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    Hey ladies,

    I was wondering if anyone would like to share what the best things they have gotten out of being a dancer as well as the worst... the good, the bad, the ugly, the awesome....share your stories/experiences, losses/gains here!!

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    I've not been at it long but so far I'm finding life skills I find valuable: I'm learning to be confident- KNOW that I am hot, smart, classy and unattainable (great bf) and just enjoy that I-am-awesome vibe; to stand up for myself/tell someone when they are being a dick; to be an opportunist when it comes to using my feminine wiles to my advantage! Before dancing I was not forced to practise these traits so would too often be useless in situations. I love it!

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    The good.. I bought my boobs and would have even if I wasnt a stripper, but it makes me happy stripping achieved such a goal. It made more out-going and more talkive. Im usually quiet (still am), wouldnt opinion things, or be shy when spoken to. Now I seem to communicate better with girls, the customers, the staff, and people out of work. It has opened my eyes of how guys think as well.

    The bad.. Not telling people, I dont like people knowing as most will look down upon it. The grabby, rude customers. Nights where you get ready and leave with nothing.

    The ugly.. How stripping made me more into a heartless bitch. How thinking the money is always going to be there. When guys hit on me I ignore them, when the regular girls would be all over those guys. How I view the world outside of stripping made me gah. Thats the ugly but it also helped.

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    The best damn thing: My current love, who I never would have met if I had a 9-5 job.
    the bad: my knees are fucked
    the ugly: same as above post I am a heartless bitch
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    The good... independence, freedom, not worrying about money, gaining boatloads of confidence and social skills... I was really shy before I started dancing, and it helped me to open up a lot more. Also, stripping has helped me get into the best shape of my life.

    The bad... feeling like I have to hide what I do, and dreading going to work sometimes.

    The ugly... the world doesn't seem like as nice of a place as it used to. Working around gossipy girls, grabby guys that want to take advantage of you, and sleazy people in general has made me colder and less trusting.

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    The good: The confidence, improved social skills, all my friends whom I have met through dancing, my improved french, the opportunities and experiences I've found when travelling to strip in France and Spain, my financial independence and my new front teeth

    The bad: The self-doubt when times are hard, the jealousy I feel for my friends sometimes, missing out on so much because I work nights

    The ugly: The nights which are so bad or the customers so disgusting they make me (drunkenly) cry.


    I think with more pros than cons its alright

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    The good: I can talk to anyone, Im totally comfortable naked when I used to not even wear bikinis, I am in great shape
    The bad: Im always bruised, I live in a hotel
    The ugly: My heart is made out of ice. Men annoy the shit out of me.

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    the good:

    confidence like everyone else said

    the $$$$$

    the fact that I now have strength, grace, agility, and dexterity. I was always slim, but now I'm tone and my body runs like a well oiled machine

    but I think most of all, I am now assertive. when I first started dancing I was the most passive girl in the world. I would not confront ANYONE about ANYTHING. I love the fact that I now react to someone grabbing me inappropriately by grabbing and twisting the shit out of their wrist. I can now control situations and put the drunk douchebags in their place instead of awkwardly slinking away. I can sternly reprimand a man twice my age and not feel weird about it. this doesn't just go for guys either. if I catch some bitch going through my shit or trying to swipe my hard earned cash I will fucking wreck that bitch.

    the bad: working nights fucks up with my sleep patterns and also messes up my social life

    not being able to tell my friends and leading a double life

    the fact that all my coworkers are total airheads


    the ugly:

    guys trying to lick, bite, kiss, and slobber all over me. I don't want your goddamn saliva on my body. did you FORGET the part where you fucking paid me to be around you???!

    getting molested everyday

    not being able to sleep at night until I take a shower because I feel absolutely disgusting

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    Bad:

    - anytime anyone who knows what I do wants to put me down, they have this profession as their ace in the hole. It's only happened once by someone I could give a shit about, but people who can really hurt me can say the same. They have I'm sure, just not to my face.

    - primes golddigger tendencies in me. I have cut men off when they can't give me anything.

    - I have met some really miserable, stupid, mentally off women and men in this industry. I am sure there were people/situations that made them that way, and it is unfortunate. But they are still assholes.

    - the entitlement of men astound me. I am happy that I'm not in a relationship with these guys and wont ever be.

    - the relationship between how much cash you make and how you feel about yourself. It can be a dangerous game emotionally if you don't stay on top of it.

    - I don't like working hard, looking good and not making enough money some nights. At a regular job at least there is a base with your check.

    Good

    - I love being surrounded by attractive women, even with no interest in them. Always good eye candy!

    - I'm more comfortable in my body. My flaws aren't as bad as I had imagined. Seeing real bodies and not just women on TV and in movies give you a bit more realistic view.

    - the constant adoration from men is a plus

    - I like to feel like a rebel. Even with stripping becoming a little more acceptable, it is still 'naughty'. I like being a sex worker.

    - being surrounded by better bodies keep me on my game. I've slacked off a bit, but I'm ready to make it stick this time and start increasing my workout effort.

    - fast money
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    a lot of good insight here..wow

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    the good- free time to pursue my dream job while not having to worry about money. i think its also brought me out of my shell a bit

    the bad- not knowing what im gonna do in ten years because quite frankly, stripping annoys me and i want to quite asap. and a job that isnt making me money while i sleep isnt very lucrative for the long haul

    the ugly- nothing really. i guess if we are talking inside the strip club- i cant stand the rejection. i hate it even more than the guys who molest me in the vip room. seriously id rather deal with a night full of grabby disgusting fucks than a night full of "no thanks, maybe laters"

    in the real world though- i dont really see it affecting me very negatively. my boyfriends seem to think that because im a stripper i have a jaded view of men, but that jaded view started farrrr before i ever started stripping (i was used as a sex toy a ton before i ever worked at a strip club). i also had one bf who complained that i walked around naked too much, but that too is something i was doing long before i started stripping.

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    The Good: Improved confidence and having more of a backbone. As well as wearing a lot of sequined outfits and dramatic makeup. And of course the money.
    The Bad: As mentioned in a post before, getting all dressed up to make nothing on really crappy nights and leading a double life.
    The Ugly: I try to keep my life drama free however, that is difficult when working with some really annoying co-workers that I just want to Donkey Kong punch sometimes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by coquette View Post
    The good: I can talk to anyone, Im totally comfortable naked when I used to not even wear bikinis, I am in great shape
    The bad: Im always bruised, I live in a hotel
    The ugly: My heart is made out of ice. Men annoy the shit out of me.
    This is by far the closest thing to my life, but I 'travel' from parents and have a 3 year old (single mommy). Haha.

    ..the ugly..same as above, lmao

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    Good: $$$, the wonderful dancers and staff I work with and some generous and fun customers.

    Bad: I feel like my body is falling apart. Late nights are killing me. Alcohol is ageing me. I miss my husband and friends.

    Ugly: Ive seen awful flaws, filth and lack of morals in even the most seemingly respectable men which has caused me to lose trust in all men, likely permanently.

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