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    I went to Flashers with my friend tonight..I see this cute little blonde and I want a dance from her..I walk up to her on stage and say "I want you to dance for me and my friend when you get off stage" and she says ok..she gets off stage and NEVER came to dance for us . I was like WTF?! Me and my friend were watching her guessing why she was avoiding us. Did she forget? Did she think we were bullshitting her? It actually happened twice. Another dancer came over and started talking to us and my friend told her to dance for me. She said ok let me put my cake down (she had some cake in her hand) and never came back Nobody even asked me did I want a dance..I dont understand.. I didnt smell, I was sober, I had money, I wasnt giving dirty looks, I guess having a vagina disqualifies me from being a customer? I watched these girls walk around the rest of the night trying to hustle guys getting rejected or doing one or two dances. I laughed at them.. I left the club with $200 that I WANTED to spend but I was not about to beg a bitch to dance for me. My friend had at LEAST $400 after buying drinks and tipping the waitress a fat tip. Ladies this should be common sense but if someone asks you to dance for them..DANCE FOR THEM!!
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    Default Re: What is it about women custies that repels dancers so much?

    Sounds like they missed out. But we really don't have to dance for anyone we don't want to.

    Some Dancers don't like dancing for women. Personally, I don't mind it, but we - as dancers - get to pick and choose the people we entertain. Maybe the women didn't come back because they forgot. Maybe they're uncomfortable dancing for a fellow vagina. Maybe they didn't think you were serious, or thought you would only get once dance and it wasn't worth it. Maybe they didn't want to encourage more women to come into the strip club.

    I LOVE dancing for well-meaning, well-paying female customers. Much more sensual than dancing for a man. But not every girl feels this way. See the recent thread about it. http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=151969

    Next time, try a different club. Or come visit me!



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    I'm sorry that you were treated that way, I truly am. But there are too many female customers that give good ones like you a bad rap. For a majority of dancers like me, avoiding female customers is as instinctive as breathing.

    This is just based on too many bad experiences with female customers. I have one or 2 female customers that I talk to and dance for occasionally, and believe me it took them months to even get a "hello" out of me let alone dances.

    Maybe become a regular 1x or 2x a week and see where it goes. Approaching a dancer in the club is like trying to pet a tiger in the wild. You may get your head torn off many a time before you actually get near them!
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    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    Sounds like they missed out. But we really don't have to dance for anyone we don't want to.

    Some Dancers don't like dancing for women. Personally, I don't mind it, but we - as dancers - get to pick and choose the people we entertain. Maybe the women didn't come back because they forgot. Maybe they're uncomfortable dancing for a fellow vagina. Maybe they didn't think you were serious, or thought you would only get once dance and it wasn't worth it. Maybe they didn't want to encourage more women to come into the strip club.

    I LOVE dancing for well-meaning, well-paying female customers. Much more sensual than dancing for a man. But not every girl feels this way. See the recent thread about it. http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=151969

    Next time, try a different club. Or come visit me!

    I dance too so I can understand why they are leery of women custies. Thats why I made myself look friendly and relaxed. I wasnt laughing at any of the girls like the other custies but whatever fuck those bitches.

    Ill come see you and give ya all the blonde girls money haha


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    I'm sorry that you were treated that way, I truly am. But there are too many female customers that give good ones like you a bad rap. For a majority of dancers like me, avoiding female customers is as instinctive as breathing.

    This is just based on too many bad experiences with female customers. I have one or 2 female customers that I talk to and dance for occasionally, and believe me it took them months to even get a "hello" out of me let alone dances.

    Maybe become a regular 1x or 2x a week and see where it goes. Approaching a dancer in the club is like trying to pet a tiger in the wild. You may get your head torn off many a time before you actually get near them!
    Yeah I can totally see why they would be iffy about me like I said, but for all they know I could have been a horny lesbian sugar momma. Oh well fuck Flashers Im never going back to that club next time Im going to see 4everresolutions

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    too bad there's not more of you out there! We need good female custies!
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    Default Re: What is it about women custies that repels dancers so much?

    My hsuband and I go out to strip clubs together, and in the hour or two we spend in a club, we get asked maybe ONCE for dances. We would stay longer in a club, but not getting approached at leas to talk, we leave and try another club. We tip well on stage and smile. IDK, I personally always approach couples and females. You are almost always guaranteed a dance or drink.
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    I would have danced for you, no questions asked. I did dances for women and while I felt slightly uncomfortable (only because I am not gay or bi) to me money is money. I did often avoid couples though only because so many women made it known to stay away from their husbands so I did. However, if the couple approached me I would dance for them.

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    I see both sides. On one hand, I get it. I was at a club in Portland in February with my husband and my brother. My brother saw a chick he liked, and I kinda had to chase her down, even after I waved her over. BUT- I couldn't find a single girl to dance for my husband. I didn't even want to watch or go with him to the dance room.

    However, when I was a dancer I avoided women with dudes and women in general, because almost every woman I had given a chance to ended up being abusive in some way. They either bit me, were verbally rude to me, tried to shove their tongues down my throat, grabbed my junk, or some combination thereof. The only three exceptions were well behaved masculine lesbians I danced for in New Orleans.

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    I love dancing for women!





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    I love dancing for wome. But I hate when women come with a male group because one to two women with guys with stop the gravy train on whatever dances, tips, VIPs those guys might have done. Give me two women coming in together and I will give them dances to blow their mind. A couple months back, a man asked me to approach a beautiful bigger woman with really lovely hair and boobies and asked if it would be okay for me to take them both back and for me to dance all over her while he watched. She was slightly leery but game and we had a perfectly lovely (and hot) time for a dance or two and the man and her laughed and chatted for a couple of minutes and went their separate ways.

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    I love dancing for considerate, respectful female customers--but unfortunately, they're in the minority. A lot of female customers are rude, demeaning, jealous, super grabby, or trying to one-up us (like the drunk chicks who try to jump on stage with us or make out with us in order to get attention from guys). I know you say that you were being chill, but how about your friend? How did she feel about being in a club? All it takes is one dirty look from a female customer to make us run the other way--we've had to deal with it way too often.

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    Were you were wearing a dress/ skirt? I will dance for women, but if I notice they're wearing a dress I don't. It's way too much work to make sure it's not riding up and often they get embarrassed or freaked out about it. That's likely not the reason those two wouldn't dance for you, but it's something to keep in mind. I find it odd that no one approached you; at my club women and couples come in all the time and get dances. Although they are never the best spenders and often rude, grabby or overly enthusiastic, they are still customers and generally worth dancing for. As long as you are aware of these traits and make sure you don't practice any of them, I don't see why these girls wouldn't dance for you. Their loss.

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    Allegedly we had a bitchy older customer pee her pants while intoxicated tonight
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    ^^ HAHAHAHA that's awesome

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    Quote Originally Posted by kleptomaniac View Post
    ^^ HAHAHAHA that's awesome

    I do emphasize allegedly....I did notice a large prominent wet spot on her crotch. I excused myself and hid in the bathroom.
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    ^lmao omg that's awsome!

    I avoid female custy's because they have all been rude even if they start out nice. Or there really grabby and try and suck on something! If not that there condisending and ask me how I can degrade myself ect. Or use me as an example of how they are better than me.

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    They missed out. Their loss. I always approach couples. Woman who enjoy clubs are usually fun to dance for.

    Two woman together are a little lower on my priority list, but not going back to someone who asks for a dance is like throwing money away to me.

    Read a few of the rants on woman. Not everyone is there to have fun. Some are rude and condescending. Some are grabby and as extras-seeking as the most perverted guys.

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    On fri there was a really cool one who bought her buddy a dance and she complimented me, telling me I looked like a little goth Barbie. Too bad custies like her are one in a BILLION. I told her as much too.
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    Tonight wasn't bad....some Jabba the hut lookalike was sitting there shit talking all night long and glaring daggers at me. Maybe they ran out of glazed at the Dunkin Doughnuts.
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    ^^Bwahahahaha those girls always try and get me fired cuz they usually come on a shitty day when I'm raggin and haven't made my quota.

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    My experiences with female customers in the booby bar- young ones should be dragged outside ( by their hair) and sent away, more mature ladies USUALLY are there bc they want to be- not to 'one- up' the dancers. I'm sorry you had a bad experience with that club. Maybe they're not non-employee female-friendly? Lol. Try a different one, you know how it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aslinn View Post
    ^^Bwahahahaha those girls always try and get me fired cuz they usually come on a shitty day when I'm raggin and haven't made my quota.

    Her hubby was playing "Bullseye" by throwing wadded up $$$ at my kitty. He was a bit too enthusiastic. I dunno he probably can't find her pussy through all the fat rolls. Mine's prettier anyways
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    Str8 up come to my club in Mia with money you will have every other girl at least come up to you & if you tip extra a few bucks they will ask if you want a dance (most girls here are either openly bi or about making money regardless of your sex), but if you want a great girl on girl dance at my club find the obvious cute lesbian on stage with punk dykie hair (me) & I'll hook it up extra hott as I totally know what I'm doing.

    I love women & female custies have been real good to me lately. Hot bi curious/bisexual girls have been coming in lately making my nights. Don't get me wrong a rude, nasty, handsy, cheap female customer gets no attention from me & I think they should kick them out -- the same for male customers who behave that way, but when I dance for girls sometimes it's just like dancing for any other customer who will get a sexy dance from me, sometimes I'll honestly enjoy teasing them & have fun with it like some of the men I dance for, & sometimes Ill really really get into it & get turned on (those are the girls I'll invite out later so I can have my way with them outside the club).

    Anyhow I'm not sure why dancers prejudge any customers cuz money is green & I'm there to max out & take every dollar there for me as my dancer strategy, but here in so fl as a female customer I am always treated extra well. That could be becuz I'm a hot lesbian in the bizz who always comes in with $ I'm spending (even if it's not out of my pocket) lol, but seriously ignore dancers ignoring you & tip nicely those working it as they should to make money off of you. I tip all the dancers, but personally I'm picky unless my friends/custies are paying for my dances which they usually do. However if I'll always get at least a dance or a few from the 1 I deem the hot 1 of the club if she's not a btch to me (which generally she's usually the 1st on my up on lap when I walk in) then if I'm super turned on & she's gonna make it sexy I might do a vip, but sometimes I get pissed off as I'm looking for a clit tease not action however somehow I get numbers & treated like they came into my club by the time I hit a ld area I'm getting way more then I bargained for, but oh well I'm not going 2 say no 2 hot strippers taking advantage of me cuz they want too. Lots of bi/lesbian dancers think of me as hot hookup material & 4get I'm a custie at their club apparently. I never do with female customers untill after I done making money off them & I see them outside the club untill then they get a tease unless they are going vip & she really really turns me on as I get away with whatever I want in there w/girls my boss could care less if i did them in the bathroom, but that's not my style. I'll take my fun outside unless she is my girl (or 1 of my lovers) visiting me or another dancers working with me helping me kill down time or make money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    However, when I was a dancer I avoided women with dudes and women in general, because almost every woman I had given a chance to ended up being abusive in some way. They either bit me, were verbally rude to me, tried to shove their tongues down my throat, grabbed my junk, or some combination thereof. The only three exceptions were well behaved masculine lesbians I danced for in New Orleans.
    Women are usually bad for business. I think most dancers are really sick and tired of the men who bring in their gf or wife. It makes it impossible for us to make $. Let's call it for what it is. Wishful thinking and reality are two different things. Like it or not. I have only had a handful of good female custy's. It is SO RARE. We have a hard enough job without having to tolerate guys bringing in their gf or wife.
    I personally would not hesitate to dance for someone who asks for a dance. Especially a lesbian couple.
    The only thing I can think of is maybe the house fees are really high and they wanted to make the bigger money off of the men. It's possible that maybe they are under an enourmous amount of pressure to earn more money than you might realize. Maybe they don't feel that it would be wise to do one $20 dance when they could be doing a VIP for the men.
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    i went last nite with my best friend (a guy) and half the dancers were coming to ME asking if i wanted a dance..haha
    i also have interesting tatts and piercings so i was asked all night about them..one was talking to me and asking me about my septum piercing while she was giving my best friend a lap dance..lmao..funny!
    oh and YES i did spend money..i bought 3 lap dances and tipped on stage..im lesbian so i was play flirting with the girls whole time i was there haha
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