I guess I'd best describe myself as docile, i'm borderline cowardly but for some reason I seem to attract quite imposing female friends.
I'll admit firstly that I find women intimidating, i don't want them to judge me so i'm shyer with women until i know them. This is no one problem but mine but i'm a lot more confident about it than i was. Once I do know them though I'm the one who jokes around a lot and gives relationship advice.
My old best friend was quite dominant she'd decide where we were going, she'd wander off and talk to other ppl but get irritable if i did it or texted my bf. She was lovely one to one but whenever she involved her other best friend i found things hard work sometimes they'd tea up and overdo the banter and it started to piss me off i don't pay £8 taxi fare each way to have my night ruined (i was only in college then so this was a lot of money at the time) in the end we fell out becos instead of me feeling i could express my upsets i ended up having a right go at her all at once. I guess I'm passive aggressive something i'm working on.
I've made some new female friends where i now live, ones a feminist and although she claims to be excepting of different viewpoints she can be kinda incredulous with me. The other is a bit princessy although it doesnt bother me but she can be very confrontational. Now I like these girls we're all imperfect but after last night i'm wondering if there's a reason i attract such strong and dominant women and how healthy it is for me. With men I'm very relaxed and i feel very much on an even keel.
Last night me my bf and the more confrontational one went out together this guy basically sat in my bfs seat and i asked him to move, my bf asked him to he did and then started saying stuff to me i said a few things back and walked off thinking everyone would follow next thing i know this bloke has sed something supposedly knocked my bf on the head with an unbroken bottle and my bf has seen red and smashed a bottle everywhere. i get pushed over and curl up in a ball (i told you borderline cowardly) and the other girl is there standing in front of my bf protecting him and she gets pushed into glass n cuts all her arm. to cut a long story short my bf ends up with a bad cut on his nose and the other guy with a cut hand neither get a arrested or badly hurt thankgod but obviously i want to no my bfs ok and why they've put him in a room with an asstard. she's all 'calm down' i was calm like i actually was i was angry but i dont do stupid things i wasnt gonna run in or start any fights i wanted to no why the other lads were allowed to still be lingering about n jeering at me they got dragged off eventually and i got a bit fed up of being told to do this n that by her when i'm an adult and wasnt doing anything to warrant it.
later that night she thinks she sees this guy who was racist towards her (i swear down it wasnt the same guy) and he's puzzled as when she starts screaming at him and chasing him a lil and i'm like 'are you sure it's him' 'SHUT UP ROXY OFC I'M SURE' and so i shuttup...
I avoided work today cos i didnt feel like seeing her i was so mad at him for smashing a bottle i made him swear never to agen unless he's actually in danger (eg. dark alley not a club of bouncers) becos he could have put us in more danger by getting everyone more pumped with adrenaline. I guess i feel a bit emabressed that she was protecting my bf not me but i also feel completely weirded out by the both of them i cant comprehend why anyone would get that angry and irrational and it's made me kinda scared of both of them. I'm not always sure people speak to me with respect even when they like me my bf loves me to bits but he still doesnt disrespectful things likes litters in my room etc. and i feel a lot of my female friends tend to disregard how i feel. My mum would never be disrespected like that and I kinda wish I knew how to be like that. I'm still mad at my bfs grandad for waking me up with a call wanting to no where my bf is or summit me being as helpful as possible and him ranting at me and then putting the phone down on me, i've never known any old people tp put the phone down on someone who they're not angry at i kinda thing if even old fogeys are impolite with me maybe i have pushover written on me.
What do you guys think I know it's long but I could really do with input.![]()



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