Hi, I'm pretty new here and I've been lurking a bit on the site...love all the wisdom, hilarity, and advice lot. I have just started dancing a few months ago after I realized college isn't for me, and I wanted to do something different and exciting. I've always wanted to try stripping, and voila, here I am.
Here's my problem:
There was a really hot guy in the club tonight...I actually REALLY liked him. I gave him a single lap dance and then we agreed to do a private 4 song dance. I easily get swept away by my emotions, and I got really into the him...and yes, in my "delirium", I gave him a BJ. Here's the thing though: I NEVER SOLICIT SEX IN ANYWAY DURING MY WORK. We never even talked about it, and that's why I want to repeatedly punch myself in the face because I DID NOT NEED TO NOR DID I EVER AGREE that I would give him one. It just kind of happened, and I got fired for it. I understood what I did was wrong and it compromises the money coming in for the other girls and the club. I was even one of the girls who would agree whole-heartedly and shake my head in disgust when other girls speak of men who try to get them to do extras. I've been asked before as well, and I always decline. I am not the kind of girl to agree to bjs and hjs and all that nasty shit. It was a moment of lust and stupidity, and now I lost my job. What's worse is, that club is part of a monopoly of other clubs so I'm basically blacklisted for 50% of the clubs in the town, plus I'm sure others will hear about what I've done and it's gonna be all over for me.
Yes, I do expect a lot of angry and hateful responses, because I understand completely that this is a big NO NO...and it wasn't meant to be a, "hey, gimme extra $$$ and I'll do X" thing at all. I already know that this is 100% my fault, and I deserved to get fired. I am just scared and sad and furious at myself for doing something so absolutely stupid, and I need a place to talk, where, hopefully, someone will lend an ear and some wisdom in this. I have no one else to turn to about this and I don't want this living with me forever. I'm 21, never got in any trouble in my life (nor have I ever been fired), so I'm just in shambles. What should I do??
Thank you SW ladies!
--FOLLOW UP EDIT--
Once again, a BIG thank you to all who have contributed to this thread and to a troubled part of my life. I am now working at a different club and earn 3-4x more than my first club without any funny business (never!) or fleeting moments of stupidity where I forget my morals and self-worth because of some guy I don't know. Although I'm sure there is plenty more to say and I am happy to hear from the lovely ladies of SW, every single post here has helped me move on to become a more sensible, professional dancer and a better person overall.
I would like this thread to come to an end if all possible, as I feel this thread has accomplished its purpose. I will always appreciate and be happy to hear what you have to say, and in that case, feel free to message me privately.
Thanks again!



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But in all seriousness it's one thing to be promiscuous and another thing to do something ITC that could have had dire consequences not just for OP but for everyone working there if it had been LE. 
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