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    Default ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    So recently I met the Wednesday night manager and have had a the biggest crush on him since. I can't help it. He is way older than me and I've made it a point to work Wednesdays now hehe. I know I sound like a stalker but he gives me butterflies. At first he'd flirt with me and I'd feel special but now I realize he does that with all the girls. Him and the other managers have even gotten VIPs with some of the girls in the past. WTF? I need advice on one or two things. How do I get over it? It STINGS when i see him flirting with the other girls. OR how can I make myself stand out in comparison to the other girls?? Has anyone had a similar experience. Thanks xoxo

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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    Quote Originally Posted by AnotherBruisedPeach View Post
    So recently I met the Wednesday night manager and have had a the biggest crush on him since. I can't help it. He is way older than me and I've made it a point to work Wednesdays now hehe. I know I sound like a stalker but he gives me butterflies. At first he'd flirt with me and I'd feel special but now I realize he does that with all the girls. Him and the other managers have even gotten VIPs with some of the girls in the past. WTF? I need advice on one or two things. How do I get over it? It STINGS when i see him flirting with the other girls. OR how can I make myself stand out in comparison to the other girls?? Has anyone had a similar experience. Thanks xoxo
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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    NOOOOO. Don't do it. Especially given that he is obviously the common type of manager who uses the club as his personal harem. As soon as he fucks you, he'll be off to chase the next new girl.

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    I'm a firm believer in whatever is meant to be will happen. The LAST thing I'm going to do is fuck him or do a VIP with them. That is how I'll lose any mystique. Either the crush will pass or he'll have to pursue me respectfully (if it's mean to be)

    He'll make little sexual jokes and I'll just say "You wish" and go about my business.
    He is just so ughhhhh.

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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    My husband managed a strip club for a loooong time, and was the cute manager, so I asked his opinion. He suggests moving to another club, for a couple of reasons. One, he says managers like that don't care about their girls- all they're trying to do is fuck as many as they can. In his words "to guys like them, bitches are a dime a dozen". Also, where he would occasionally buy lap dances from his girls if they weren't making any money (especially since he couldn't waive house fees at his clubs), you don't buy VIP from a girl- you're not on the floor where you should be, and if you're just trying to give a girl some money because it's slow, you don't buy a VIP. He suspects the girls getting VIPs from the managers may not be just dancing if you catch my drift. So in the long and the short run, you're going to end up with your feelings hurt (which fucks with your money) OR if he does try to buy a VIP from you and he doesn't get what HE wants- he could fire you. Unfortunately, you COULD give him what he wants, and he could fire you anyway (my husband has seen this happen). Your co workers could also take notice, talk shit about you, and make your life miserable. Gossiping about you to the customers could also become a reality.

    If a manager is sincerely interested in a girl, he won't flirt with them in front of the other girls because he won't want to give the impression of favouritism. Honestly if I were you, I'd get out of there... isn't this also the club where management told you no one's paying $500 without getting something? You really want to mess with a guy- never mind a manager, a guy in GENERAL- who says something like that, or supports such beliefs? A man who places such little value on his dancers?

    I would run, not walk, to another location.

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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    Their allowed to waive the house fee :/
    He has teased me about getting VIPs with him the past.
    I didn't think he was serious till he said something along the lines of "oh it's slow and and nobody has asked me for a dance"
    I just said "mkay lets do VIP but I'm charging you double"
    (in a totally joking way)
    and another girl was like "blah blah you owe me own because you did one with ***"

    I was shocked and a little heartbroken :/

    but really
    lets pretend he is the "man of my dreams" lol
    the last thing i want to tell my grandchildren is that i
    began a relationship grinding on this guys cock in VIP
    no no

    whatever is meant to be will happen.
    my objective is to make money. period.
    end of story.

    thanks for the advice

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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    I can't believe the managers get VIP dances there, that is so unprofessional. Hell I won't even get dances in the other clubs in whatever town I am working--because I know odds are I will wind up working with them eventually. But I've never been big on the dances anyway, I'm more of a big tipper type customer.

    If you are getting a bad reaction to him flirting with other girls, no way in hell should you let it go any further--unless you can easily work somewhere else and wouldn't mind doing that. Because if you start sleeping with him that reaction will only get worse. Whether he turns out to be a dog type or not, a certain amount of flirtation comes with the job, and it really helps with the tips. Just like he'll have to watch you flirt with customers, etc. I've seen work relationships go bad far more often than good.
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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    Bad sign. Stay out of the flirting, and the inside talk. Stay away, be friendly, but work work work and go home. Figure out why you have a crush on him first, then figure out what made you feel this way, whether you like him or its just the thought. Think of the reality and the outcomes, and move on. Personally, he is trying to get as much as he can.. He is just having fun with all the girls - not just you. Afterall he is your manager and he needs to act professional.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisca View Post
    Bad sign. Stay out of the flirting, and the inside talk. Stay away, be friendly, but work work work and go home. Figure out why you have a crush on him first, then figure out what made you feel this way, whether you like him or its just the thought. Think of the reality and the outcomes, and move on. Personally, he is trying to get as much as he can.. He is just having fun with all the girls - not just you. Afterall he is your manager and he needs to act professional.

    ^ I took your advice I just worked my butt off today. I did amazing. I ran into him once and spoke to him briefly and went about my business.

    I'm not going to lie I still get weak at the knees whenever I see him but I need to focus on making money and creating the life I want for myself

    I'm going to be treated like a princess. period.

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    Default Re: ick... developed a total crush on the night manager :/

    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    I can't believe the managers get VIP dances there, that is so unprofessional. Hell I won't even get dances in the other clubs in whatever town I am working--because I know odds are I will wind up working with them eventually. But I've never been big on the dances anyway, I'm more of a big tipper type customer.

    If you are getting a bad reaction to him flirting with other girls, no way in hell should you let it go any further--unless you can easily work somewhere else and wouldn't mind doing that. Because if you start sleeping with him that reaction will only get worse. Whether he turns out to be a dog type or not, a certain amount of flirtation comes with the job, and it really helps with the tips. Just like he'll have to watch you flirt with customers, etc. I've seen work relationships go bad far more often than good.
    No I really enjoy working at this club. I do well here. Management can be somewhat flirty with the girls. You sound much more professional.

    The only way I'd sleep with him would be if he pursued me in a respectful manner. I'm making the definitive decision that I will not let it go farther no matter how badly I want it to.

    It's not worth it. I know he is attracted to me along with several other girls. My objective is keep him sexually frustrated as long as possible. Let the other girls do what they please. I'm going to keep my emotions in check and make money.

    Everything that is meant to be will happen. I need to keep a clear head.

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