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    Default Stripper self-defense (advice plz)

    I pretty new to the game, and I'm still trying to find my way around certain things.
    In my town, the summer is the absolute worst time to try to earn money (this also goes for bars, restaurants, hotels, etc.). There is a club here that does relativley good business during the summer (they have a more local crowd), and I would really like to work there. The problems is that this place is sort of known for high-mileage dances. I know that not every dancer is willing to give extras in VIP, but I also know that a good portion of them are.
    My question: how do I gently inform the customer that I'll give him one hell of a hot dance, but that's all he's getting from me. I can't figure out the best approach: I don't want to be defensive or insulting, because I want him to keep spending. I don't want to bring it up in my hustle, because that's obvs a bad business strategy. But if I wait until he tries to make a move in that direction, I feel like the power dynamic has shifted and I'm in the position of having to defend myself.
    I'm sorry if this has been done to death; I'm new here. I have been reading the forums, but there's a lot of material to wade through. I would love to hear from dancers who have been in this kind of situation. Thanks!
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    Default Re: Stripper self-defense (advice plz)

    its best to just be honest up front....that way you dont end up with a pissed off customer later....

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    Just tell them exactly that, that you will give them a super sexy dance. However if they ask directly if they can touch you somewhere you would feel uncomfortable with them touching, say so. You don't have to advertise the fact that you're a low-mileage dancer in comparison to the other girls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Odette View Post
    You don't have to advertise the fact that you're a low-mileage dancer in comparison to the other girls.
    x2. And don't think that the power dynamic changes just because he expected something that you never promised in your hustle. You are selling dances, just because other girls provide more, doesn't mean you have to either. Don't be shady about it, like if the guy explicitly asks if he can get more (and usually guys like that will so they don't "waste" 20$ on a clean dance) don't say yes to make the sale, but don't be apologetic for following the rules. Sure, you may have to ninja dance in a club where extras are expected, but you should always feel like you're the one in control. You (should) have a support staff that will have your back if the customer tries any funny business like extras or trying to stiff you. If you're really worried about the latter, make a grab for something of theirs. Most guys leave their jacket to the side or pull some things out of their pockets, so grab one of those if there's cause for concern. But when it comes down to it, the customer isn't going to go to management and say that you didn't let him touch your pussy so he shouldn't have to pay you for the dance. Remember that the club is YOUR domain and he is coming in to it to get something from you. You call the shots.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    Remember that the club is YOUR domain and he is coming in to it to get something from you. You call the shots.
    100% agree. Be upfront and honest. If they don't like it, imo, to hell with em. If you're uncomfortable with something, do not hesitate to say so. I've made the mistake in my early dancing days by not speaking up when I was uncomfortable and it made me feel like shit in the end...so do not make the same mistake that I have.

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    This is just a hunch, but stay out of Visions. I have a girl friend who didn't last two hours in there. Try Penthouse, ask for Miller.

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    when I approach people I say "let's go have some fun". If they ask what am I going to do I play stupid and say "I dance.. what ELSE would I do?" When I'm in the back I tell people that I don't mind if they touch me as long as they don't touch my pussy or play with my nipples. If they have a problem with that then fine. They pay me for a dance and then move on!
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    Default Re: Stripper self-defense (advice plz)

    Thanks for all the replies, Ladies.
    @ Mediocrity - you totally busted me. I've heard that girls can make a lot of $$$ at Vision's but I don't know if it's worth putting up with all the crap there. I hadn't thought about Penthouse - do they hire tattooed girls? And is it a "gown club", or would I be able to wear my regular skirts/short dresses there?
    I guess I could just go see for myself. Thanks again!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Natalllia View Post
    Thanks for all the replies, Ladies.
    @ Mediocrity - you totally busted me. I've heard that girls can make a lot of $$$ at Vision's but I don't know if it's worth putting up with all the crap there. I hadn't thought about Penthouse - do they hire tattooed girls? And is it a "gown club", or would I be able to wear my regular skirts/short dresses there?
    I guess I could just go see for myself. Thanks again!
    Visions is disgusting. The house fees are high and the managers are shit bags. The "audition" involves simply pulling up your shirt for management and letting them take a picture. I also vaguely recall a story about a girl and a carrot and VIP, that is NOT heresay.

    Re Penthouse, yes they hire tattooed girls, as long as they are well done. They were ok about hiring me (I ended up going to another club instead though, so never worked a shift) and I have a HUGE leg piece. You can wear gowns, but they also allow other things as long as you're very done up.

    Trust me, Miller is a darling- very respectful, nice to the girls, answers questions earnestly. If you're looking for a higher end club to work the summer, Penthouse is your best bet, especially now.

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