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    Ladies , need some help here. Love my girl , Im total wreck, .How does ones boyfriend play it cool?

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    ALWAYS keep this in your mind not in the back but in the very front. It's nothing personal, it's just business. I don't know your girlfriend so I can't speak for her but I can say when I was in a relationship and dancing, I was NOT there to meet any guys or hook up or anything. All I could see is money symbols $$$. That's it.

    Nothing personal, just business.

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    I'm very open and honest with mine. He knows I would never cheat on him. Occasionally when he arrives early to pick me up, if he sees me going in the VIP with a cute white boy he'll raise an eyebrow and comment on how much more enthusiastic my dance was.
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    Thank you Laci, I know it is the money, it just I am concerned of all the bad influences and possible harrasment she will be subjected .

    Thou she is not on any drugs over or under the counter, she has been in her past sexually abused, and in the enviroment shes working in its her head I am worried about. Lucky we are in MA and no touching is allowed.

    She is very good girl lover her dearly just bad circumstances on both our parts that this is an alternative.

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    Thank you Tempest

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    Quote Originally Posted by bizmor View Post
    Lucky we are in MA and no touching is allowed.
    Ummmmm....not always....

    I'm not trying to stir shit up but, depending on where she is working, many Mass clubs are now allowing one-way and in some cases, two-way contact. What a dancer allows is, of course, up to her but it's difficult to earn and sell private dances if you are not willing to do what the other gals at the club are doing...
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    I don't think working in a strip club will expose her to any serious harassment while working. There are bouncers in place to prevent that. In fact, I had to deal with less shit from customers as a stripper than at ANY other job I've ever worked. Plus, as a stripper, she gets to pick and choose her customers. If a guy is being a dick, she can just walk away, and if he's really bad, he'll get thrown out. That doesn't really work that well in any other industry. As a waitress, you can't just say, "That customer is being rude, so I'm not going to serve that table anymore, and I'm going to send one of the Hostesses over to throw them out."

    As a dancer, I ended being "harassed" more frequently in the real world, mainly by acquaintances of mine or friends of my SO. In fact, my ex had a couple of friends who kept trying to sleep with me behind his back, and it was because they thought that since I was a stripper, I was "easy." Unfortunately, this isn't just something I've experienced dancing--in every relationship, if anyone was seriously trying to get me to cheat on my boyfriend, it was ALWAYS his closest friends.

    Stripping can be one of the best things she's ever done, if she's healthy and happy about it. I DO believe that you have to be an exhibitionist to a certain extent in order to really be comfortable dancing. If she's okay with that part, as long as she sets boundaries on day one, and enforces them, she'll be fine. I do not recommend that she drink at work, at least not initially. It tends to be habit forming--I know tons of strippers who claim that they can't do the job until they've at least had a shot. In my opinion, if you can't do this job sober, you shouldn't be doing it at all. You said she doesn't really do drugs, so that shouldn't really be an issue.

    My biggest thing about this would be to recommend she SAVE most of her money. As a newbie stripper, she may go a little crazy when she realizes how much cash she'll be pulling in. Speaking from experience, it's very easy to blow it all, then look back years later and wonder just what the hell you spent your money on. I recommend getting a little at-home safe to store cash in.

    I really don't think you have anything to worry about. It's natural to be a little jealous initially, but it will pass. It's just a job, and, like I said, as long as she's healthy and happy about it, everything should go fine. And if you're supportive about it, it will only strengthen the relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Ummmmm....not always....

    I'm not trying to stir shit up but, depending on where she is working, many Mass clubs are now allowing one-way and in some cases, two-way contact. What a dancer allows is, of course, up to her but it's difficult to earn and sell private dances if you are not willing to do what the other gals at the club are doing...
    I've been to one MA club and heard of two others that match RI for contact levels. Like Yoda said though, what a dancer allows is up to her.
    "never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe

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    Oneway twoway, what you are implying is the club will allow touching if it is consented on by either party or both parties?

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    Which clubs in MA?

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    That doesnt put me at ease. Thanks

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    You sound pretty upset...and I can understand that you're nervous and maybe insecure about the whole thing. I don't know...it doesn't sound like you can take the honest truth about what can happen in clubs...so I'm not sure that coming on here will help you. I think it may cause you more anxiety. So my advice is to not go into clubs or ask these questions.

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    Thank you for the advice, I donot intend to go to any clubs. Hearing your opions help.

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    I have been to Mardi Gras and been told about Electric Blue and Mario's.
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    Thanks Bem your the best , her clubs not there. One my fears is cause she is young shes 20 , but she;s more like 16 that she could be taken advantge of or her employer could impose things on her and she needs the cash so she might not speak up for herself like she does to me lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bizmor View Post
    Thanks Bem your the best , her clubs not there. One my fears is cause she is young shes 20 , but she;s more like 16 that she could be taken advantge of or her employer could impose things on her and she needs the cash so she might not speak up for herself like she does to me lol.
    I have no information about anywhere else one way or the other.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    I have been to Mardi Gras and been told about Electric Blue and Mario's.
    Electric Blue is actually in CT.
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    Dood, you need to go to a club. Not while she's there, probably not even her club, maybe a similar club in a nearby town.

    Tips some girls on stage. Get a dance. If you don't feel comfortable w her being in that environment, maybe you should help her out financially and she can get a job in an office or a restaurant.

    Plenty of young girls make livings doing non-sex work. If she is that naive and that desperate for money...as you think she is...then statistically she is way more likely to have her boundaries crossed.

    Not saying she is going to be drugged and gang raped by all the customers and managers. Just sayin, to be real, it can be a seedy environment, especially when you get alcohol, greed, and desperate beta males together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bizmor View Post
    Thanks Bem your the best , her clubs not there. One my fears is cause she is young shes 20 , but she;s more like 16 that she could be taken advantge of or her employer could impose things on her and she needs the cash so she might not speak up for herself like she does to me lol.
    Why are you with this girl if you actually believe she is so naive and gullible that she'd let people convince her to cheat on you for money? Either she's got some serious issues, or YOU have some serious issues with trust. Maybe you should have faith that she is capable of maintaining her boundaries.

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    I think he's just overprotective.....I don't think he means anything bad by it. I can see his POV because I mentioned driving to Philly by myself and he almost had a heart attack at the thought of his "baby" driving around the mean streets of Philly alone. (my SO other that is)

    However, I will say this: If your girl maintains her boundaries and sticks to them, then she should be ok. Honesty and trust are the issues here.
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    Thank you for all the advice, one thing, I have been to clubs before so I am not understanding why if I go would put me at ease.

    Second I didnt me she is Nieve or dumb she actuallu to sweet for her own good, Yes I am protective and she knows this, thats why she wont let me go to her club.


    On the financial end I do assist her in this and she is very grateful, but like us all, I myself have my own liabilities as well, such as children from a divorce.

    Asked if I trust her, I say yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bizmor View Post
    Asked if I trust her, I say yes.
    So, then, trust her. Stop worrying so much. You may think that she knows you're just concerned and overprotective, but I can tell you from experience that this can frequently come off as distrust. And that's not good. She needs to know that you trust her implicitly, otherwise this will cause major problems in your relationship later on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Electric Blue is actually in CT.
    I stand corrected. Had I ever been there, I suppose I'd have known that. Is it not damn close to MA though?
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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    I stand corrected. Had I ever been there, I suppose I'd have known that. Is it not damn close to MA though?
    It's about 15 minutes from Hartford off of rte 84. "Close" is a relative term I guess. I wouldn't drive there from Boston just for a visit but I do stop in when I'm in the area for work. On the other hand, if you live in that part of the state, it's about 20 minutes from the Mass border.

    I do think that the contact levels at EB definitely have an effect on what happens at Mario's and at Springfield clubs. Just as Providence clubs effect what happens at Alex's and the Foxy Lady Brockton. Actual distance may not be as important as what a group of clubs in a specific region do to compete with each other.

    Of course, by law, all of Mass is no contact but that's all relative as well. No city, town or county anywhere actually mandates lap dances or contact. All clubs are subject to local entertainment, alcohol and yes, prostitution ordinances. Local authorities could use any of those ordinances to pull the plug on a club at just about any time they want if enough evidence exists. Strip clubs generate tax revenue and most city managers have an unwritten agreement with local clubs about what they will and will not tolerate. As long as the clubs stay out of trouble and out of the papers a fair amount of tolerance is, obviously, not unusual.
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    ^^6 All my info on EB came from people I know in Springfield, thus my assuming MA since Providence to Springfield doesn't involve CT at all. The time spent upstairs at MG included all the contact I've ever experienced in a RI club. I've not been there in years. I visited there many years ago for a very specific reason. Its the only club outside RI in which I've ever bought a dance.
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