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    i'm curious how stripping affected your dating life? for me i have two different lives (well sorta) my bar life and my square life. i find that my square life is starting to fade away. when i think of men, i think of $ and cents. yes i find certain men to be attractive but at the same time i'm like hell if he's not doing anything for me ,get out of my face. i feel like i don't really need a man for anything i mean hell most of the men i'm running into look like they need me to take care of them. i'm not into that , i feel like i want someone to take care of i'll have a child. i can pretty much spawk out bulsh!t within a few seconds. my civilian friends all have they're little boyfriends and seem to happy. me on the other hand i'm just like fuk, i don't feel like i fit into the whole barefoot and pregnant lifestyle but i am starting to become lonely... do any of you guys feel this way as well?

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    Frankly, I feel you make a good point. I actually feel men of today dont have the balls like in the past to take care of their girl, wife whatever.

    Thou todays culture has bread women to fend for themselfs might have been the cause.

    Its good and bad, as it has effected the family structure.

    Anyway, the reason I dont understand I see these beautiful girls with such loser guy mates.

    My girlfriend was in this boat prior.Now she knows the qualities of a good man. I am 28 years older the she.My prior GF I was 23 years older.

    I dont just mean in dollars in sense, it seems theres a whole generation of loser 20-30 somthing guys and you girls just tolerate it.

    For the 20 something female she might want to look at an older man, not in a sugardaddy role, for this is only leading problems in the long run and they will only look and treat you like an escort, but in a longterm win win for both parties, emotionaly, financial , etc..

    An older man who takes a likeing to a younger women could lead to something great, the younger women needs to make sure he isnt out for one thing and the man needs to be not looked at as a dollar sign.

    If you take age away and two people like each other whats the problem?

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    bizmor: this is s0o true. i actually fell madly in love with a sugardaddy that i had, and things went great for awhile. but when things got bad they got REALLY bad. at the end of the whole thing he ended up treated me like a escort a total cheap ho and i'm just not about that so i had to just cut it off. honestly i feel spoiled now and most men just don't cut it. now i feel almost jaded so to speak.

    i feel like make money fuk men i don't need em.

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    Just because lots of people feel like they must be in a relationship to be happy doesn't mean you have to do the same. I am perfectly happy being by myself, i don't get into relationships unless i really really like the girl a whole lot. Being happy alone means you can be a lot more selective, which in turn leads to better relationships overall.

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    IDK where you are looking for guys but if I can see all I am is $$$ & cents...I'm out of there. Strange how some woman want a man with money but they don't have anything to give in return...except something physical

    Not saying this is you OP...just most women complain about their mans money but don't have any.

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    Well its just like the Forest Gump movie , I think life's like a box of chocolates you dont know what you are going to get.

    So to answer the question, if you are looking it never finds you.
    Keep open mind, listern eventually you find one and if they are financially settled all the betteer

    Statistcs show, the best S.D. make a high 7 low 6 fiqure income.
    But you cant look at them as a SD.
    Someone making only 30-40k but treats you like a goddess is worth more then the flipside dont you think?

    I had similar exp as you, my old S.B or girlfriend what ever, I spoiled her, you name it she got it. Hey I got all I needed to, but in the end I didnt take well that she hide a boyfriend .
    Hey I loved her alot but when I found out it tainted the realtionship, got tons of aplogies take me back when she relaized her BF was a complete liar.

    Karma.
    My new GF is so sweet, its not a SB /SD realtionship . Funny she never asks for anything. God Bless her and Im blessed. But the past keeps me from investing x amount more till I know the time is right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblebutt8o8 View Post
    i'm curious how stripping affected your dating life? for me i have two different lives (well sorta) my bar life and my square life. i find that my square life is starting to fade away. when i think of men, i think of $ and cents. yes i find certain men to be attractive but at the same time i'm like hell if he's not doing anything for me ,get out of my face. i feel like i don't really need a man for anything i mean hell most of the men i'm running into look like they need me to take care of them. i'm not into that , i feel like i want someone to take care of i'll have a child. i can pretty much spawk out bulsh!t within a few seconds. my civilian friends all have they're little boyfriends and seem to happy. me on the other hand i'm just like fuk, i don't feel like i fit into the whole barefoot and pregnant lifestyle but i am starting to become lonely... do any of you guys feel this way as well?

    I'm lucky in that I have wonderful longterm partners, but I wanted to add that sex work in general can really harden you up fast to people's crap. On one hand it can make finding a quality person tough, but when you find the people you like/know/trust you really appreciate them after having seen all sides of people's behaviours.

    Seriously, how many times have you spent time with someone who is exhausting and adds nothing to your life but $? Not that money isn't nice, just that there are so many more important things. I don't think the attitude of "if you're not doing anything for me get out of my face" is a bad one - so long as you remember that $ is pretty easy to give someone, its the people that stimulate you in other ways that are valuable.

    You might never fit into the baby-on-the-hip barefoot pregnant lifestyle but the friends you do make - and you will - are so much more special.

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    I think the culture of the US is breeding a lot of free thinkers, people who challenge the norms of society. Maybe there still is the prevailing notion that a woman needs to get married to be happy. People talk a lot, and everyone has an opinion, but in the end I don't think anybody really cares about what a stranger does. If you're content with being alone your whole life, or only care about money, so be it.

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    I could never fit into the barefoot and pregnant stereotype and if I wanted it I'd have it now. However that is an extreme, just as it's an extreme to not want anyone at all. Most people want someone, many just won't settle for those they are repulsed by in many ways (looks, background, etc).

    Did dancing change my view of men? To some extent yes. I learned the way to use men by dancing. I am not talking outside the club, just inside. A good dancer learns this but if it starts affecting your non dancing dates then it's a problem. I had several non sexual sugar daddy relationships but we both wanted the same thing, he wanted a pretty girl for social dates (he was a CEO) and I wanted the money and the opportunity to tend these often high society events. Men who just want a much younger girlfriend (not talking sugar daddies) just want someone to control. I laugh when I read online profiles and see guys wanting women much younger. Unless they have money or looks they will find themselves alone.

    Btw, I have never needed a man to support me. I think way too many women make the mistake of looking for a provider. They need to be financially secure on their own.

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    kellydancer: you brought up a very good point. its not that i want a man to take care of me. i'm more than capable of taking care of myself. for me its more like finding a man who we have the same interest and wants out of life. i have a problem with men who aren't willing to do anything but want everything. that drives me honestly, over the limit. like i meet guys who wanna have a sexy gf for example, which is fine. but having that arm candy is expensive. it means upkeep and the upkeep isn't always cheap. its starts off with little things like nails, clothes, and can go up to things like botox and breast augmentations. i'm sure you get where i'm going with that. but my true problem is like yes i can do it myself but if its something that you like you should be willing to pay for it, at least help out.

    this is why i say meeting men who we have to same interest and values. i know a lot of what i'm saying seems material but i enjoy the high life. i meet a nice guy every now and then. we hangout he starts to be around me and what i have, and it makes him feel inferior then i secretly think of the guy as busted as hell. then me trying not to be a jackass and like omg louis, gucci, oh bmw... i try to tone things down. an he still ends up looking like a bum compared to me. i'm frustrated with broke men. thats all that i'm really saying.

    dancing is just another point in all of this madness. it has allowed me to be young and live the way i did growing up but without the help of moms.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblebutt8o8 View Post
    kellydancer: you brought up a very good point. its not that i want a man to take care of me. i'm more than capable of taking care of myself. for me its more like finding a man who we have the same interest and wants out of life. i have a problem with men who aren't willing to do anything but want everything. that drives me honestly, over the limit. like i meet guys who wanna have a sexy gf for example, which is fine. but having that arm candy is expensive. it means upkeep and the upkeep isn't always cheap. its starts off with little things like nails, clothes, and can go up to things like botox and breast augmentations. i'm sure you get where i'm going with that. but my true problem is like yes i can do it myself but if its something that you like you should be willing to pay for it, at least help out.

    this is why i say meeting men who we have to same interest and values. i know a lot of what i'm saying seems material but i enjoy the high life. i meet a nice guy every now and then. we hangout he starts to be around me and what i have, and it makes him feel inferior then i secretly think of the guy as busted as hell. then me trying not to be a jackass and like omg louis, gucci, oh bmw... i try to tone things down. an he still ends up looking like a bum compared to me. i'm frustrated with broke men. thats all that i'm really saying.

    dancing is just another point in all of this madness. it has allowed me to be young and live the way i did growing up but without the help of moms.
    Sounds more like a sugar daddy than a boyfriend relationship that you want. That's perfectly fine and there are men looking for a sugar baby as well, mostly older men. I know personally I wouldn't want a boyfriend who would expect me to upkeep my looks, especially if he didn't. How old are you? I ask because in my early-mid 20's I met a lot of guys like that. As I get older I don't meet as many obsessed with looks unless they are very good looking and maintain it (gym guys for example) or guys with money. Otherwise, most men I met at my age want a companion.

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