Well I seperated from my Navy husband in 2005. Its not legal, we just have lived in different states. Basically parted ways, without doing anything legal. My choice to leave him, we just grew apart. Anyways thats not the issue. I still have my benefits and ID card until Oct of this year.
I have been dating a different Navy guy since 2008. I love him and we are very serious, I even moved across the country when he got stationed here a few weeks ago. We have talked about marriage, once the divorce is final.
Well, since Im the one who wants the divorce, its only fair for ME to pay for it. Well, I dont have a job now. To draw up paperwork ourselves is quite difficult, yet less costly. I prefer NOT to use a lawyer, as we both agree on everything. But having a lawyer do it for us is easier… but very costly. HE wont make any moves to solve this problem, to come up with any solutions. Honestly, he doesnt want this marriage to end, so I can kinda see why he isnt trying to move along with the divorce. But its just not right for me to be with someone else,and married still.
So WHAT am I supposed to do?
The thing Im having trouble with is…when I get ready to go to school, or enroll my kid in school, or seek help from the FFSC on base…I get into that awkward conversation MY HUSBAND ISNT HERE..BUT IM HERE, WITH A DIFFERENT SAILOR…. It feels so embarrassing and shameful. While I am entitled to benefits being related to military, I never take advantage of them, because his LES doesnt match my household, obviously. And my current bf LES doesnt match our names/benefits. So im just frustrated with it all.
I want to hurry up and move this divorce along, but as usual, his ass just sits around and waits for me to do it all. I havent been a resident in this state for 6 months(required length of residency to file), so theres nothing I can do on this end. So its up to him now, who has been in his state for 4 years or so.
Im so frustrated and I dont know what to do.![]()




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