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    k what is wrong w/ me?? I know money doesn't happen in an hour; and for sure custies don't even really come in til like maybe after 12?? the later the hour the better? But whenever i come in to work i always promise/tell myself that i'm gonna work til closing; but when like 9-10pm rolls around and there still aren't good custies (or even if there are alot of dudes that doesn't necessarily mean $$$) i get bored and annoyed and don't wanna be there anymore~~~ how can i tell myself to stay positive and hustle?
    btw, after like 2 months of working at a club, i still am not "comfortable" enough to approach/talk to all the guys in the club!!! why am i still shy/unconfident?? not to sound conceited but i am probably one of the hot girls in the clubs and there's no reason for me to be unconfident...if i was just outgoing and wild and etc then i would clean house every time i go work...maybe this isn't the right job for me??

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    Default Re: Get so bored easily!!!~

    I get bored, too, and frustrated if the customers are difficult or not spending. I like to take a break & touch up my hair or makeup, change outfits, get something to eat, have an energy drink... something remotely productive. Try to stay in "work mode" if you can.

    It only takes ONE good customer to spend $$$ and make your night, so you should always be going through the club approaching everyone. It's hard to do sometimes (especially if you're new... you've only been dancing for 2 months?) but that's the best way to make money. You'll get more comfortable over time. You already know you're hot, so if you just push yourself I'm sure you'll bank : )

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    Quote Originally Posted by seashell View Post
    I get bored, too, and frustrated if the customers are difficult or not spending. I like to take a break & touch up my hair or makeup, change outfits, get something to eat, have an energy drink... something remotely productive. Try to stay in "work mode" if you can.

    It only takes ONE good customer to spend $$$ and make your night, so you should always be going through the club approaching everyone. It's hard to do sometimes (especially if you're new... you've only been dancing for 2 months?) but that's the best way to make money. You'll get more comfortable over time. You already know you're hot, so if you just push yourself I'm sure you'll bank : )
    ur right! but i esp hate when there's just too many girls (like 30 or so! its ridiculous)!! and like only handful of dudes....i still gotta get over the part when custies say no/turn me down etc and not take it personal....it just makes me kinda more snotty/snobby and think "ok ew whatever; like you would even have a chance of me even looking ur way out of the club" etc..'
    how do u not let it ruin ur mood and motivation to just keep hustling etc.?? sometimes i really wish girls could just sit/lounge around and the guys do the asking/begging for dances etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by JuicYJocelyN View Post
    ur right! but i esp hate when there's just too many girls (like 30 or so! its ridiculous)!! and like only handful of dudes....i still gotta get over the part when custies say no/turn me down etc and not take it personal....it just makes me kinda more snotty/snobby and think "ok ew whatever; like you would even have a chance of me even looking ur way out of the club" etc..'
    how do u not let it ruin ur mood and motivation to just keep hustling etc.?? sometimes i really wish girls could just sit/lounge around and the guys do the asking/begging for dances etc
    Girl I am 100% right there with you. I feel that I am hot and didn't even need to know any moves let me just say I suck at dancing on stage. and im one of 100 girls at this club and I only go there maybe every 3 to 4 months and I have no idea why they even hired me but I know that I am one of the top 50 hot girls so walking up to anyone is so frightening that I work for about 3 hours then leave. not even earning any money at all
    I'm the stripper you can be in love with

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    Quote Originally Posted by britney45317 View Post
    Girl I am 100% right there with you. I feel that I am hot and didn't even need to know any moves let me just say I suck at dancing on stage. and im one of 100 girls at this club and I only go there maybe every 3 to 4 months and I have no idea why they even hired me but I know that I am one of the top 50 hot girls so walking up to anyone is so frightening that I work for about 3 hours then leave. not even earning any money at all
    oh trust me, i have nooo problem etc at all in life when it comes to being wanted by REAL men i'm talking about lawyers, doctors, actors, successful gorgeous men; i am not frightened to hit up the fools in SC it's just that it's kinda still low/beneath me to act so desperate and make them think i wanna even ask/beg let alone want to get dance touching them etc
    anyways, i know that's the "game" in this "fascinating" job but...

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    Treat it as a business. It's not a party and you're not there to pick a hot date, so don't get bitchy or annoyed when guys say "No". Just accept the fact that you were not the right choice for him at this moment.

    You have no idea, what might be behind him saying "No". Maybe he's nervous? Maybe he's got a bad stomach? Maybe he wants to "shop" around a little more? Maybe you didn't justify the cost of the dance well enough? Maybe you didn't genuinely care about him as a person? Have a little more respect of your customers, they come in the club to spend their hard earned money. Calling them "fools" is not going to get you very far.

    As for getting bored, bring a good motivational sales book with you or listen to motivational podcasts. Oh, by the way, have you picked up the Dancerwealth course yet? If not, then that's where you should start.
    "Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them." - Dream for an Insomniac

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    Quote Originally Posted by JuicYJocelyN View Post
    But whenever i come in to work i always promise/tell myself that i'm gonna work til closing; but when like 9-10pm rolls around and there still aren't good custies (or even if there are alot of dudes that doesn't necessarily mean $$$) i get bored and annoyed and don't wanna be there anymore
    I know how you feel. This is why I hate evening shifts at my club. I've tried started at 4 because the after work crowd is pretty great and goes to about 7-8. I've tried to stay later, but then the club just empties out until 11-12. Most girls don't make their money until the last hour (1am) and I just don't have the energy for that. It's super frustrating to just be sitting around with all these girls just waiting for customers to come in too. Maybe try working an earlier shift or coming in later in the night so you don't have to sit around just waiting?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Purrfect View Post
    Treat it as a business. It's not a party and you're not there to pick a hot date, so don't get bitchy or annoyed when guys say "No". Just accept the fact that you were not the right choice for him at this moment.

    You have no idea, what might be behind him saying "No". Maybe he's nervous? Maybe he's got a bad stomach? Maybe he wants to "shop" around a little more? Maybe you didn't justify the cost of the dance well enough? Maybe you didn't genuinely care about him as a person? Have a little more respect of your customers, they come in the club to spend their hard earned money. Calling them "fools" is not going to get you very far.
    now that is some VERY GOOD advice.....well said!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    I know how you feel. This is why I hate evening shifts at my club. I've tried started at 4 because the after work crowd is pretty great and goes to about 7-8. I've tried to stay later, but then the club just empties out until 11-12. Most girls don't make their money until the last hour (1am) and I just don't have the energy for that. It's super frustrating to just be sitting around with all these girls just waiting for customers to come in too. Maybe try working an earlier shift or coming in later in the night so you don't have to sit around just waiting?
    yea but unfortunately the club i'm at doesn't have day shift; only nights! And of course i would love to come in later at night like 10 or 11 pm but then have to pay house/stage fee and then i won't get any free dance credits... that's the only reason i come in before 8pm; and then of course by the time midnight rolls around i'm freakin restless/bored outa my mind and lose all [email protected]!

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    This is silly. If you land a big whale, its likely going to be before 10pm, some businessman travelling and lonely, bored.

    Its only 2-3 hours, can you find nothing to occupy yourself? Make friends with the staff and earn some social capital. Observe and make mental notes of everything around you..from the structure of the club, the habits of the custies, the strategies of the girls around you. Watch girls on stage and enjoy their dancing, or pick up pointers.

    Is this what has become of the younger generation with all the instant gratificatiom?

    Or..you can switch clubs.

    OR..you can take the financial hit and just come in later. If you lose steam right when the money rolls in, then it might be worth it to invest a bit more to come in later when you're fresh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JuicYJocelyN View Post
    ...I am not frightened to hit up the fools in SC it's just that it's kinda still low/beneath me to act so desperate and make them think i wanna even ask/beg let alone want to get dance touching them etc...
    You sound like you have a lot of issues going on here and it goes far beyond ADHD.

    Look, when I first started I hated the job, but soon realized if I was going to survive and be successful I had to find something about the job that I liked or that would help me make it more tolerable.

    It can be anything. For me, it's finding fun in socializing with strangers and the thrill of the hunt. I have also spruced up my lapdancing skills and dance routine onstage so I don't get bored.

    When business is slow, I find something else to do to occupy my time so I don't lose interest or motivation as to why I'm really there.

    It can be anything. For me, I chit chat with positive, non-buying custys or other dancers to kill time, freshen up, eat, and talk on the phone, etc.

    Maybe this isn't the right occupation for you, I dunno. What I do know is, if you want this to work and work successfully, you need to humble yourself to the business.

    You are creatively begging for money. Call it sales if that makes you feel better and get over it or get out of the business...

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    Id pay the house fee and arrive later. I usually dont start until 10 because I also get bored when it is quiet. I work better when I know I have less time. If I work 5 hours or 8 hours I usually make around the same or only a difference of $100-200 extra. If I work in the busy hours at the club I can still make my targets in less time. I disagree about the whales coming early too... some of the biggest spenders are those who are blind drunk which tends to happen later. Not that you wont get the lonely business guy but you can just as easily get the drunk guy who spends the same late. Although my club is open till 4 and we can be in private shows till about 5.30-6am so Im not sure how late your club is open.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seashell View Post
    I get bored, too, and frustrated if the customers are difficult or not spending. I like to take a break & touch up my hair or makeup, change outfits, get something to eat, have an energy drink... something remotely productive. Try to stay in "work mode" if you can.

    yes. this.

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    i am the same way. when a custie says no to me im thinking "are you fucking kidding me? how can you say no to ME, im soooo fucking cute everyone should want me"

    and ks- the guys with money in la arent necessarily early birds. ive worked at clubs where its been 3 am and finally a guy or group walks in and spends a ton of money

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