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    On a Google rant and I came across this:

    I walked in on my dad on MyFreeCams? Help?

    Alright so one day I walked into my dads office before knowing about him watching porn..so he had up a full screen thing of a naked girl and he freaked out on me. From that day on, I always knock super loud on his office door, and wait for him to say come in. I dread going out there. Anyways, I came in one day after he said come in and he had a site called "MyFreeCams.com" in the corner. I just saw the title. So I looked it up and it's REAL girls. My dad watching porn is one thing, I just decided to be more careful. But them being real and live, like, it's web cam stuff. Another person on the other side. I'm concerned and even though the porn grossed me out a ton, it's nothing compared to this. I don't want to bring it up to him. Or tell my mom.
    Please any help?

    -Zoey

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    that is like cheating on your mom. you need to confront her about it and if she doesnt believe your show her his history on the computer. just go to where it says favorites on the top of the internet explorer screen and click it and there is a tab that says history. by doing my free cams thats cheating cuz it is real women. or men..

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    Write your mom a letter. It's not basically telling, right?


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    Well, if you don't tell your mom about this then he's going to continue looking at the porn. There will probably be big consequences when your mom knows about this and you're just going to have to face it. Wait until your dad isn't around and sit down with your mom and tell her what you saw your dad doing because it isn't right for your dad to be doing that especially since he's with your mom. I hope it goes well.
    Oh, and i wouldn't tell him because that would be very uncomfortable for me to talk to my dad about porn.



    +++ Really I mean come on!!!

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    Duh, porn stars are robots, not REAL girls. Everyone knows this.

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    Ugh. Come on indeed.

    Someone needs to explain to that little girl that people (Including parents) have sexual needs and desires that need to be met - regardless of what man-made institutions they have entered themselves into (marriage). Cam girls are a way for many people to meet those sexual needs while doing the least damage to the everyday people in their lives. Everyone needs variety, and I think that by telling her mother she is more likely to hurt her mom more than if she just went on like it didn't happen. I think most women would prefer their husbands having a bi-monthly date with a camgirl for an hour than an actual real-to-life office affair or something. Of course, your husband doing neither behind your back would be probably be preferred....it's just not realistic.

    I wouldn't consider it cheating. I also wouldn't be very happy about it. But truthfully - for the sake of his happiness and my ignorance - I'd just rather not know.

    It's a shame the daughter walked in and caught her dad doing that though. He should have talked to her about it......I guess, what would you say?



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    I've seen both my parents porn and I choose to ignore it. None of my f'n business atleast that's what my mother would have told me if I said something.

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    Wow, well thats the reality of people on how they view sex jobs; strippers, cam girls is cheating. In a way, I would be upset if my SO spend money on such things, but would not consider camming cheating. I started camming before stripping, did while bf was out of the house since I was curious about it. He found out (I forgot to lock my computer!) freaked out saying "I cheated on him". But himself watched these girls (didnt pay though), so is he cheating? No, but thats just my view. Before I knew what camming was, I thought he was cheating though, b/c I thought these girls did it for fun, and just to talk to random guys, but i found out it wasnt like that. Im honestly glad I did that, since it opened my mind up.

    I hope this girl doesnt bring it up, whatever issues parents have with sex and porn thats up to them. Most femalles arent even comfy with their SO to jack off to porn thinking its cheating. I wouldnt consider it cheating.

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    Wonder how she'll react when mom explains to her that she really wasn't at the gym that day...

    ...and Dad was just starting a tipping war.

    Heaven forbid she find the toy box. How old was this chick supposed to be?

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    It's almost like an alternate fluffy world some of us live in. I wouldn't consider it cheating, and wouldn't want her to tell the mommy. But come on! How old is this person? Escort service=cheating. Getting your rocks off bc the wifey isn't giving/ trying new things= who the crap cares! Why so interested in the sex life of family?

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    I saw that same thing too..I think it was on yahoo answers? Really seems to me this is a kid, who happened to see something she shouldnt have. Im more angry at the father for that, than have any opinion about her for her reaction to what she saw....

    So many kids are dealing with thier parents getting separated and divorced, and when it comes to infidelity, they dont get the nitty gritty details (for the most part id guess) they just know "another woman was involved" and thats it. So yeah, I can really see a kid getting really freaked out about this.

    This girl doesnt know how cam works, she does realize that its another woman interacting with her dad, unlike pictures in porn, this woman is aware of her father, conversating with him, its sexual and for all she knows dad is going to leave mom to be with this woman and get a divorce. Huge stretch of course...but truth is, a lot of kids are dealing with divorce and for kids whos parents are together, any little thing freaks them out that they will end up like thier friends.

    Anyway, I think its a matter of dad needs to be more careful about keeping his porn and cam activities private from kiddo...not so much that kiddo needs to wise up to the ways of how the porn world works. The way she writes and her thoughts make me think more of my kid at 12-14 than an older teen or adult daughter...so yeah, I definitely say cut the kid slack for being concerned....dad needs is the one who needs to wise up.

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    ^^ Well said Blksharpie!!! This exactly! Give the kid a break, who knows how old she is but a kid shouldn't be burdened with this kind of shit in the first place. If your kid is home dad, mabey lock the door...or heaven forbid hang out with your daughter.

    I think kids are exposed to too much too soon nowadays. Thats a whole other thread though.

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    If she's old enough to be on the Internet unsupervised, posting questions like that to the public, then she's old enough to know about porn and videochat. And if she's not, then BOTH Mom and Dad need to get with the program and take a stronger interest in their daughter. I have children too. And I agree that children are exposed to far more than they should be far too soon. Particularly on the Internet and because of it. That being said, I think we as parents need to be proactive in explaining things to them before their friends or some creepy adult on the Internet does.

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    If being a cam girl is cheating, then I cheat on my man ALL the time and he knows about it

    If I weren't getting paid, they new my real name, or we met up IRL, he would consider that cheating.

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    it's not her, I'm focused on the answers that the people are feeding her. She's entitled to her feelings but the people telling her to say something to her mother and that he's cheating is a bit much.
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    I know I am new here, but..... and let me say this, I am a cam model. That being said, I have had a 25 year marriage fail because HE WAS FUCKING ANOTHER WOMAN!! That is cheating. I loved watching porn with him, I loved trying new things with him sexually, I only wish that he was just watching some women on a computer screen. There is a huge difference to me. I have watched so many times on here when someone says their peace..but cannot do it on this one. I would have so wished my man been gettin it from a woman like I am on cam, than a woman who ended my marriage. I will say this though, I know, it must have been there a long time before it happened. I wonder how many relationships would still be together if this just would have been a for just the ok'ness of a woman or maybe just to be a part of it?
    Just my dumb thoughts,
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    The replies to her question sound like kids too... if they arent, they really do just sound like it. I dont know, I guess to me its akin to how I can imagine the conversation going if this girl was to confide in a friend at school.... Of course advise from peers who equally have no clue isnt the best route, its happened to the best of us, even before the internet.

    Thats why its always stressed for parents to try and keep an open line of communication with their kids so that they are comfortable when questions come up about sex, drugs, relationships etc...but even so, kids are reknown for being shy about talking to their parents about certain things. Thats where trusted adult comes in. But not all kids have that and with the internet its too easy to anonymously ask for advice.

    I monitor my daughters internet use in that I have full access to her browsing records through my router, I also have the passwords to all of her online accounts and email that I randomly will log into to check and she uses the computer in the livingroom where shes in full view. I dont think its irresponsible that I dont physically sit next to her as soon as she log on. I have the tools in place, she knows they are there and I check up on her.

    I definitely dont think that because shes allowed to go online then I need to teach her the in's and out's of the porn industry. Its one thing to be open about sex, and to candidly answer questions, and another to school her on something that is age inappropriate and has nothing to do with what shes doing online.

    Everything I do online isnt up to discussion to share with her. Ive taught her internet safety, shes not allowed to be on any chat groups or have an IM account and a few other rules of the internet road that she has stuck to very well. I still think that this girls dad should take personal responsibility to keep what he does online private. I also think that because she did happen to see him on this site, and surely he realizes she saw this, that its a perfect opportunity to talk with her and unfortunately for him, make sure mom is there to for the convo too.

    He opened the door, kiddo is understandably freaking out...as a parent he needs to do some damage control. And whatever is considered cheating and how his wife reacts to it is something theyd need to privately discuss together. Im aware enough to know there are women who think just looking at a porn magazine is cheating...and Ive met guys who think that way too. Mind boggling, but I guess they are the ones who end up together and live blissfully in a porn-free/porn-in-hiding world. Not up to me to decide for them...

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    Has anyone contemplated that Mom may know exactly what's going on and Dad is paying cam girls with her blessing? If there's one thing I know, it's that no one knows what's going on in someone else's marriage. Hell, half the time the people IN the marriage have no clue.

    And yeah, the daughter really really doesn't need to know how Dad makes himself happy, but it's really none of her business either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Taylorgrrl View Post
    Has anyone contemplated that Mom may know exactly what's going on and Dad is paying cam girls with her blessing? If there's one thing I know, it's that no one knows what's going on in someone else's marriage. Hell, half the time the people IN the marriage have no clue.

    And yeah, the daughter really really doesn't need to know how Dad makes himself happy, but it's really none of her business either.
    Definitely... Thats totally between them as adults. I dont think that what gets mom and dad off is a kids business to know details about... Its really unfortunate that she had to see what she did.

    I really dont even know how Id handle the damage control really, but then keeping their sex life private and avoiding the situation at all is part of being a responsible parent.

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    I agree w/BlkSharpie that the kid appears to be getting advice from other kids who know just as little as she does. I think we should go in there and leave her some advice. Like:

    Hey, we're camgirls and we don't want your dad. It's a paid service and it's just porn. Lots of guys like it better than porn b/c they can get us to do -on screen- what they'd like to see their porn doing. We never meet and we wouldn't want to, we don't even know where you live. You and your mom think your dad is a prize catch, but we don't. We're perfectly happy for him to give us he 19.95 and go back to you and your family. He's perfectly happy to give us that in exchange for his sexual satisfaction so that he CAN return happily fulfilled to you and your family.

    In the future, when you have grown up relationships of your own you'll learn that most guys look at porn and most girls know that the guys look at porn but ignore this knowledge and pretend like they don't know just to keep everyone happy. I assure you that your mom already knows that your dad looks at porn, she may even look at it with him! If your family is a happy one and your dad isn't spending hours and hours online spending your college fund looking at us the best course of action is to not make waves, forget you saw him and send him an email with a link to the instructions on how to clear his browsing history.

    Plus, if you do that you'll have a bargaining chip for when he finds you making out with your first boyfriend. "Dad, don't tell mom about this and I won't tell her about all the porn I found you watching."


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    I gotta say, I was an innocent little twerp up until about oh 5 years ago and even now I MIGHT consider camming cheating - it all very much depends

    for example, my current boyfriend is uber depressed and can't get it up unless he's drunk (har har) so if I found him with some camgirl on mfc? hell yeah I'd call that cheating, that site is fuckin' social. if I found him on sm, not so much.

    I guess what I'm saying is, cheating means different things to different people - camming is different because it's live action, so it's not the same as porn - there's a social and emotional element to it that isn't in recorded porn - but if the partner is fulfilling the sexual, social, and emotional needs of their partner, it SHOULDN'T be considered cheating.

    relationships are messy, no one person can choose for another what's cheating and what's not, but I totally can see myself being that girl tattling lol!!!

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    It's always interesting to me to see what sex workers consider cheating vs. how the rest of the world sees it. After being in the adult industry for 10+ years, I would consider an emotional affair or falling in love with someone else to be cheating, but a one night stand? Eh, play safe and have fun. If she's cute, maybe invite me to join in. Otherwise, enjoy yourself. (This isn't to say that I *want* my boyfriend to go hunt up a girl, but I'm a lot more likely to forgive something that was purely physical than I am if he was two-timing me, if that makes sense.)

    Then I hear about girls who catch their boyfriends going to strip clubs with their buddies and they go ballistic. Sweetie, if the girl is only interested in your man's wallet, it's not cheating on her part.

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    Im fiercely protective over my relationship so if I found this out and had no prior knowledge, Id be furious. Hes spending money (possibly) on another woman and watching her get naked. More than likely thinking about her while he gets himself off. If that doesnt hurt your feelings and make you sick to your stomach you are all stronger better women than I am. Now if the wife knows and is cool with it, thats another story. I think its the lying that hurts more than anything in the end though.

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    Ok first my view is this . Anything that arouses a man outside of his relationship with a wife or girlfriend is CHEATING.

    Cheating stars at the mental stage of a person thinking well I can get off to THIS. See I feel that since we are all in the adult industry most of our views are pretty darn warped. Why is it that most of us dont go and tell what we do in a strip club, cam, hotel etc. Because we already know very well that society frowns on the clients and the workers in these industries from cam models , strippers, escorts and the clients that pay to have fun with them. Hell even phone sex is another one.

    Now also this same society pushes the dream marriage and having children on young women. When for young men society says "get out there and get laid , as fast as possible and with as many women as possible.

    So on one end a woman is supposed to stay true and faithful and on the other end "if he's a man he better go out there and get it".

    The adult industry was set up for men to have their cake and pay for it too.

    I see alot of posters have gotten upset calling the advice childish and that the person needs to grow up because hey daddy still have a penis and is not feeling like looking at mom's baby fat. He's more attracted to something that very well may look a few years old then his own daughter.

    Isn't it funny how many consider his behavior NORMAL and lash out at the child? His behavior isn't NORMAL it's COMMON. It's may be considered NORMAL based on societal views.

    Notice again how the adult industry turns something considered RARE into something that's now considered NORMAL.

    Example:SQUIRTING.

    Squirting was a rare occurance. About 5-10% of women knew how to do this. After it went viral in porn and tube sites you later had videos,books and mentions in tv shows about it. Also because many young men watch porn they will actually ask a girl in the bedroom "Do you squirt" as if it's as common as being HARD. These numbers have jumped to now maybe 15-25%.

    We even see guys that post here that openly admit to having sex with dancers while their wives sit at home thinking they are just working late. So I feel our opinions are a bit off on the subject. I still can be true and see both sides so yes anything be it a porn mag, going to strip clubs, getting otc, calling phone sex, cam models etc.

    I would say a porn mag is the lesser of all evils because there isn't a connection. 2nd in line would be a pre recorded porn video.

    But guys going to strip clubs, interracting with cam models and doing phone sex are all cheaters if they have a wife or girlfriend.

    If the wife or girlfriend is ok with this behavior or even partakes in it, then I would consider this a semi open relationship.

    If a man really felt like being faithful he would yank out some pictures or take vids of his wife and masturbate to those and those only. Or contact her for some naughty "sexting" ( another new term based on technological advances) .

    If the person felt they were truly doing nothing wrong. There would be no reason to HIDE THE PORN STASH, HIDE THE I'M GOING TO THE STRIP CLUB FOR A LAP DANCE, OR HIDE THE OOH HEY HONEY I'M GOING TO GET OFF WITH SOME CAM MODELS, BE DOWN FOR DINNER AFTER I BUST.

    This young girl is getting a bird's eye view of the male population but at the same time would that father want his daughter on this site in a few years or his wife?? I think not.

    What's even worse is that he went off on his own child as if something was wrong with her... which is wrong because he was apparently dropping his own guilt onto his kid's shoulders.

    I'm pretty honest with myself on what I do and when I get a guy that's married in my room it makes me uncomfortable because I know that she's probably tried and true to him. What's even worse is that most men that saw their wives paying to play with men in the same manner would actually freak!

    I also get tons and tons of married men that want to meet me too. Women in the adult industry are PAID TO NOT CARE. That's the point. Take the money away and we would look down on many of these same men. Many women that are no where near the industry hate women that are....why? because they don't want to share their men with us after they have put all that work into a marriage or relationship. Why do we get to reap the benefits ?
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    I walked in on my dad on MyFreeCams? Help?


    it would have been funny if a camgirl posted that

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    ^^ lol at first I thought that's what this was going to be about. Someone finding out their DAD goes on MFC and what to do to make sure he doesn't see her!! oh god..... *barf*

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    Ok first my view is this . Anything that arouses a man outside of his relationship with a wife or girlfriend is CHEATING.

    Cheating stars at the mental stage of a person thinking well I can get off to THIS. See I feel that since we are all in the adult industry most of our views are pretty darn warped.
    Don't you think this is a bit extreme? So every time I see a hot guy or girl I'm "cheating" because I get aroused?


    Why is it that most of us dont go and tell what we do in a strip club, cam, hotel etc. Because we already know very well that society frowns on the clients and the workers in these industries from cam models , strippers, escorts and the clients that pay to have fun with them. Hell even phone sex is another one.
    I'm not sure what this has to do with cheating or us having "warped views" or whatever. Obviously yeh sex workers are insulted, oppressed, degraded, and assaulted in our culture. Have you considered that all sex workers being labeled as "homewreckers" across the board (regardless of what kinda sex work they actually do or the extent to which they actually have any kinda tangible effect on any particular marriage) might in of itself be a contributing factor to the acceptance of violence and oppression against sex workers?


    Now also this same society pushes the dream marriage and having children on young women. When for young men society says "get out there and get laid , as fast as possible and with as many women as possible.

    So on one end a woman is supposed to stay true and faithful and on the other end "if he's a man he better go out there and get it".

    The adult industry was set up for men to have their cake and pay for it too.
    No, it's patriarchy that's set up for men to have their cake and eat it too. Patriarchy seeps into most other aspects of our culture though, even counter-culture, but very noticeably into the sex biz. I don't think our culture would change very much as a whole (or become more egalitarian) if sex work suddenly vanished. Well, I take that back- guys who normally go to prodommes once a week to get their floggin' on would either start going to fetish parties and playing with women for free (possibly forming relationships and fucking them, which you don't really do with prodommes, thus more likelihood of destroying their marriages), or pressuring their wives to domme them even if the wives don't particularly enjoy that kinda play.



    If a man really felt like being faithful he would yank out some pictures or take vids of his wife and masturbate to those and those only. Or contact her for some naughty "sexting" ( another new term based on technological advances) .
    I dunno, I think exploring the realm of fantasy is healthy and normal. No, I don't mean "common;" the human capacity for desire is too broad, nuanced, unrestrained and fuckin beautiful to keep it contained to the mundane, everyday shit, and I include myself in this. I don't want my bf only jerking off to pics of me, that's boring. That's like saying, "if you truly love steak/living in your hometown/red heels you would NEVER EVER EVEN THINK about what it would possibly be like to eat spaghetti/live in Paris/wear black heels"


    If the person felt they were truly doing nothing wrong. There would be no reason to HIDE THE PORN STASH, HIDE THE I'M GOING TO THE STRIP CLUB FOR A LAP DANCE, OR HIDE THE OOH HEY HONEY I'M GOING TO GET OFF WITH SOME CAM MODELS, BE DOWN FOR DINNER AFTER I BUST.
    Maybe cuz they know their partner would unreasonably freak the fuck out, but they themselves don't really feel like they're doing anything unethical. We've all been in situations like that. Or maybe they have an unusual fetish that our sex-negative culture makes them feel dirty about. Or maybe just cuz someone's your partner doesn't mean they're entitled to unrestricted access to every aspect of your own personal sex life or body, and to hold all your harmless actions under a microscope.


    Many women that are no where near the industry hate women that are....why? because they don't want to share their men with us after they have put all that work into a marriage or relationship.
    I think the answer to that question is way, way more complicated than that.


    Why do we get to reap the benefits ?
    What "benefits," exactly? The guys' own (presumably) hard-earned money?
    Also if you think that a sex worker who only gets a man's money is reaping "benefits" any where near remotely comparable to those reaped by his own wife, isn't that in itself a scathing commentary on heterosexual monogamous marriage?
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    ^^ lol at first I thought that's what this was going to be about. Someone finding out their DAD goes on MFC and what to do to make sure he doesn't see her!! oh god..... *barf*

    thats what i was thinking.

    would it be incest if Dad brought a show? lol

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