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    Angry DJ cussed me out!!!!

    K so last night (saturday) i left at 12:30 (i always leave early not sure why...maybe i get restless/bored etc) and when i came out and tipped the front door the dj was talking shit about me w/ the front guy and a customer!!! And then when he saw me he talked shit to me saying i always leave ryt aftr i do my certain number of dances so to avoid having to pay any fees etc...And he got mad cuz there were lyk 8 girls and was pretty packed... funny asshole...the owner and the bouncers and the guy who is in charge of the girls and lap dances and bartender didn't get mad nor cuss/talk shit to me...
    He cussed me out and said dnt fuckn come wen he works which is 3 nights a week and to fuckin leave. I shoulda talkd shit bak and socked him. Who the hell is
    he to get all mad n say shit whether i leave or not he has no right/position to talk to me lyk that. Ryt?
    idk if he gets any cut from the dancer's payouts but nevertheless, he still shouldn't disrespect me like that when even the owner never cuss/talk to me or any of the girls in that manner. I sent the owner a text message telling him what happened but i haven't gotten a response back from him what should i do?? Let it go and forget it? Do/should i just go there even when he is dj ing and act like nothing happened, or bring it up to dj and demand/ask apology or why did he get psychotic like that?? or bring it up with owner and if owner doesn't talk to dj and have him apologize to me, then just forget about that shit club altogether???
    plesase help!! i really am upset about this whole thing cuz nobody ever talked to me like that and he don't even know me well enough like that to do that
    i wonder if it was any other dancer, would they have talked shit back or something

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Nuclear Martini View Post
    Bring it up with a manager before you bring it up with the owner. This DJ stepped out of line, you should NEVER have to put up with this at work.


    there's no manager! only owner and bouncer...

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    but i wonder why owner hasn't like responded back to me; could it be that he doesn't care??? even if i decide not to work there anymore, i still feel disrespected and can't let this go and one way or another that fool needs to say sorry or something...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kourtney View Post
    do you work in socal? if so, what club was this at?
    yes in pasadena/arcadia

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    Do you have to tip the d.j. on top of your house fee? If so, are you paying him before you leave. You should also find out if he's getting a cut of your dances. Either way, I would just go in and ignore him. If he plays crap music, ignore that, too. Act like your really enjoying it. As long as he's getting paid, it shouldn't matter when you leave. If the club is so bad that you get fed up and leave, you may want to just go somewhere else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Courtesan View Post
    Do you have to tip the d.j. on top of your house fee? If so, are you paying him before you leave. You should also find out if he's getting a cut of your dances. Either way, I would just go in and ignore him. If he plays crap music, ignore that, too. Act like your really enjoying it. As long as he's getting paid, it shouldn't matter when you leave. If the club is so bad that you get fed up and leave, you may want to just go somewhere else.
    no actually, this club is really laid back and less strict! It's not mandatory that we tip out anyone, but of course it's kinda etiquette? I did only give him a buck cuz i only had 20s on me and didn't feel like getting change; i normally give him like $4 at the most so if it's cuz he only got a buck one time i don't get why he went off! And ur right, it got me thinking, maybe he does get a cut of our dances...but it's weird! Cuz he never did that when i always left before...

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    but am i supposed to just let him talk to me like that and not expect him to apologize to me? then he and the front door etc gonna think that he can disrespect me and embarrass me and i don't even stick up for myself!! i really hate all this BS drama

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    You should probably give him a little more than that. Even if the club is laid back and it isn't a big deal, I would give him a minimum of $10 if I've made some money. I'm use to tipping the d.j. $15. $10 seems fair, especially if it isn't required. Not tipping him because you didn't feel like getting change isn't a really good reason for only giving him $1, or even $4. You could have gotten change from him. Also, find out what the other dancers are giving him.

    Personally, I wouldn't expect an apology. From my experiences, club staff doesn't feel like they owe you, the dancer, anything. Most of them are known for their disrespectful attitudes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Courtesan View Post
    You should probably give him a little more than that. Even if the club is laid back and it isn't a big deal, I would give him a minimum of $10 if I've made some money. I'm use to tipping the d.j. $15. $10 seems fair, especially if it isn't required. Not tipping him because you didn't feel like getting change isn't a really good reason for only giving him $1, or even $4. You could have gotten change from him. Also, find out what the other dancers are giving him.

    Personally, I wouldn't expect an apology. From my experiences, club staff doesn't feel like they owe you, the dancer, anything. Most of them are known for their disrespectful attitudes.
    well i don't feel like i owe him and regardless he has no right or is in no position to talk to me like that; not even the owner or anybody else has a shitty attitude like that

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    Quote Originally Posted by angelnaila View Post
    well i don't feel like i owe him and regardless he has no right or is in no position to talk to me like that; not even the owner or anybody else has a shitty attitude like that

    p.s. Well then so i guess that means the next time i go to work, i can/should go up to him and start talking shit loud and cuss him out too then

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    Of course you don't owe him and no he shouldn't be cussing you out. I would just find out what the club etiquette is and follow that. Is the club paying him, or is he being paid strictly from tips from the dancers? If he only gets paid from the dancers, it would be only fair that you tip him more. Just talk to the other dancers, if the owner doesn't respond and find out what they do.

    I'm not sure how long you've been at this club, but when I first started dancing, I would leave early all of the time. I thought I could come and go as I pleased. I would get tired of being there and just walk out. I wouldn't even tell anyone. I thought because I was an independent contractor, this was allowed. Eventually, the manager confronted me, but no one ever told me differently.

    Your leaving early all the time may also be a problem if there aren't that many girls working. That will cause them to have to go on stage more, when they could be hustling dances.

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    I'd cuss u out too if u were giving me between 1-4 dollars after djing ur sets all night.

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes View Post
    I'd cuss u out too if u were giving me between 1-4 dollars after djing ur sets all night.

    WHY don't u shut the fuck up and if you don't have any positive helpful input then keep your immature ignorant ass to yourself
    oh wow i just went down to your level by even responding like this; i did not expect more drama from a stripper online

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes View Post
    I'd cuss u out too if u were giving me between 1-4 dollars after djing ur sets all night.
    p.s. he doesn't do my "sets'' all night fool; if you know how to read, i said that i don't stay the whole night just half the night

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    Quote Originally Posted by Courtesan View Post
    Of course you don't owe him and no he shouldn't be cussing you out. I would just find out what the club etiquette is and follow that. Is the club paying him, or is he being paid strictly from tips from the dancers? If he only gets paid from the dancers, it would be only fair that you tip him more. Just talk to the other dancers, if the owner doesn't respond and find out what they do.

    I'm not sure how long you've been at this club, but when I first started dancing, I would leave early all of the time. I thought I could come and go as I pleased. I would get tired of being there and just walk out. I wouldn't even tell anyone. I thought because I was an independent contractor, this was allowed. Eventually, the manager confronted me, but no one ever told me differently.

    Your leaving early all the time may also be a problem if there aren't that many girls working. That will cause them to have to go on stage more, when they could be hustling dances.
    of course i know the club rules/etiquettes etc it was all explained when i first started; and the owner said tip outs are not mandatory and i don't think any/all the girls tip dj and lap dance counter/bouncer and front door. but i always tip everyone out when i leave

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    I tip more to a delivery driver... Standard tipout is 10 percent. You gave him ONE dollar. Put yourself in his possition.

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    Default Re: DJ cussed me out!!!!

    Ok everyone! Except for trinkle toes, i thank you for everyone's advice etc...in the end, main point was, regardless that i left early or whatever the hell i do, it is in nobody's position to talk to anyone like that; especially if owner and the main guy in charge of the girls says ok and is cool w it

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    AND wow just to end this bullshit and headache, i will be the bigger person and just give him like $20+ next time i go in if i ever do

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