
WHY is this so hard for men to comprehend? I'm 28 and very sure that kids are not for me. I don't have the maternal instinct, and I have no desire to be a mom. That SHOULD be the end of the conversation on the topic, but I always have to justify my position. It's as if having a vagina should automatically fill me with the desire to grunt out some spawn.
I ended a four year relationship in November with a guy who was convinced that I'd "change my mind" about kids. He was so sure I'd see the light and change my thoughts on having a family. There were other issues..but it ended up being a big fucking waste of time.
So I started dating a new guy in Dec (I move on fast!) and I was VERY CLEAR from the start that if he was sure he wanted a family one day, that I was probably not the woman for him. We seemed to be on the same page, as he said didn't think he'd EVER want kids. He's commented on it several times since that... Frankly, he has a hard time just taking responsibility for his dog.
So the other night we were talking, and I mentioned that I wished I could find a doctor to sterilize me (my age and childless status makes that particularly difficult) and he was like "really"? I asked him if he suddenly had changed his attitude about kids, and he said he didn't know. This pissed me off because I was SO CLEAR about this from the start. Basically, he said that most of the time he doesn't want kids...but then once in a while, he thinks it would be "nice to have the option." He is 39, never married, no children...and he still doesn't know if he wants a family?
So, I said we should talk more about it (this was a phone convo) in person because it could be a deal breaker. He responded by asking if I would change my mind if I met the right man.
The "right man" doesn't have anything to do with it for me. The "right man" for me will NOT WANT KIDS. Why is this so hard to understand? Are there any good men out there who don't want babies?! (and not those who don't want kids because they already have some by another woman). ugh.
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