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    What do you do when a reg falls in love with you? I have one who I've taken indy and who spends at least 4 hrs a week on cam w/me. Most of it is just talking, too. He wants to meet (of course) and would be willing to pay for my time. Not really considering that, but it's worth bringing up. He's genuinely infatuated with me and I don't lead him on, I tell him I'm married, all of it. He knows, he's cool about it, but he's always telling me he loves me and wishes we could be together.

    He's a really nice guy, I like him a lot as a friend and I might even talk to him if he weren't paying me (definitely not as much as we do now) but I feel bad for the guy. I suppose there's not really a problem here, I just feel kinda bad about it.

    "I looooove you Isobel. You're [insert a line of superlatives]!" all the time, all night long

    "Um. You know I'm an internet stripper, right? I like you and all but this is a service industry kind of thing. I'm married and I love him very much."

    "I know." he sighs happily, "I can love you still."

    I don't know. I just feel like this is all going to end in someone's tears.


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    Him: we could meet... im 5ft 9 sexy italian with a 8 inch love stick...imagine playing with me... how would you do it
    Me: I would cut off your dick and feed it to the pigs

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    This is a question that has been on my mind as well. Hope someone can answer it.

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    First of all, you were honest with him upfront, right? Sounds like it. He can stiill dream though , but still should pay until he doesn't want to anymore. What if you did let him hit you up for free? And he starts abusing it, doing it while you are working, etc... At least if he pays, that controls when he can talk to you.

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    just remember, feeling love for someone else can feel a lot more gratifying than being loved. personally, i totally love having crushes. it's way more fun than dealing with a real relationship. which is fucked up, but whatever.

    if he actually had you, it wouldn't make him as happy as his distant infatuation. mind, meeting him for money, if you keep it safe, short, and expensive, would be just fine. if you do it, keep it a fantasy. keep yourself on the pedestal he's placed you on.

    look on wikipedia... "limerance". consider that one of the greatest works of literature, dante's divine comedy, was inspired by dante's crush on a woman who'd died years earlier and had never been more than an acquaintance. some people are strange.
    -love everyone but keep them far from your soul-

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    Maybe I'm a horrible person, but I've learned to just shrug off this question when it starts a-tapping on my shoulder. No one is in love with me. Not even the guys I talk to for an hour at a time, multiple times a week. All I am is a reflection of their desires. "I'm" some weird-fantasy-pedestal-woman. So, no, they're not in love with me; they're not even infatuated with me. They're infatuated with a role I'm playing, a scenario I'm echoing back at them, maybe. And I don't really care. At all. I like my work a lot, and I don't let myself feel bad about it.

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    Sex&Grammer has it right. he's not in love with you. He's in love with the idea of you. He's in love with the dynamic he has with you now. Try just asking for more money. Seriously, now's the time you deserve a good pay raise.
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    Ultimately he is using you as a tool to fulfill his sexual desires and masturbatory fantasies. You are NOT just a reflection of his desires. You are in fact a reflection of himself. You are projecting and mirroring him to himself. He is receiving erotic gratification from this psycho-sexual exchange.

    I would go as far as saying that if you really and truly analyze what is going on with most of these men we entertain they suffer from narcissism and/or narcissistic personality disorder. Most of these men are very selfish, vain, and self centered. They play games of deceit and manipulation with you and every single woman in their lives. They are incapable of handling a real woman and a real relationship.

    They are actually in love with themselves. When you masturbate you are essentially having sex with yourself. For most of these men masturbation is a chronic and compulsive disorder. The best sex they have is with their hand. Rather than face this sad reality and predicament they lie to themselves and develop crushes and infatuations with women they encounter at work, on the street, chat rooms, web cam sites, phone sex lines, etc.

    So don't feel sorry for him. He's playing a game. If you ladies have not noticed most of these men actually love the mind fuck (this psycho-sexual exchange) more than they love actually fucking (sexual intimacy). They are not capable of being emotionally sensitive and considerate. Love is not an emotion that they genuinely understand. He does not love you. He does not love anyone but himself.

    Always remember this and you will do fine in this industry. Get your money from him while you can. Usually once this man's fantasy has run its course with you he will begin the fantasy ALL OVER AGAIN with another virtual woman.
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    There's a guy on MFC who's been in my room a few times talking about marriage, and he's dead ass serious too. He said it doesn't matter to him if he finds his wife on a cam site...as long as he's found her, and he posted his phone number in plain view in public chat and told me to call him. SMH. And he was like "I was in your chat when you first joined MFC, and I asked you to marry me back then too." *rolls eyes*
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    FML! I have this happening to me right now. He tipped me over 2500 yesterday so I wouldnt do pvts. Then he bitches that he needs to save money. Ugh, I cant even type it all here, it would require a phone call to tell you guys all the drama lol.

    We need to do non nakey cam conference sessions or something, so it would feel like we are all hanging out talking lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    just remember, feeling love for someone else can feel a lot more gratifying than being loved. personally, i totally love having crushes. it's way more fun than dealing with a real relationship. which is fucked up, but whatever.

    if he actually had you, it wouldn't make him as happy as his distant infatuation. mind, meeting him for money, if you keep it safe, short, and expensive, would be just fine. if you do it, keep it a fantasy. keep yourself on the pedestal he's placed you on.

    look on wikipedia... "limerance". consider that one of the greatest works of literature, dante's divine comedy, was inspired by dante's crush on a woman who'd died years earlier and had never been more than an acquaintance. some people are strange.
    This is SO true; people LOVE to LONG for someone...Some experts say this has to do with distant or absent parents in childhood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherriebomb View Post
    FML! I have this happening to me right now. He tipped me over 2500 yesterday so I wouldnt do pvts. Then he bitches that he needs to save money. Ugh, I cant even type it all here, it would require a phone call to tell you guys all the drama lol.

    We need to do non nakey cam conference sessions or something, so it would feel like we are all hanging out talking lol.
    Woah as in $2,500?

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    Its about 125 bucks.

    Never lead a guy on who says they love you , Heart break over someone who lead you on , can result in some nasty revenge.
    As long as you've explained your relationship cant be ,theres nothing els you can do , just let him know you can only keep talkin on the site. And you'd be happy to keep fulfilling all his dreams , in pvt mode.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BuffyFlame View Post
    Never lead a guy on who says they love you , Heart break over someone who lead you on , can result in some nasty revenge.
    As long as you've explained your relationship cant be ,theres nothing els you can do , just let him know you can only keep talkin on the site.
    This is just one opinion. I have absolutely no problem "leading people on" while camming. Not in real life--absolutely not. But at work? Hell yes.

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    Your married.
    Don't think meeting a guy who uses you to get off is a good thing no matter how many conversations ya'll have had not being about sex.

    It would be the fastest way to end the money coming in from this guy.
    Men like to chase. Once they capture, they move on to the next challenge.

    Why take the risk of him becoming a stalker?

    Fantasy should never be reality.

    Lots of good advice here.

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    I friggin wish it was $2500 in real money!! No, it was tokens. So yea $125. I never lead the guys on cause Im terrified of stalkers. I always tell them I have a boyfriend. I also have 3 guns and would love a chance to shoot something besides a paper target lol.

    I do however flirt my ass off and lead them on in more subtle ways I guess. Isn't that what they're paying us for though?

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    I'm probably in the minority on this, but since I occasionally crush on my clients and have no problem doing so, I don't doubt that they crush pretty hard too. Of course, it depends on how much of yourself you put into your shows. But like she sells sanctuary and Camateur mentioned, people get a lot of pleasure from crushing pretty hard. Hell, I love thinking about all the obscene things I'd do to some of these hot guys when I'm offline. I use a few of them for jerk-off material. So I don't think it's all projection (though for a few, it certainly is).

    Of course, love is different. Real love is complicated and deep. Someone can't really love you until they know all your qualities and accept them, whereas camming is all happy fun orgasmic play and sweet conversation.

    So my own policy is to be pretty transparent. I play plenty of sexual and emotional tease and denial, but if I sense that someone's becoming attached beyond the boner-induced crush, I'll remind them to enjoy it for what it is and not dwell on what it could be. If that doesn't stick, then I put him in the "potential stalker" category.

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    Ladies thank you all for all your advice and your help in this thread! There were lots of valuable points of view contributed and I appreciate all of them!


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