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"Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them." - Dream for an Insomniac

Oh, how I can relate to EVERYTHING you are saying!! Just like you, I struggled for a long time over how to tell people that I danced. Every time I told lies to my family or just casual acquaintances about it, the dishonesty would make me feel sick. After all, I'm not ashamed of what I do. Though I pissed away a chunk of my earnings in the beginning, I save everything I can now. I've been lucky enough to buy my own home, go to school, start my own business, and invest the rest...all because of this job!!
There came a time when I couldn't keep up the lies anymore, but I'm not a good liar to begin with either. Once I came clean, it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off of my heart. My family took it very well, especially knowing that I had gone from struggling and working 2 crappy jobs and scraping by for rent money to being financially secure, but I know that I have lost a good amount of their trust. My friends knew all along and never judged me. Random people kind of give a mixed response...either they have a lot of questions or wanna tell me about the one time they went there for a bachelor party or whatever.
Though I know that some people judge me now and even look down on me, I do my best to educate them and change their opinion. I'm beyond grateful that I have a job that allows me to dictate my own schedule and provides me with the time and funds to further my education and other interests. I know the same people that frown upon my profession wish they could say they enjoy this kind of freedom.
So I'll wish you the best with whatever you decide to do...it's definitely a tough situation!!



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"Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them." - Dream for an Insomniac



You've a fascinating story. And I love the WW quote.



Your post absolutely inspired me. I love reading stories of dancers who defy the stripper stereotype. I know know that feeling of relief after coming clean about being a dancer. My hiding what I did for a living left me feeling somewhat ashamed because I've always been an honest person when it came to anything and everything. Although I was making a lot of money, didn't feel proud of myself, let alone empowered, because I was afraid of being judged by my family and friends. Now, I feel that my life is no longer stagnant and I'm free to tell who ever the truth about what I do for a living. I've built that "this is me, take it or leave it" attitude, and it feels really, really good.
I wish you the best with all of your endeavors.
"Do what thou wilt..."-Crowley
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When I first started dancing, I thought I would NEVER tell my family. But I hate lying, and making up so many fake stories really bothered me. I felt like I couldn't reveal my true self to anyone; that no one really KNEW me. I've never had anxiety, but at this point in my life I started getting panic attacks, and they were definitely related to work. I talked to my parents less and less frequently because I dreaded having to make up another story about my fake waitressing job. Bottom line, I told them and it was the right decision. Of course you family members, regardless of their culture or beliefs, are not going to be happy to hear that you are an adult entertainer. But if you explain your reasons WHY you do what you do, and show them that your job title really does not reflect on who you are as a person, they will accept it. The more they understand it, the more open they will be. Being honest is so liberating. It WILL be worth it to come clean.
My family and close friends know what I do for a living and that's where it stops. I keep everyone else at an arms length and am very general about my employment with strangers. I have to for my own protection. Call me paranoid, but I'm a real private person and "the world" is on a need to know basis.
Many won't understand why I do what I do and immediately think the worst. I'm not trying to be put on blast, be an advocate, or a poster child for the sex industry. I'm low key and undercover and that's how I like it.
This is what works for me and I have no problem distorting the truth for anyone with questions, but I can live with that. Can you?
Everyone has to find their own balance. I'm in a different place in my life and seriously don't care what other people think, I also don't entertain naysayers either.
Do what works best for you. I have no problems sleeping at night. Hopefully, you can find peace in whatever decision you make.


Hmm that's interesting. I was only talking about family members when I answered this question. So my good friends and family know, but when it comes to everyone else, I lie. I can't imagine how weird/ threatened I would feel telling a complete stranger that I'm a stripper when they ask what I do for a living. Are any of you this honest? I'm curious now.
I'm honest with people not because I want to be,but lying is exhausting. And when I am honest it leaves me feeling very vunerable and unsure,around ppl.
I'M A HUSTLA HOMIE!!!
Hi, I really identify with your post. I am at a point myself where the lies are so exhausting I just want to tell my parents, but as they are Christians who don't have a lot of money and who are really stressed out people already, I feel like to tell them might break them apart and be something they can't handle.
It's awful because every lie feels like I am stabbing them in the back without them even knowing.
I just wish I could tell them and know that they wouldn't worry or be discusted with me.
I really love stripping and it has brought so much GOOD to my life. I have prospered because of it.
So yeah, no advice from me here I'm sorry, just confusion!!
Purrfect... if I may ask, how long have you been dancing for? I really admire your journey and how you have become... it's such an inspiration to me..





Like Klepto, I hid and started having weird paniced moments and weird dreams about stripping and getting caught ect.
I'm retired now ( for the last 3-4 months anyway and trying to stay that way haha ) and didn't ever come out to anyone but my best female friend and who I was dating. I personally just contiued to hide it because I felt like I truly needed the money I was making and I was working REALLY HARD .... so hard in fact that my life outside dancing shouldn't be HARD which is could have become here and there if I was "out". But actually ... in the last three months, I've told a few more people and everyone was cool with it so I really wonder if hiding was hugely beneficial sometimes!
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