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    I've been working in SF and Vegas for the past almost a year...and I just cant get into the swing of things! I've read countless flirt/marketing/body language books...I've been reading and listening to strip and grow rich..been reading up on tips on this forum...but I just cant find my hustle

    i know that i'm working in pretty aggressive environments...but i dont know why i keep choking after my initial openers. this is my second time around dancing...i started, took a break, and started up again. i'm not afraid of approaching customers...but i seriously CHOKE after the initial "hi. how are you"

    has anyone else come across this or offer words of advice/encouragement?

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    Default Re: getting so frustrated...PLEASE HELP! :(

    I know you want to work in SF or Vegas, but I'm sure you can find a club in or around SF at least that isn't so high hustle. Fall into a routine of getting dances and hustling at a less competitive club and then work your way up to your dream clubs. It's better to make money somewhere else for a while than to not make money at all.

    I'm sure you've seen all the tips for conversation starters, hustling, flirting, and etc. Maybe all you need is to not be under pressure and be able to take your time learning.

    Stripping isn't for everyone, but if you want it to be for you then make it be for you.

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    Don't you have a set script of things you say and ask? Do you choke after you are sitting with them or are you still standing when this happens? Are you saying you don't make any money at all?

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    Default Re: getting so frustrated...PLEASE HELP! :(

    well, in both locations - i feel like im already working in clubs that are on the lower end of the aggressive spectrum. but thats true...maybe i should try easing into it a little more than thinking that i could just pick right up from where i left off the first time around when my hustle was good.

    thanks - i guess i just needed someone to spell it out for me

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    I just start with " hows your night going " ? What are you up to today ? ect.
    Just keep practicing! You've got to get little conversations going and quickly turn them .... you've got to learn to kind of control where the convo goes or they will take over and talk you to death.

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    Specifically.... you say you choke after " hi, how are you?" so I would try to ask people no less than three questions such as ( and there are many more ) :
    " How was your day today "

    " Do you live around here or are you traveling ? "

    " Do you like lapdances ?"

    "Do you like my boobs ?"

    Lol. That's my basic hustle .

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    don't be afraid of those assholes. keep your eyes on the prize and say whatever you gotta say to get it. if a dude's giving you shit, walk away. there's always someone in the club with money who'll be nice to you.

    try different things and see which makes you more comfortable. I cycle between being over the top bubbly and being a feisty badass bitch.

    the cool thing about being a stripper is you can try on different personalities like hats. don't change your overall personality though, like...be yourself, but a more FUN version of yourself.

    guys don't give a fuck about a stripper acting sexy. I get complimented all the time on how much fun I am. you are an ENTERTAINER., not a lap dance machine.

    be fun and never act bored or pissed off and the money will roll in. even if a customer's not paying you, smile big and walk away, chances are another customer noticed you having fun from far away.

    request songs from the dj that'll put you in a good mood.

    strut around with a smile on your face and the rest will come naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Camateur View Post
    Don't you have a set script of things you say and ask? Do you choke after you are sitting with them or are you still standing when this happens? Are you saying you don't make any money at all?
    I literally choke as soon as I sit down and finish with the initial opening lines.

    And no, I make some money ... but I know its no where near as much as I know I CAN make.

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    If you want to get customers saying "yes" to dances...open up with questions that they HAVE to say "yes" to! Saying "How are you?" only opens up customers to thinking about the reasons why they are there...their cheating wife, their shitty day, etc. Try something like pointing out a girl on stage and saying, "Damn, isn't she sexy?" or "Isn't this weather crazy?"...anything that will get a "yes" response out of them. After 3 or 4 questions like this, the guy is already saying "yes", thinking positively, and ready to say yes to dances when you ask.

    Also, also remember that you can take on any persona at work. You don't have to be the person you are in real-life. If you are shy and not too self-confindent at home, you can always play a different role at the club.

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    when i feel like that i realise i either need a break from dancing or need to get really drunk
    pretty basic and works for me
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    Quote Originally Posted by MemeDancer76 View Post
    I've been working in SF and Vegas for the past almost a year...and I just cant get into the swing of things! I've read countless flirt/marketing/body language books...I've been reading and listening to strip and grow rich..been reading up on tips on this forum...but I just cant find my hustle

    i know that i'm working in pretty aggressive environments...but i dont know why i keep choking after my initial openers. this is my second time around dancing...i started, took a break, and started up again. i'm not afraid of approaching customers...but i seriously CHOKE after the initial "hi. how are you"

    has anyone else come across this or offer words of advice/encouragement?
    What club do you work at when you are in Vegas?

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    I go to treasures but mainly club paradise

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    You've only been dancing a year. Don't be so hard on yourself.




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