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    Mind Blowing Repeatedly Stalkked...

    Well, my ex-fiancee, from years ago, contact me by phone twice in the past two days. Previously he had done this, (as well as writing me a letter, which sounded like we just broke up, when it had been years then too) after looking me up on the internet..I had gone to the police then, as I did yesterday. Very disturbed, here, as he had a violent temper, history of being physicaly abused himself, & watching his mother get abused.
    I'm so mad, I recently threw the letter out, it's been 5 yrs., at least, now I can't really ask for a Order of Protection..I'm like a sitting duck here


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    I have been there.

    What happened when you went to the police? What did they say?

    If you haven't already go to your police station and do these things:
    1.) Explain in detail what happened with your ex and why you fear for your safety.
    2.) Politely have the cop that you told all that to call your ex and let him know that you don't want any contact with him nor him hanging around your work or home.
    3.)Have the cop write up an informational report. Then get the cop's name, badge number, and the report number. You should ask him when the report will be available for you to get a copy of. AND Ask the cop about self defense (stun pen legal to use(it is in TX))
    4.) When the report is available get a copy and keep it on you at all times.

    If you do this you can never contact your ex or it will backfire and you'll look like you play games.

    This will take away the "your word against his word" scenario if he so happens to still come around. You have had a cop call to tell him to not have any contact with you and write an informational report which is a paper trail that can help you if he harms you again.
    If he comes around your home or work call the police get the the cop's name and badge number that responds. If he makes any contact call the police. Keep a log of dates, times, and summaries of events, cop names, badge numbers, witnesses, and anything you were told. If witnesses are around when something happens get their contact info if possible because it will help if they write a letter and have it notarized in case you have to take this crazy fuck to court for a restraining order.

    In the meantime, get some pepper spray (the little one for your key chain) and a stun pen (100,000 volts should be fine). Every time you are outside be ready to use them. Once he has been contacted by the police he might take time to think his plan of attack out better. Don't put anything pass him and if he comes near you attack him in self defense (He has no reason to be near you anyway).
    I would let a few trusted friends and family know that he has resurfaced so they know to take your calls no matter what time because it could be an emergency. If you live in an apartment let your apt manager know what's going on and request a quick lock. If you talk to any of your neighbors have them keep an eye out and not to hesitate to call 911 if suspicious behavior or straight up screaming is coming from your place.
    Lastly do you know about your cell? If you dial 911 will it go to the local police station or do you have an area code from another place? It doesn't hurt to have numbers already programed in your phone and copies of them in your home, car, and purse in case your phone dies.

    I am sorry you're feeling like a sitting duck because I know how it feels. It sounds like you're serious about keeping him out of your life and not playing. Unfortunately, it is the women who play games with dangerous men, police, and people in general that make it harder for women like you to get help or be taken seriously. If i read one more "He beats me but I'm scared to be alone" thread I'm going to puke!

    I know it is hard but try to stay strong. Be aware of your surroundings. If you have to cry do it in a safe place. Be proud of yourself for being strong enough to want this fuck head out of your life.

    I wish you the best.
    PM me if you want (I mean it)

    btw: I haven't had coffee yet so I hope this made sense. I will edit later.

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    Default Re: Repeatedly Stalkked...

    are you afraid of him? if you're worried he's going to try to come find you then stay with a friend for a few weeks or have someone stay with you.

    if you don't think he will actually do anything then just keep on ignoring him. maybe change your number or if you have a personalized voicemail message, change the settings to that automated robot voice that just says "you have reached (your phone number)". if he writes you again have the post office return to sender so he'll think you don't live at that address. deactivate your facebook or any online profiles and just disappear from the world for a few weeks. eventually he'll give up.

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    Default Re: Repeatedly Stalkked...

    The thing is, I was in an extreme situation for a few years (I can't/won't go into detail lest it identify me) that, & unfortunately, I have been home bound working long hours doing pso & online sales, I do not have really any friends or trusted neighbors, (except an out-of-state one that I phone daily).
    I'm trying to redo my life anyway, I want a regular ft career & am searching for one. I just now got hired part time (I could have had full time but I wanted to still be looking, this is not what I want but it's good for now, along with the other stuff I'm doing).
    So thank you both so much, for taking the time to read & help me, much appreciated!
    Edit: I have NEVER been on FB/MS/Twt, at least under my real name, & no pics, rarely go on/use it.

    Taylor: Well, last time I went, they did take down a report, this time, they just called him (he didn't answer) & the cop left him a voice mail saying his name, *police, & I don't want him contacting me. I asked what to do if he contacts me again, he just said to come in again.
    Last edited by whirlerz; 04-24-2011 at 10:12 AM. Reason: to add on


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    Default Re: Repeatedly Stalkked...

    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Taylor: Well, last time I went, they did take down a report, this time, they just called him (he didn't answer) & the cop left him a voice mail saying his name, *police, & I don't want him contacting me. I asked what to do if he contacts me again, he just said to come in again.
    You are very much WeLcOmE

    Yep keep going to the cops every time and keep a log of what happened, cop info, and end result.

    I had one local friend and the rest of my support group was far 1800+ miles away but I still kept them updated.

    Congrats on changing your life for the better

    I am glad you started this thread because I am sure it will help others in the future.

    Please keep us posted if something else happens.

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    Default Re: Repeatedly Stalkked...

    Why don't you change your phone, number, email? etc or block him?

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    Default Re: Repeatedly Stalkked...

    I don't want to change my phone #, b/c I have loads of resumes out there with that # on it. Besides, who's to say he couldn't get my new #, since this one is unpublished. Nothing to do w/email, he hasn't ever emailed me. This is the THIRD incident, in many, many years, across different towns, counties, phone numbers, etc., including my calling 911 when he showed up at the apartment I moved to after leaving him, with the cops warning him, which he's showing a disregard for.


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