Sorry, this is a long post. Wanted to give you some backstory.
Alright, here we go.
I met this guy at a convention that I work at every year in September(he’s also staff). At the time I was engaged and he was in a relationship. But I had one of those “OMG I am super attracted to this person” moments. We had a brief – but amazing!- conversation and then I had to go handle a situation that had come up in our department. By the time I got back, everyone was asleep and I didn’t see him again.
Fast forward through January, when I break off the engagement, and mid-February when he breaks off the relationship. I was sitting with my friend at dinner and he was asking me about the last time I felt that spark with someone. I immediately thought of this guy and spent the next two weeks trying to remember enough about him so that I could figure out who he was.
- I had a couple things working in my favor –
He’s a director at the con - which means he has to be local and someone ought to know who he is.
So I asked my assistant director through chat if he had any idea who this guy was and found out his name. I also found out that he was single (well, sorta – but that’s what we’re getting to…) Over drinks with my AD later that night, I got a bit tipsy, and had my laptop with me. With a bit of prompting, I initiate a conversation.
Basically, we’ve talked virtually every night for the past month (including that one) for about 6-8 hours a day.
We met in person last Tuesday – the chemistry is amazing. And we basically spent the whole weekend together.
But here’s the problem: his ex.
Apparently he has a couple of really bad ones. And the most recent one is essentially stalking him. And since he was with her when he got my message on Facebook, she knows who I am. I guess that she assumed that we’ve been talking this whole time (she was right) and when she was out of town for work (they work in the same shop) I picked him up. And I guess that she heard about it.
So on Sunday, after I went home, he got a call from his ex because she wanted to bitch about her weekend. And then she said that she needed to ‘warn him’ about me. Apparently, she dug up this guy that I’ve seen about two times since I met him 10 years ago, and she claims that he told her that he and I do ecstasy and LSD together and that I had given him syphilis.
WTF?!? So not true!
I mean, at least spread rumors about something that I really did!
But I’m concerned now that just because I want to continue hanging out with this really amazing person, my reputation will end up getting dragged through the gutter. I mean, I’m ok with the whole having unresolved issues with your ex (mine is still moving out!) I just don’t know how to handle her catty immature behavior.
She’s sunk her claws into his life so deeply that he can hardly get her out. Made buddy-buddy with his friends, his parents, his brother’s girlfriend. Sits outside his house and watches it. Grills him about where he’s been all weekend and snidely says ‘I bet you just stayed with her all weekend.’
He doesn’t want to be outright mean because they work together, but apparently, she’s been lying about him now too.
My ex, on the other hand, has been really cool and nice about everything. I told him about some of it, and even he thinks it's fucked up.
I guess I would just appreciate some advice. And PLEASE, none of the ‘ditch that guy, go for someone else stuff.’ I’m really happy with him – I’m just not happy with her.



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