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    boyfriend and I broke up because he can't handle what I'm doing now - granted it's his fault and he admits that he doesn't have any other ideas for how we could possible stay together and have any money at all, but I just need some sort of community support. Assurance that I don't need him, proof that I can get past this. please. I just need to feel like I'm not alone.

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    I'm sorry but you're right, you don't need him. because : you deserve a man who will support you no matter what, as long as what you're doing is improving your life.
    break ups suuuck. I'm sorry you have to go through this :/

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    I'm so sorry to hear that Dixie! Keep your head up high! There are men out there who will accept you and respect how you choose to make YOUR money. Breakups suck, but things will get better. Now you can do you, and get all the $$$ from these horny men without worrying about what a S.O thinks about your line of work.

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    I'm sorry babe. *hug* You CAN be single and be okay. Now you can make your money how you want to make it and not have to worry about what a man thinks. Breakups are tough. I'm sorry you're having a rough time. It will be okay and get better. We're here for you.
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    Add me on yahoo if you want to chat!
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    *hugs*.... so.... single now, eh? <rowr>
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    [quote=naughtycammer;2098696]I'm sorry babe. *hug* You CAN be single and be okay. quote]

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    Guys that are OK with their girlfriend/wife doing adult work come in all different shapes, sizes and personalities. When I read your post, I thought first that I wish there was a forum or community where guys who's girlfriend/wife did adult work could get together and talk that you could send him to. So maybe he could come to some personal understanding. But immediately on the tail of that I thought, "you know what? I really don't like most of them because they're too "hard" and "could give a shit" about it." At least the ones that I've met. Personally, I do give a shit about what my girlfriend does, but because I care for her and want the best for her and want her to be happy. Not because of how it reflects on me. I don't really care what anyone else thinks.

    It's not easy for guys to swallow that their partner is giving her goodies away to other men, regardless of if there is cash involved or not. There's a preconception that "if we're together, those goodies are MINE!" But you see, it's not just the goodies. It's the emotional and intellectual connection that goes with them as a package. It's hard (emotionally) not to get jealous. To always remember that to the other guys, it's just an act. To never doubt that when she's with you, that it's not an act. It has to do with self confidence and trust and true intimacy.

    If he's not OK with you camming, then it's something you work out together, or you don't work out. It depends on the relationship you have. How strong it is. How much you trust each other. How much you're willing to bend for the sake of the other's feelings and concerns and it goes both ways. No guy should ever assume to control his girlfriend/wife. Codependency is also a steaming pile. But if he's a guy who stands on his own two feet, and you're a girl who does, then sometimes it's a choice of what's more important. Because camming isn't just about the money.

    As to your question, I think you'll be just fine on your own. And I also think that you'll find a guy who will understand what you do and accept you and love you just the same. There are guys out there that have the qualities you seek in one, who will also be mature enough to understand what you do and support the choices you make for yourself and each other.

    Chin up!

    Breeze

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    You're most definitely not alone honey. You know that in time the pain will heal and things will become easier. What's important now is that you look after yourself. Stick to your work schedule, exercise, go out, see friends, make an effort to keep things normal. If you need to wallow then let yourself, but only for a day, then pick yourself up and keep on going.

    If you were anywhere near me I'd invite you over for hugs and icecream xxxx

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    If this is your only way of making money, he has no right to put you in this position. How rude of him. I'm sure you care very much for him, but he sounds like a insecure judgmental person to me.
    You're going to be just fine. You're better off finding someone who's not going to judge you. You're gorgeous and tons of guys are going to be lining up for you

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    Life is just too short for drama like this. Fortunately, it's not short on choices, options and opportunities to correct and make better what goes wrong. I've always believed that things happen for a good reason. Despite the pain and hurt you're feeling now, you found out that you were involved with someone who doesn't have your better interests at heart. It seems he's placing his ahead of you instead of supporting your choices.

    Exploring the possibilities of what's in front of you from this point on will help you get over this and make you stronger, better and ultimately, happier. Try to put a positive spin on this... you're starting a grand new adventure as a stronger, more self-reliant person.

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    thank you, all of you!!! nothing beats waking up to this. I know I'm going to be ok, but sometimes I need somebody besides me telling me that!! I knew this was coming but it doesn't make it any easier. thank you thank you thank you. <3

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    Quote Originally Posted by dixievista View Post
    thank you, all of you!!! nothing beats waking up to this. I know I'm going to be ok, but sometimes I need somebody besides me telling me that!! I knew this was coming but it doesn't make it any easier. thank you thank you thank you. <3
    aww its ok hun i totally understand where you are coming from! let me know if you need someone to talk to! it will get better

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katie Evers View Post
    If you were anywhere near me I'd invite you over for hugs and icecream xxxx
    ^ This. x100.


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    I have no doubt that you will be absolutely fine doll! {{{hugs}}}
    **Women are Angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...usually on a broomstick. We are flexible like that.**

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    Big hug for you Dixie!!
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    UPDATE

    Boyfriend is still living on couch until Friday, so it's not all done yet, but since I'm moving out of state, I went ahead and made an online dating profile and HOLY CRAP am I getting some results!

    I put something along the lines of "I work in the adult industry, if you have a problem with that, don't bother messaging me! I need a real man" - and it totally worked! Every message has either been "what do you do" which I don't bother responding to, or "that's cool that you're in the adult industry, but I'm more interested in..........." - basically, the caliber of man that continues scrolling through my profile is much higher than I ever would have thought.

    Also, my profile pic is me in a cami and panties so that might be affecting how hot all the guys are, but also it's Chicago vs. LA so it might just be the social differences.............anyway, there's one guy who actually wants to meet me so bad and doesn't want to wait the month until I move, so he's flying in, staying in a hotel and everything, just to spend a day with me.

    In conclusion, I haven't cried in three days, which is pretty good considering I can get really emotional, and I can't afford to ruin anymore contacts Thanks again for all the lovely comments and support, they really mean a lot!!!!

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    People=shit. Also why would you put up a dating profile like a few days after he breaks up with you? Male dependent much? -exits thread-

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    Great update! I'm glad everything is working out for you. I want to know the name of that online site. I will be sending a PM to you soon, lol.

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    Girl! i wish you the best! i don't know if this helps, but i like this song haha maybe it will cheer you up a bit!

    Hugs! xoxo

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5xreWAJH0w

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    @misselise07

    lol why the fuck would you write something like that? do you know me? do you know the intimate details of my former relationship (other than what is obviously posted)? If not, I suggest you reserve your judgment for someone who asks for your advice or opinion.

    READ THE TOPIC!!!! lol typical trolling, surprising from a veteran, for shame! hahaha

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    Quote Originally Posted by dixievista View Post
    @misselise07

    lol why the fuck would you write something like that? do you know me? do you know the intimate details of my former relationship (other than what is obviously posted)? If not, I suggest you reserve your judgment for someone who asks for your advice or opinion.

    READ THE TOPIC!!!! lol typical trolling, surprising from a veteran, for shame! hahaha

    Not trolling, being blunt. I can say my judgment and give out my opinion if I want to. Anyways, you are male dependent have a great night

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    @misselise07

    SHOCK! AWE! I thought you exited the thread?

    from wikipedia:

    In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking other users into a desired emotional response.

    If you read the topic & were not trolling, you wouldn't have written something so crappy. You must be in a terrifyingly bad mood or just a bad person. Take your crap energy and leave my thread!!!! lol thanks for the humor though

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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    Good luck, Dixie.
    "If you don't value your time, neither will others. Stop giving away your time and talents - start charging for it." - Kim Garst


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    @diamonddust

    not preachy at all. I wouldn't say so much that you made an ass of yourself - you just loved him! I'd much rather love seriously and hard, making a supposed fool of myself than be callous and unwilling to work and compromise. Basically, I'd rather leave the relationship with zero regrets, knowing I did everything in my power to make it work, so I can't feel guilt or remorse.

    This was not my first rodeo, but thank you for the constructive advice, it's very kind of you. You're not alone dear, that's for damn sure!

    So if you want to be with me
    With these things there’s no telling
    We just have to wait and see
    But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
    Than waiting to win the lottery
    Besides maybe this time is different
    I mean I really think you like me

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