Hi All,
Sorry if this question has been asked already. I am a new member to this forum, I just signed up tonight. I identify as a lesbian woman. I am a femme lesbian (a femme lesbian is lesbian who has a feminine appearance). When I go to the clubs I just wear a nice pair of jeans and a nice top, nothing sexy/flashy.
I only go to the strip clubs just to relax and to have fun. I don't go to look to pick up dancers, I don't get drunk, or try to steal the attention away from any of the dancers. but it seems that even when I go to the strip club by myself the dancers never approach me or seldom make eye contact. I truly enjoy going up to tip the ladies at the stage, and i tip very often! the few dancers who have sat and talked to me said I give off a friendly/relaxed vibe.
Only 2-3 dancers have actually sat down to chat with me but I have went to this club now 4 times. are dancers put off by lesbian customers or weary of women who visit strip clubs alone? when asked my sexual orientation I am honest.
please, any insight on how I can make other dancers more comfortable to approach me?



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! Hmmmmm......I don't know what to tell you. If anything, dancers really seem to enjoy the fact that I'm gay and that I prefer to club alone - there's no "couples" drama that way, and no man to muddy up the situation. Could it be that you club in a socially conservative city or area? Are you giving off a negative vibe that you're unaware of? Are you tipping GENEROUSLY and sitting at the rail sometimes to chat up the dancers onstage? Have you asked the waitresses to send over dancers that especially like women customers?
sometimes I am the only person in the club on a full night going to tip the girls often. in fact the DJ said to the auidence of men the other night "this woman (me)will show you how to tip a dancer correctly" lol. because all the men were just looking not tipping!



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