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    Sad My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    We are completely in love. We are expecting a baby May 2. He is adopting her (not the biological father). He commends me on my decision to keep her; after all, she is my own flesh. I wouldn't feel right not keeping her but now I have to go back to dancing regardless and that was a decision I was prepared to go through with even before we started seeing each other at the beginning of September 2010. He understands the practical side of dancing (he says he would do the same given my situation) however it kills him inside knowing that I will be taking my clothes off for other men (and that he doesn't make enough money so i dont have to). And it doesn't make me feel any better...but I have to do this for my little girl. Help!

    Thing is...I completely understand how he feels...


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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    That's a very tough place to be in. Do you want to dance, or do you just feel like it's the best way for you to make enough money to support yourself and your baby? There is other work out there that you can try out that might make both of you feel more comfortable if it's the latter. Many girls on here do camming or are phone sex operators, so that could be something worth looking into. There's also waitressing at strip clubs, so you'd still be able to make tips and without taking your clothes off. Also a plethora of non-adult jobs out there. Call centres tend to pay well above minimum wage and also have flexible hours, which I imagine is an important part of why dancing is so good for you when you'll have a baby.

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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    Hello,
    This might help. I totaly understand how he feels.
    What I feel whats wrong with me and my GF is that since this job is new along with all the other things, we never manged to get a scheldule or discuss what is going through our minds.

    Only when the shit happened is when we discussed the topic.
    My GF assured me and I know shw is at the best club possible for a guys sake.

    No lap dances, no touching, no vip rooms, or private rooms.
    She just dances and tables.
    It saying for boths your sake which we failed to do but attempting is put a gameplan in place . Talk Talk Talk,

    One thing my GF doesnt do is talk shes a little introverted . Remember Guys when in love cant read minds. So we think the worse, we need some assurance that our GF are ok. When our GF are wrking we dont want to tink they are being disrepescted. That is the hard part for me.

    On the money thing I feel the same, and I promised her I will take care of her when I get reestablished, Bless her soul she never askes for anything

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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    Sorry for him but if he wants you to stop he needs to be able to pick up the slack. No one should have to struggle in this world. If you have the means to support yourself you should be entitled to exercise those means.

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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    What's wrong with taking your clothes off for other men and getting money in the process? Worry if they give you $$$$ to put your clothes back on!
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    Quote Originally Posted by Jessie_tinydancer View Post
    Sorry for him but if he wants you to stop he needs to be able to pick up the slack. No one should have to struggle in this world. If you have the means to support yourself you should be entitled to exercise those means.

    I am sure it is a hard choice because you love him. I agree with Jessie if he wants you to stop he should pick up the slack so you can explore other options if you're ready to quit dancing.

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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    Quote Originally Posted by taylormadison View Post
    I am sure it is a hard choice because you love him. I agree with Jessie if he wants you to stop he should pick up the slack so you can explore other options if you're ready to quit dancing.
    ^This.

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    Default Re: My Fiance is hurt by what I do for a living...

    He has accepted that I am going back, He is a very understanding person. But I do understand how he feels but I am not ready to sit in poverty if I know I can do something about it.

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