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Last edited by Kisca; 04-15-2011 at 10:19 PM.





Bad idea. First off, did he spend any money on you? If not then no way would I even consider it. He's cheap and more than likely wants sex (and please don't just have sex with a guy at a club).
Everyone has heard my story, but I met him at a club. I've known several dancers who dated customers and rarely does it turn out well.
I totally get this logic, but personally I'd have a harder time dating someone who HAD spent money on me than someone who didn't, just because the customer/dancer boundary would be so much more clear. That being said, there's totally a huge chance he was simply looking to pick up a stripper (maybe he asked the girls who went up to him trying to sell dances and that's why they left him). Tread with caution, but, I mean, if you're interested then you're interested. Sure a strip club is a weird place to meet a potential flame, but weirder things have happened.
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I've said on here before that I have once. I was dancing in the middle of nowhere and met a hot firefighter. The thing about meeting IN the club is that since you are dancing on them .... you can feel chemistry right then and there and basically it was irresistible. Granted .... he spent like $600ish on dances that night too. Before I knew it , we went on a date, then our second or third date was a 5 day trip to Vegas ( at the time, I wasn't sure if he wanted to by my sugar daddy or boyfriend, we settled into bf/gf in Vegas). Lol. Anyway ... that's my story but keep in mind that this is just ONE person in 2 YEARS of dancing. I don't regret it but it turned to a disaster because he lives in the sticks and I can travel to the sticks to make my stripper money but am horrified of living there. He also had kids and I didn't want to have kids in my life yet . Basically ..... we didn't think about it too much and just had a hot three month relationship that had to end eventually.
It sounds like yours was there and not spending , which would piss me off. He shouldn't be in there if he isn't buying dances or tipping on stage at least. Go if you want. With us, he gave me NO shit about dancing ! He didn't " turn" and want me to quit or anything. He just accepted that it was a part of me!
Last edited by carmen_b; 03-28-2011 at 05:00 PM.
You go out with this guy you prove every single PUA that said "don't ever spend money at a strip club" right, please don't do that.





I did, twice. both were in the military. I caught one in bed naked with 2 of his squadmates and the other one I just used for his money.
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In eleven years working the clubs, if there's one thing I have learned, it's that spending money on lapdances is a very bad idea if a guy wants to hook up with dancers. The guys I see hooking up (without paying for it) are not ever the ones blowing large amounts of cash on dances. I have seen a very few exceptions to this rule, like maybe 2-3 in eleven years.
Tipping well and buying drinks, or even judiciously paying women for their time; these are not harmful and can be beneficial--unless the customers in question spend the money on the dumb dancers who like abusive guys, which is a very bad idea. Of course, getting involved with women who like assholes is always a bad idea, unless you are a fucking asshole of course.
But going to the stripclub and not spending money as a part of some plan to score strippers will also backfire in spectacular fashion, for 99% of guys out there.
Getting back to the OP. It sounds like he was acting agitated/nervous while he was in the club. I would be very curious as to the reason why--before I went anywhere with him. Maybe he was really concerned over getting the sky-diving license, and maybe he was tossing that out there to impress you, but had other reasons for being nervous/acting weird (or have I misread your description?). I meet very few customers who can resist pumping themselves up to the dancers. "I'm acting nervous because I have to pass my sky-diving license test tomorrow." would be a classic way to pump yourself up, whether or not you actually were a skydiver.
Last edited by Djoser; 03-28-2011 at 10:27 PM.
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I don't know if I was clear, but I wasn't talking dances specifically, just in general. That makes a big difference. I've known a few girls who dated these guys and the guys usually just wanted sex (thought dancers were sluts), liked the idea of dancers, or were cheap. I should mention the one time I dated a customer he was a foot fetishist and rarely bought dances. I doubt I would have wanted to date him if he never spent money at all, though it's important to note he was not one of my biggest money spenders.
Kisca, the fact that he says "all the girls like him" gives me bad vibes, like he tries this a lot, especially if he's good looking. There was a customer at a club I worked at who was good looking and managed to date many of the dancers. Then he'd come in the club and brag about it.





You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
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I met my current guy in a club. They're not bad just because they're there you know. Take it on a case by case basis. So far he's one of the sweetest guys I've ever met and treats me like a princess.
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I've been dating someone off and on for about 7 years, that I met at a club when she was a dancer. It seems to have worked out well so far.



I have twice. Both times it was awesome. Actually fell in love with him. It's crazy, but after him staring at me for like 15 mins I walked right up to him and said something about it. He bought me a red bull and we sat down. I ran straight down a listo you want a dance?Are you a pimp? How many girlfriends do you have? Where do you work? Have you been to jail?Are you a felon? How do you spell your last name? I got honest answers to all my questions and we started talking. I searched through the county court and child molester database to verify what he said. It still took me a month to let him take me out alone. It's been 6yrs and I still think about him everyday. He was one of the most special people I've ever met in my life. If someone else's idiotic drug fueled decision hadn't taken his life I'd be married with kids by now.
The second guy did buy a few dances, he's the one from the "girl fucking guy on couch" story. After a beginning like that we couldn't help, but bond. We went out whenever he came to town and have kept in touch over the years. We are still friends now and its been 3.5yrs. The thing is you never know when you'll meet someone compatible to you. Each one of these guys was just being themselves. No game, no hype, just honesty from the very beginning and I gave the same. Sometimes you just know when to cross that border. On the flip-side, are you looking for someone to date or a boyfriend?
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^ Yeah, taking care of your friend post op should hardly fuck it up. This dude should be taking you OUT anyway. Why hanging out at 1 a.m. instead of a date earlier ? Hopefully another day + earlier date iwill happen f you like him.






Three of the six dancers I've known as friends met mates at work. Two of the three married the guys.
I only dated 1 chick who I meet as a custie at the club, but she really wanted who I was onstage & to be my sugamomma make me a takencare of trophy wife. However hot/extremely beautiful she was I just was not cool with feeling like she was buying me or how she wanted to dress me up to show off to her friends (seriously I never felt so objectified by a girl) & she used to brag about our sex life while I was on stage in graphic detail. I like that she was things badass loaded beautiful chick thatwas great at sex & wanted to marry me, but it was for all the wrong reasons & I hated playing into the role she wanted me in which reminded me of being at work more then just ever getting to be myself around her.
I won't date any customer who wants to walk in & keep a stripper becuz that's just not who I am offstage & no1 not even a super hott chick can pay me enough to be a stripper 24/7 with them. It was hott fun at 1st, but seriously I want some1 that wants me for me not just to be their personal sexy arm candy wifie/whore. I would play along again 4 the right price & great sex, but long term I just couldn't commit myself 2.
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^ haha
wow thats not how I expected this thread to go.
Good though, thats cool! lol Im interested to see where this goes. How akward meeting his mom!
He is either cool or needy with the whole mom thing...IDK strange move..I hope he is cool Kisca, I know you have been lonely.
i say good luck and have fun!!! could turn out great for you. he wanted you to meet his mom, aawww. sounds like a sweetie..like a real person! (we're all real people, but some peoples "realness" you just dont want to touch.)
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That's not to say anybody can do or say anything to me but it's acting. Playing a role. That simple." -- Pure![]()
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Well usually it's a disaster getting involved with customers, but there are always exceptions to every rule. A dancer just married a guy who came into our club a lot (though he never ever got dances), and they are still together after a few months now. You never know.
Hope it works out alright for you. At least he's not just trying to get laid by a stripper!
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I'm happy you met a cool guy & this will help you get over your ex.



He sounds like a decent guy. Idt meeting his mom before sex is weird. Perhaps family is important to him and you are important to him also. He wanted his mom to meet the new lady in his life even if its not sexual yet. Guys let their mom's meet their female friends who matter/have lasting potential in their lives. I don't like to meet moms personally, but its because dads love me and moms, well..not so much. It sounds like you all are enjoying getting to know each other and the fact that you are meeting the people in his life who matter should let you know where you stand. And the walking away with you thing, he's smart and considerate of your feelings.
Thank Goodness I smartened up! The old me is dead and gone.
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