I know this girl who is 32 years old, 9 children, 3 baby-fathers (trust me, it is relevant).
All of her children are about 1-1.5 years apart in age. I have never judged her, I don't have children, but if that's what she wants to do...then that's fine and her life.
Anyway she has a lot of crying spells, issues with people in her life and is still very sad about her mother who died about 8 year ago. There is no time limit on a grieving process, but I mean she gets VERY low about her mom.
Today she texted me that she was sad that mothers day fell on her moms birthday this year...and she put some sad faces. I told her that even though I can't relate, or bring her mom back, I am here for her to listen and if she EVER needs to talk...I am there...PRONTO. I also mentioned that maybe she should consider seeing a therapist for the crying spells, wanting another baby (when she almost died after this last one) and a few other things.
So we are texting back and forth and she is getting very hostile...so we agreed to stop texting and talk later. About 45 min ago, I texted her to see if her day was okay and I wanted to know if she was feeling better. We began to argue...We argued about what I said earlier (therapist/children). I asked her if she took offense to it (mentioning a therapist, let me add that I am a Psych major and on my way to grad school and she is really showing some signs of depression and other things...it was out of genuine CONCERN!)
While trying to explain myself, she kept interrupting me and that pisses me off like no other. I tried about 5 times to explain the point of my text and she kept talking over me, so she said she could not do this and I hung up on her ass. I was really trying to help her. "Why are you talking to me like that?" she kept asking me...."why are you getting so loud?"
Because you asked me a question and kept interrupting me.
This hurts because I was really trying to help her, there is ALWAYS something in dealing with her and I have a lot going on in my own life...I am just so damn pissed right now!
What do you guys think about this? I was genuine and tried to explain and she just went off on me. Seeing a therapist is not a sign of weakness, etc. And between you and me, she NEEDS IT...I don't think she ever dealt with the death of her mom.
That's what I get for trying to help someone.



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