe you are the alt of someone else. Either that or maybe you were one of the divorced men I rejected from a dating site. You need to get over what I say and perhaps look for other things to do. I went back and looked for your posts and all the others are about me as well. Very suspicious.
    It does not matter if she is Catholic or not! You Really need to talk to a priest. You are not giving Catholic advice.

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    I'll remember that. I'll make sure to tell those having gay relationships or abortion that they aren't doing the right thing because of my religion. Next time a Wiccan, atheist or a Pagan posts about their views I'll remember to tell them they are going to hell because I believe in Jesus and they don't.

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    Kelly don't even give this guy a minute of your time. He obviously has a hard-on for you or the church...probably a priest that likes little boys or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I'll remember that. I'll make sure to tell those having gay relationships or abortion that they aren't doing the right thing because of my religion. Next time a Wiccan, atheist or a Pagan posts about their views I'll remember to tell them they are going to hell because I believe in Jesus and they don't.
    Well if they say they are going to say they will sacrifice some
    one for witchcraft I hope you will try to talk them out of it as a so called professed Catholic who follows her religion. But you tell someone to fuck a random friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by unbeleavable View Post
    Kelly don't even give this guy a minute of your time. He obviously has a hard-on for you or the church...probably a priest that likes little boys or something.
    I'm just saying of she is going to preach on behalf of the catholic church that she should at least know the basics of her alleged purprted beliefs. She seems to use the church for an excuse for her own shortcomings.

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