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Angel: This was a really great outline on the world of Sugar.
For those of you thinking of getting into it, here's what I've got to say.
I spent my summer in Chicago (get this...) LIVING IN with a SD as his consort and sexy housekeeper. This worked for me since I love to keep house, and was being paid very well for it. While I was doing this, though, I was free-styling and internet-Sugaring all through Chi-town.
All that said, this is what I learned.
1. "Dress the part". This doesn't just mean "Dress Pretty". For a quality man, this means LOWERING those hemlines, cleaning up that silhouette (the hourglass is always the one to go for), losing the large jewelry in favor of stunning, understated precious stones or metal, losing the bright yellow WHATEVER no matter how cute it was on the rack.... etc. For meeting these men, either on the hunt or for the first time, you want to have a classic, not just classy look about you. You might feel like you stick out like a sore thumb in todays society (says the girl who feels lost when she's not wearing a black dress), but I would venture to say that that is what you want. NEUTRAL MAKEUP PLEASE.
2. Being present in your body. Actors may call this "fiction". Breathe, move with purpose. Use graceful qualities of movement. Know where your body is, how it looks, and how it is moving. This doesn't mean you have to obsess over your "pose", but it does mean that you're sitting up straight, you're "gliding", not "gal-umping" around the room in those heels, and your dainty fingers are graceful and feminine.
3. Be sly. Draw them in, and don't let them know that you're on to them. I met my (to date) most amazing/wealthy/intelligent SD while reading "The Hobbit" in the Second City starbucks. Once again, I set myself apart. Do something unexpected, but understated. Reading an interesting book isn't hurting anyone, but upon closer inspection it is endearing and attractive. How many times do you see a 20-something GORGEOUS girl reading a book, especially if it looks like one that wasn't assigned for a class? Again, it makes you appear worthwhile and "above" the crowd. Put on some reading glasses and you can sneak in glances without looking too conspicuous.
4. Speak politely, musically, and articulately. And NATURALLY. Don't talk about their money, don't stress them out about work. Do speak passionately about what you love, and invite them to do the same. If he IS talking about politics, the economy, or foreign policies, pipe up! Not with your own opinion so much, but more asking him about his, learning from him, show him you are following what he's saying and want him to divulge more-- because of COURSE he knows, and it pets his ego a little bit.
5. Respect him, respect his time, and make SURE he respects you.
Those little anal bits of information suddenly landed me in a flipping Maybach. That thing is like a land yacht. It also landed me in an amazing three-way relationship with a SD and his other SB.
Escorting is more about the money, Sugar is about the experiences. Not just sexual, either. You'll meet some of the most astounding people, and do some really amazing things-- there's a reason these men are on top. Why not reign with them?
Contessa's 0.02 on the SugarBowl.
(All that said, I quit sugar because it takes WAY TOO MUCH TIME)


Hey contessa,
Great post. I was wondering was it his idea for you to become his sugar baby, or yours and if soooo, How did you groom him into the idea.
I've met quite a few rich guys who really only want to date me, I don't know how to bring up the sugar the daddy with them without turning them off.



Usually, they know the drill-- they might casually bring up one of their "Friends"... who has a "girl" he pampers in South Beach. He desires you, but he must understand that as a young beautiful woman, you DESERVE to be pampered. He went through youth, he probably had some great times, and now he has the pleasure of giving them to you. Keep that in mind. Bringing it up with a man that you didn't meet under the guise of the Sugar Bowl is difficult. You can't wait too long to bring it up, but if you start too soon you might turn him off. You have to knead it in. I guess I can't give too much advice, because if he doesn't bring it up, it's a delicate and terrible affair trying to get it.
Or hell, you could just ask. "Papa, I need a new car. Let's go shopping!"


Has anyone ever used one of the websites to try to find a SD? Honestly all I want are married80ish yr old men who will come into the club once a week and buy 2 hrs worth of VIPs, the occasional dinner/opera... all about companionship but no sex, and not too time-consuming (I work 2 jobs plus school). That's why I say the older the better, because I would think the 50-60 crowd would be looking for more physical than mental?




i definitely understand your train of thought hun, but sugar daddies older than hmm, i would say mid-60s, are VERY rare. Sure, the older ones might want more companionship but most 80 year olds aren't going to be placing ads on the internet either. And most 80 year old men don't go to clubs lol.plus, the men who are retired are not only typically stingier with the money (unless they are REALLY rich), but they will also have more time on their hands to be clingy if they aren't working.





I will have to disagree with this. Most of my sugardaddies have been much older. The oldest one I dated was 72 years old. He did not place an ad. I met him while touring (hanging out in the hotel lobby of the ritz carlton hotel). He would go to clubs to show me off and all. He was also very loose with his money and not stingy at all. So to each their own here. I prefer older sugardaddies to younger sds.
My current SD is way older. It's nothing major. He only gives me a few hundred a month and I found him on SD4me so yeah some of them do place ads.
On a tangent, where the hell does a guy find a good sugar mama?




"Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi
"Be The Best, F!ck The Rest"- P.P.
This is some great advice on how to find a sugar daddy. I love the idea of the convention. good one.

Any good websites to find SDs?




honestly, freestyling is your best bet imo. there are tons of time wasters on some of these sites and the process of weeding out the scammers and pic collectors can become exhaustive. not to mention the fact that i looked at some of the stats from some of the sites and the ratio can be as high as 10 females to every 1 man. So even if ALL of the men on the sites were legit (which trust me, over half of them aren't), then there would still be 9 girls out of ten left w/o a sugar daddy. But there is a site that isn't usually used for it but for every four guys there is one girl and some of my friends active in this lifestyle have had great success on it. It's call ashleymadison and there are some genuinely wealthy men there. But I would suspect they are definitely expecting sex lol, since it's basically an affairs site. Others include:
( imo it's not worth it, women have to pay to be a member too and a lot of guys on there are looking for a soulmate/wifey)
(good for girls who are in Canada)
Those are the main ones, although there are some smaller, lesser known ones as well...
I found my current SD on one of these sites but I got pretty lucky, and I was one of the most viewed members on the site so that helped me gain more exposure

Thank you soo much angel!!!




Perfect thread.
These posts and article links are sooo useful! I'd like to know more about how to bring up the allowance question, without making it sound like you're greedy or only in it for the money. I know we ARE only in it for the money, but I've found that a lot of guys are put off by someone straightforwardly asking a specific sum. Also, I'd hate to aim too high and scare him off, or aim too low and not be making what I could.
I'm not sure if this was answered already in one of the deleted posts but I'd love any advice on it so that I can get some success with this!




I really want one but I believe I have to get out of this sick state first..

If you don't have time to go to the Ritz Carlton and just sit there all day, the web sites are probably the best alternative. On the web, you can skip right to asking about the allowance without feeling awkward because the guys there already know they will be paying.
Just being up front and honest about what you want helps weed out the time wasters quickly.




I'm thinking one day just dress up nice and go to the local casino and see how bored I can be.

I would love to know more on how to maintain having a SD around without having sex with him, how do you do it?
Did you have this talk beforehand-the arrangements and such?
Have you had to leave any because they wanted sex and you didn't?
I am looking forward to hear your experiences and advices about this.
Honestly, I don't think I could bring myself to sleep with one..not saying that there is anything wrong with it but just me I just can'tI've encountered one and after meeting him and everything finding out he expects sex is what made me not call back and forget all about the SD thing. I would love to have one without actually sleeping with him, honestly I didn't know much about it and it was only recent that I found out more about it.
Thanks!




Hey, sorry I haven't posted in this thread in a while, but I'm definitely making note of the questions posted here and I'm in the process of working on a guide with tried and true advice that I've learned as well as more about my personal experiencesI just want to make sure that I give comprehensive answers that will really help instead of just posting quickie, non-thorough ones lol. So more is to come! In the mean time, I've been passing around a couple of ebooks that are really informative so any one who wants those I'll add you to the email list and send those to you while you're waiting. Chances are they will answer a lot of your questions any way!
A quick note to the girls who are wondering how to do this w/o sex being involved: It's really all about the fantasy. A lot of these men have stress in their lives with work and family life, and they are looking for escape. They are looking for more than just sex or they would have hired an escort. You have to BECOME that escape. Be an awesome listener. Boost his ego, make him feel like he's invincible! Show him you appreciate his generosity towards you and that you don't take him for granted, like his coworkers and wife do ( or at least he thinks they do). Make him feel young at heart! Be interesting and fun. In order for this to work you have to engage with him on many levels. At the same time though, in all honesty I kind of lead mine on. And they enjoy the chase. They feel like they are slowly but surely seducing me and one day they will surely get the prize (read: my vagina lol). But of course, I know better than thatI'll elaborate on specific tactics later
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Thanks!
I am looking forward to hearing more.





So glad I finally read this thread!

I had this guy ask me if I'd hang out with him at a hotel. He had a little menu of things we could do and I'd get paid cash every hour for things from the menu. None of it was sex, there was no kissing and no oral sex. It was just me doing stuff to him with my hand. One way contact.
The menu thing he had looked like I could walk out with $1000 in one afternoon or evening just from meeting him at a hotel. He was super sweet.
I'm thinking of doing it. Would you?
^^ Or he's a cop and you'd get arrested the minute you said yes.




Your still touching him and it might aroused him and you can still get arrested for it. He might be a cop..
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