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    Personally, I try to keep things professional. I'm usually pretty good about keeping it in my pants. I can count on one hand the number of entertainers I've slept with. Sometimes it just happens, you work with and develop a rapport with certain girls. It's usually strictly against the club rules. Despite that, I know that some DJs are complete man-whores. I was just wondering how prevalent it is for entertainers to actually copulate with their DJs? I've been very careful, and never had any drama with anyone I've done anything with... anyone had things blow up in their face, though? Been treated differently at work if you did (or, heaven forbid, if you DIDN'T) have sex with the DJ?

    Any stories or annecdotes would be appreciated.

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    I went out with one DJ and would NEVER, EVER repeat it. He turned out to be a pimp on the side and was using the club to recruit. Otherwise, I've always had the view that I never shit where I eat so to speak. I dated exactly three people I met in clubs: the pimp DJ, a bouncer (broke up amicably) and one customer (my last boyfriend).

    However, it did seem that most DJs were dating dancers, some seriously (a few were even married to dancers) some just screwing around. I've noticed that many of the guys with a serious dancer girlfriend treated her differently and often were more protective of her.
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    I always try to keep my personal feelings seperate from work. If I'm dating an entertainer, I don't factor that into how I treat her at work. Of course, I'm not going to start dating anyone that I don't already have a good rapport with in the first place. Factors that affect how I treat you at work are how well you tip (obviously), whether you are pleasant to work with (don't come up into the DJ booth screaming at me about something I did, treat me like a professional and I'll treat you the same) and how much extra effort I have to put into working with you (am I constantly having to bring in new music for you? Extra effort into your light show?). Even with all these factors, I do try not to play favorites except in the most subtle of ways.

    Point being, I'm not even going to THINK about dating an entertainer if she doesn't already treat me respectfully. The last thing I need is some drama queen coming back and biting me in the ass (figuratively).

    One thing that drives me crazy is when a girl comes up and tries to flirt with me aggressively, and then thinks that her attention means she doesn't have to tip me. Yes, I know you get paid for your affections. That is not a currency I accept, however. Yes, a little workplace flirtation is going to happen, it can make the day more fun. Just don't think that it excuses you from tipping at the end of the day. We're all there for the same reason, to pay our bills.

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    Yes, I'll admit to a double standard here. I have zero interest in any guy who works in the strip club in any capacity. No thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lacy Luck View Post
    Yes, I'll admit to a double standard here. I have zero interest in any guy who works in the strip club in any capacity. No thanks.
    I admit to this too now. I am retired but not only wouldn't I date a guy who works in a club I wouldn't even date a guy who frequents clubs. I know this sounds hypocritical considering my last boyfriend I met at a club but he doesn't frequent them now.

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    I'm on the road and have hooked up with guys who work in the club. They're around, respect / understand the girls and. well. they're around and sometimes hot!

    Just got to make sure it doesn't become a drama bomb and blow up. But then again, I'm sure that MANNNNNY girls have slept with them. I see it as just being part of their job. The in-house-dick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by johnjdick View Post
    Despite that, I know that some DJs are complete man-whores. I was just wondering how prevalent it is for entertainers to actually copulate with their DJs?
    See... the first statement is something I've been aware of for a loooong time. Sleeping with a lot of strip club DJ's is basically like sleeping with half the girls you work with in one shot.
    Which is disgusting.

    So I'd never go there.
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    Lol. Very pragmatic outlook you have there, Luscious Sadie.

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    My boyfriend is a strip club DJ and I met him at my old club. I work at a new club now which pretty much eliminated any drama and my guy is a pretty damn good one, I was the first girl at work he ever got involved with sexually in any way.

    I'm pretty sure we are the exception not the rule though ...

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    This one girl at work is dating the DJ and guess what?? They're both getting fired. (I'm good friends with one of the managers ) She will call him on her cell phone while he's up in the booth, demand why she didn't get this song or that song, and basically just shit all over his night. She expects him to come down in between every girls set and talk to her or sit by her. He's not allowed to talk to any of us girls unless it has to do with music. He used to be cool and outgoing before she came along, now he's a shell of himself Since she doesn't want to change her ways and he's pussy whipped, they are both on their way out.
    I think that if you date anyone in this business, be it a manager, DJ, fellow dancer, etc.. you need to have a control of your jealousies and an understanding that this is a job. Flirting gets you $$$$$. We are going home to YOU.

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    sex with a dj or doorman is bad juju! only leads to bad things! and yes I did it once and turned out bad.
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    Almost always causes problems, and can get you fired. It contributed seriously to my losing two jobs, even though I was not the one making the advances. Doesn't matter. Sleeping with dancers in your own club is asking for trouble. Not that I've done it all that much compared to some DJs--and not with any dancers I have worked with (while I was sleeping with them) for many years now.

    The thing to do is just wait until they go to another club in your city, and almost all of them will eventually in most areas. Then you can do whatever you want.

    The only safe exceptions might be the dancers who are only in the club for a week or two. Even then if they turn out to be a whackjob, it could still blow up on you. One just gave me her number out of the blue last night, I'm thinking about it because she is gone in a week.

    DJs also have to remember that the dancers' tipping depends a lot on whether and how much they like you. If you are a horndog chances are you're going to piss off more of them than if you just flirt mercilessly with the ones who like it, leave the rest alone--and don't sleep with any of them until they leave.


    And yeah it's hard to pull off not only because the DJs will get jealous of the dancers they are fucking, but the male staff will get jealous of the DJs that the dancers are fucking (and if it's the manager who wanted the girl you are fucked--happened to me), and worst of all the other dancers will fuck with the situation every time, and the one you are fucking will often freak the hell out about it.

    A girl who was fucking the other DJ a few years back threw her drink at another dancer in the booth, almost blew up the equipment, and led to a chain being out on the booth which led to my being fired for a week for refusing to put the fucking thing up. Needless to say I was pissed off that his problem became my problem. Now it just hangs there because I don't need it.
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    Most of the DJ's I've worked with were arrogant little pricks (I shouldn't use the word "little" as most of them were actually quite overweight) who claimed they were sleeping with half the girls already. They had serious attitudes and did nothing but constantly shit-talk dancers. I have a feeling that this attitude towards dancers was more due to the fact that they were getting turned down a lot, and they were bitter, as I honestly can't see anyone but the skankiest girls fucking these guys.

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    I've never dated anyone I've worked with and I don't think I would unless we got along REALLY well and I got to know him and if kept it discreet. I'm not really that girl who hangs out at the DJ booth and chit chats. If the DJ is nice I'll request maybe 2 or 3 songs every night and tip him extra, but I keep it business. When I'm at work I'm thinking about money, not finding a boyfriend.

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    I agree with firemaiden. At least to my experience, they seem to have quite the ego. One of them at least. The others seemed pretty cool. Otherwise, I think the whole situation would just be playing with fire. Sleeping with any co-worker (especially one in upper management) is just added drama to an already drama-filled situation. No judgement to others who do but in a strip club?!...too much stress imo. No thanks.

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    ...and worst of all the other dancers will fuck with the situation every time, and the one you are fucking will often freak the hell out about it.
    In one club that I frequent, a dancer started working at the club while she was living with the DJ. She had been working at another club, but I guess these two geniuses thought it would be good to work together.

    Some of the veteran dancers, who generally don't like new girls anyway but really did not like this girl for a few reasons, made damned sure to tell their customers that the new girl was dating the DJ. No doubt that this fucked with her money - who the hell wants a LD from a girl whose live-in boyfriend is sitting in a booth right next to the LD area?

    In retaliation for this and other bad treatment of the new girl, the DJ started shorting certain girls in their stage rotations. This club has a tip walk, so lost stage appearances = lost income.

    Just a bad overall situation with a lot of drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    Most of the DJ's I've worked with were arrogant little pricks (I shouldn't use the word "little" as most of them were actually quite overweight) who claimed they were sleeping with half the girls already. They had serious attitudes and did nothing but constantly shit-talk dancers. I have a feeling that this attitude towards dancers was more due to the fact that they were getting turned down a lot, and they were bitter, as I honestly can't see anyone but the skankiest girls fucking these guys.
    Oh god I have known quite a few of those, especially up in Daytona.

    But you are correct in using the term 'little'. Doesn't matter what size they are outside, if they are a little man inside they will talk a lot of shit to try and make up for it.

    But...

    In Daytona a lot of these guys actually did sleep with a lot of pretty cute dancers, and I've even seen some serious hotties with total rejects--but that was more often the managers who tended to get more action up there. Some scuzzy bouncers seemed to do pretty well. Most of these guys used drugs as an aid to conquest. And yeah they fucked a lot of skanks too, lol.

    I'm trying to think of how many dancers I've slept with in the club. Not that many, and it was a while ago I stopped.


    And yeah Rick I have seen that shit too. It's insane some of the games people of both sexes will play in this business.
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    Ive never fucked any men who have worked at the strip clubs ... i have dated another dancer who i worked with and slept with a few other dancers... but in general, no.. i dont mix business and sex.

    sometimes it goes smoothly though... i am pretty sure at my current club that one of the dancers is boink-ing the DJ. i dont interact with the DJ so im not sure how it affects his job, but she is a level headed dancer who doesnt seem to be into drama. as far as i can tell it doesnt negatively affect either of their jobs. however, this is rare. i think usually it is either a man whore dj sleepin with all the girls or is a drama infused situation with a dj and a wackjob, as djoser so eloquently put it.
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Sounds like sexual harassment lawsuits to me.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    This is kind of off topic, but are there any female DJ’s?

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    This is kind of off topic, but are there any female DJ’s?
    There are a few. Not many, though.
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    I would if they hired hot females as DJs (which an ex gf of mine did dj at a sc for a brief time or so I heard so I guess I have in retrospect), but at my club the DJs don't have it like that with the dancer & I only know of 1 that dated a dancer briefly. The bouncers/managers on the other hand get a lot more attention/action, but not from me as I'm strictly into girls & by that I mean any hot girl who walks into the club working or custie chances are if she is into girls then I consider her part of my employee benefits package if she is up for it of course. I pretty much don't have rules when it comes to girls as my bosses encourage it more then anything, but I do believe the bartenders would be off limits to me if they ever hired a female bartender that I was attracted to which so far has not been an issue for me.
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    I tried! I pulled out all the stops, almost had him, got him to make out with me... then it turns out being a walking pharmacy affects your abilities. Fail.

    He's still gorgeous, and our working relationship stayed the same after that, partially because we both kept our mouths shut about it. It was fun though, while it lasted! Then again, I'm attracted to charisma, confidence and positions of power, which usually all emulate from good DJs. Combine those three qualities with good to look at and I'm toast, man.

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    This has never been an issue. I've actually been really lucky to have had great DJ's in the clubs I worked at regularly. Really, I was so blessed. There were some not-so-great DJ's, but not at clubs I was at for long, due to unrelated reasons like travel.

    So, I adored most of my DJ's and they loved me. Sure there might have been very light flirtation here and there, but nothing to speak of. For some reason, we always treated each other like professionals with respect. Perhaps because that's how I was. Sure I had a few bad nights where I drank too much, all too common in the industry.

    But I've never had one proposition me, and I've never worked closely with one that I was attracted to. Sure I have worked with attractive looking DJ, but not my type for whatever reason.

    I've been really lucky in many ways. First, the DJ thing. Second, I've never had any significant trouble with females or couples. Third, never have had a pimp attempt to recruit me.

    I did get involved with one manager, briefly, in a city I traveled to for work. It didn't end well and he got fired for mostly unrelated reasons. But if it came down to it, they would have kept me over him because everyone there loved me and "managers" are just as replaceable.

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    Kat the DJ's at my two local clubs are all banging several of the strippers or at least trying. Somehow a guy having control of the music turns them on. The strippers view them as a boss which circles back to the OP. When you are in a position of authority you better play in another sandbox.

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