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    Hi ladies, I lost my temper about 2 weeks ago on a customer who approched me and talked me to death for 30 minutes. I thought he would buy a dance or two so I talked to him. Then he told me I should go make some money. I said so you don't want any dances? He says no. So I said " so you wasted my time?" He had the nerves to say yes I did. I got upset so I slapped him and spilled my drink on him. Because of him I missed out on a customer who usally pays me 200 dollars. I know I should not have assauted him but this happens all the time in my job .He did not even pay to come in because he was the owners friend. I was suspended for a week since then I found a better club which I like because its less B.S. and the manager has been texting me to come back but I haven't and will never come back. How do you ladies cope with any situation which may cause you to get upset?
    PS. how do you ladies deal with bitchy co dancers.( I'm the new girl at a new club.)
    Thanks ladies!

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    Maybe try this...As a rule, never talk more than a few songs with a costumer before asking for a dance. By then, he should know if he wants to go or not, or tell you that he wants to but would like to wait for a bit. Not to be mean but it`s partially your fault for talking to him for so long without asking for a dance. Most guys will just keep on talking forever if you don`t try to sell.
    Also, if you`re the new girl at your club, I suggest you don`t throw your drink on a costumer LOL but really, I usually just keep to myself until I start being more comfortable with the girls and do small talk. Good luck at the new place!

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    I had a guy heavily imply that he would buy dances from me if I talked to him for a while, so I did for about 15 minutes. He seemed to really like me so I figured it was worth the investment of my time. Then when I asked him for a dance, he said, "No, I've gotten everything I wanted from you." It was pretty obvious at that point that he never intended to buy dances at all.

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    Best advice I was given when I started working was, "you're not there to make friends, you're there to make money, if you make a friend then thats a bonus"

    Im just quiet anyway I guess shy and standoffish in unfamiliar scenes until I get comfortable. Most of the time girls will approach me and its all good.

    I don't think the guy deserved a slap and a drink thrown at him for talking to you for 30 mins and not buying a dance. Jewel21 made a great point, have a certain amount of time that you are willing to talk to a customer, you should know/ get that feeling if he's interested in a dance within a few songs.

    there will be a night every now and again where there's going to be a customer whos going to try and waste your time. After a while I would just walk away while they were in mid sentence. Especially since my boss would be giving me the look to move along anyway haha.

    Good luck at your new club, make heaps of money!
    I'm here to make money. NOT make friends, if I make a friend then it's a bonus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GreenLady View Post
    I had a guy heavily imply that he would buy dances from me if I talked to him for a while, so I did for about 15 minutes. He seemed to really like me so I figured it was worth the investment of my time. Then when I asked him for a dance, he said, "No, I've gotten everything I wanted from you." It was pretty obvious at that point that he never intended to buy dances at all.
    What a jerk!
    Customers have no shame nowadays.

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    Don't talk to them for so long.
    You're really lucky you didn't get arrested. Dancers have been getting arrested for assaulting custy's.

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    these custys are so not worth jail time!

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    No, they aren't so before smacking someone, just walk away. Please, you don't want to be all over SW as another stripper assaulting a customer. I've even seen the articles posted up in the dressing room.. not a good look.

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    Thirty minutes is too much time to talk to any customer before securing a lapdance. Your goal is to kindly move your customers to buy as quickly as possible. Do not allow them to get off subject. Always take control of the conversation and watch the time. From time to time I've asked custys for 'a tip for my time' if they don't want to buy dances from me and I feel like I've spent quality time with them. I've never been turned down a tip.

    As far as bitchy coworkers, what made them bitchy exactly? Are they just not friendly to you and basically ignore you because that's what generally happens to the new kid on the block. That doesn't make them bitchy it just makes them smart. I'm just saying...

    Now about your emotional outburst. Not good, but I've been there and I almost choked out a guy for wasting my time (I know right). All I can say is, try not to take it personal and stay professional. You never know who's watching you and you never want to be friends with the drama queen, ever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post
    Hi ladies, I lost my temper about 2 weeks ago on a customer who approched me and talked me to death for 30 minutes. I thought he would buy a dance or two so I talked to him. Then he told me I should go make some money. I said so you don't want any dances? He says no. So I said " so you wasted my time?" He had the nerves to say yes I did. I got upset so I slapped him and spilled my drink on him. Because of him I missed out on a customer who usally pays me 200 dollars. I know I should not have assauted him but this happens all the time in my job .He did not even pay to come in because he was the owners friend. I was suspended for a week since then I found a better club which I like because its less B.S. and the manager has been texting me to come back but I haven't and will never come back. How do you ladies cope with any situation which may cause you to get upset?
    PS. how do you ladies deal with bitchy co dancers.( I'm the new girl at a new club.)
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    wow all you got was suspended?
    i got mad at the owners friend once for pulling the same shit and got fired indefinately (no spilling drinks or slapping him, i just called hima jerk)

    dont say he didnt deserve to be assaulted. he DID. he basically STOLE from you. you know what people outside of strip clubs get when they steal? jailtime. if you ask me, he got off easy. never ever feel sorry for a customer who is that much of an asshole.

    whenever i come across someone like this i tell them that we actually pay to walk in the door and dont get an hourly wage and only make money from doing dances. every minute spent chit chatting is a minute that im working my ass off for absolutely no pay. sometimes the guys will hunt me down later and get a dance because i had the balls to call them out on their bullshit.

    for the most part though, i rarely talk to a guy for more than 5 minutes. some guys notice this and bitch at me for giving the "hard sell" . its typically jerks with little to no money though, so it really isnt that big of a loss. most guys should know you are there to make money, not to lose your voice screaming over the loud music all night

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    How long have you been dancing? This sounds like a newbie mistake...you can't ever assume someone is going to spend money on you just because you're talking to them. It isn't that HE wasted your time, but that you ALLOWED him to do it. Lots of customers will pull this if you let them. And he didn't owe you anything, because you willingly sat with him and chatted for 30 minutes without discussing being paid for your time. Smacking him and spilling your drink was totally out of line. This shit happens - maintain your dignity and class. What you did was very immature. I know this sounds harsh, but it's the truth. :/

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    Tampadancer absolutly right.
    I'm just saying, strippers are getting arrested for this type of shit all the time. We don't need anymore negative attention. The raids in the paper are enough.

    The girls are probably ignoring you ( if they are ) because strippers can't generally be trusted and they need to get a feel of you first. Plus, you're competition. I'm not like that but I see why some girls are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BeBe View Post
    From time to time I've asked custys for 'a tip for my time' if they don't want to buy dances from me and I feel like I've spent quality time with them. I've never been turned down a tip.
    I always want to do this, but never quite know how to ask. Do you ask for the tip before or after you've spent time with them? And if you ask beforehand, how much time per dollar do you allot the customer?

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    Time wasters are the least of our douchebag problems. If you lose your temper that easily you are going to be in for a rocky ride in this business. Never assume anyone is going to give you anything. Simply talking to you doesnt mean they owe you something. Its your job to close the deal. The fact that you were unable to do so is not grounds to go off at someone. Sounds a little crazy to me... Try to focus on closing the dance sooner so you dont flip out if you cant contain your anger.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    How long have you been dancing? This sounds like a newbie mistake...you can't ever assume someone is going to spend money on you just because you're talking to them. It isn't that HE wasted your time, but that you ALLOWED him to do it. Lots of customers will pull this if you let them. And he didn't owe you anything, because you willingly sat with him and chatted for 30 minutes without discussing being paid for your time. Smacking him and spilling your drink was totally out of line. This shit happens - maintain your dignity and class. What you did was very immature. I know this sounds harsh, but it's the truth. :/
    Agree. If you let the customers treat you how they want then they are going to treat you in ways that you don't like. If you are chatting more than three songs and the vibe is not good, leave.

    Also I would take time to reflect if this is the job for you. I don't know how long you have been doing this but your reaction seems to be an extreme indicator that even the mildly annoying customers get to you in a big way and that you should look elsewhere for employment, for your own sanity.

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    I've been dancer 2 years now. and when I mean bitchy codancers i meant all they tdid was talk about **** about me out loud and everytime I gave more than 3 dances in a row I was being called a whore. smh! It would have been a blessing to be ignored!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post
    . I got upset so I slapped him and spilled my drink on him.
    consider yourself very lucky for only being suspended....you should have been, and could have been charged with assault....it doesnt matter what somebody says to you, you can not hit them

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    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post
    I've been dancer 2 years now. and when I mean bitchy codancers i meant all they tdid was talk about **** about me out loud and everytime I gave more than 3 dances in a row I was being called a whore. smh! It would have been a blessing to be ignored!
    It sounds to me like you are very dramatic. Quite frankly, if you were dancing at my club, I would not go out of my way to be friendly to you if you if I was concerned you were going to snap on MY potential customers and screw up my money. Perhaps this is why the girls were/are trying to run you off?

    I think you need to step back and examine yourself and your behavior. This may not be the industry for you.

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    I don't.




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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer View Post
    It sounds to me like you are very dramatic. Quite frankly, if you were dancing at my club, I would not go out of my way to be friendly to you if you if I was concerned you were going to snap on MY potential customers and screw up my money. Perhaps this is why the girls were/are trying to run you off?

    I think you need to step back and examine yourself and your behavior. This may not be the industry for you.
    I'm dramatic because girls were trying to run me out the club? and i quit the club where I had lost my temper, so how would the new girls have known I'm capable of snapping at a customer? And btw If i were new at your club i would have no interest to be your friend. I work and make my money alone. I have been making good money at this industry for two years and I won't let anyone tell me that this isn't the industry for me. I do not need ladies to be friendly with me however all the name calling is uncalled for.
    Sheesh I lose my temper one time and now I need to stop dancing and examine my behavior? Everyone makes mistakes!
    Thanks anyways for your advice!

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    ok. good luck.

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    OP, I once worked at a club where almost all the dancers hated me. I never found out why but I suspect jealousy. I was much prettier than most of them and younger, and had some big spender regulars. Because of that I generally started to ignore then and in later clubs I was friendly but not friends with dancers. Most dancers are drama so I was careful which ones I became friends with and which ones I ignored. Btw, I was often rude to dancers who were doing things like talking a long time for free or even doing free dances hoping to make money. These activities make all dancers look stupid and then customers will think all of us will do them.

    As for hitting the customer, while I understand your anger, 30 minutes is way too long without money. I usually went one song if busy, or two if not. If they said something about just talking, I would tell them I don't get paid by the club and need to make money. Many of them would hand me money and ask me to stay awhile. If they didn't, then I left and if they said "maybe later" I came back later and asked them right away. Some of them actually did dances then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lagirl View Post

    dont say he didnt deserve to be assaulted. he DID. he basically STOLE from you. you know what people outside of strip clubs get when they steal? jailtime
    No dear, he didn't. As angry as it might make you, no one ever has to buy from you after listening to your sales pitch. People who waste a car salesman's time by not buying a car do not get arrested. Talking to a dancer for an extended period of time might be rude but it is NOT theft.

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    Yes. ^

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    Quote Originally Posted by lagirl View Post
    he basically STOLE from you. you know what people outside of strip clubs get when they steal? jailtime. if you ask me, he got off easy.
    lol....wow....somebody either needs to go back to school or needs to buy a dictionary....what exactly did the customer steal from her?....do you even know the definition of it?....lol

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