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Last edited by Kisca; 04-29-2011 at 03:05 PM. Reason: Deleted
When you start to distance yourself, that's when your ex will always choose to start playing the Nice Boyfriend card. My ex Kyle cheated on me constantly, and it was always too much to ask that he be home one night a week. When I left him, all of the sudden he wanted to be around me ALL the time. He was going out of his way to do nice things for me. He'd show up at my place to "surprise" me all the time. But under it all, there was a sense of desperation, like he realized he wasn't going to have a little doormat anymore. Trust me, if you go back, things will go right back to the way they were.
It's admittedly a little weird when you're first out on your own, but trust me--one day very soon, you'll wake up and it will be like a veil has been lifted. You'll wonder what the fuck you were wasting your time with him for. And you'll start to love your space and privacy.
Living alone is cool with me, and I would rather it. Being comfortable with living alone means you are content with yourself and silence. After I turned 18 years old, I have lived alone and I love it. It is just part of life and being an adult to me.




Sounds like he is finally appreciating what he had. Seems too little too late. I understand the attachment but if u could find someone else to hang out w and lean on that would make it easier(just n a friend sense). But I understand what its like when ur bf is the closest person to you therefore even if u r broken up u still latch on..This is hell. Too bad u couldnt temporarily latch on to someone else until u r able to be ok so to speak.
Wow you girls are quick.
Thank you all so much. This is making me feel so much better just by reading it.




This sounds screwed up but in some ways my bf doesnt appreciate me. I have backup friends to hang out w if it gets too bad and I have to leave. It will b hard but if u can find others to hang out w who r understanding of the vulnerable spot u r in and able to just be a little supportive that may b ideal really. They wont take his place but they can occupy the time he took up til u r able to find someone else or feel strong enough alone whichever u prefer. Sorry if this is a repeat of what I said earlier..Just trying to help..Also u prolly got quick responses bc many people could relate..You rnt alone.![]()
I freaking love being by myself. You have all the freedom in the world, enjoy yourself girl. Or read up on some of the shitty roommate threads right here to see what you are missing out on.




ooh I could never live by myself. as much as I can't stand one of my roommates it'd be too quiet without other people around. I feel like I'd go insane with nobody to talk to.




Can you get a kitty or doggie companion?
Living by yourself is soooo refreshing after you've been stuck with someone for awhile, whether it was an SO or a roommate. When you come home from school or work, if there's dirty dishes on the counter, they were YOUR dirty dishes. Stuff doesn't EVER go missing or get misplaced because people you don't know were getting invited over. You can take a shower in the middle of the night and no one can say shit. You can walk around the house butt-naked without worrying that your roommate will have invited that prude girl over again. You can make what you want for EVERY meal without people bitching that they're on a diet. Your ice cream or baked goods never start disappearing.
God...makes me look forward to getting married and moving on base and having Joe away for a week at a time so I have the house ALL to myself.





^Maybe you should throw an apartment-warming get together? Might get you excited about making memories in your new place.
Give yourself time to adjust. Moving is hard if you've never been out on your own before.
Try and stay occupied! Excited and happy for you!



He has Lou Rawls syndrome " If i coulda, woulda, shoulda". http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GaM8kQnJjY4
Very popular song about realizing what you have when it leaves you. He's thinking of what he lost and how much he misses it. Anything to keep you close now that you are exerting your newfound independence. Enjoy his company if you can handle it, but don't get sucked back in.
Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.
Give your parents dog a vacation...and have it stay with you for a week.....





Becasue you've just gone through a huge life adjustment. You'll be shaky and scared for a while. Give it time. You can do this. You'll be okay babe, you're tougher than you think!
I went through the same thing! Even though I had roommates, they were out of town a lot, and even when they were home they kept to themselves and didn't really seem to care about what I was going through. I felt very alone. Staying busy was the only thing that helped me. Try to get out every day...make plans with friends, etc. Looking back I wish I had made more of an effort to get out and see people, even though I often didn't feel like it. Days alone were definitely the toughest. Don't get back together with your boyfriend just because it's hard to be alone. If you get back together you need to be sure it's for the right reasons! You'll get through this...it definitely gets easier with a little time!
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