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^^^ I'd like to know as well! I have a couple options waiting for me to move and setup some meetings, so I'd like to be prepared..........
So if you want to be with me
With these things there’s no telling
We just have to wait and see
But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
Than waiting to win the lottery
Besides maybe this time is different
I mean I really think you like me




bump!!!
So if you want to be with me
With these things there’s no telling
We just have to wait and see
But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
Than waiting to win the lottery
Besides maybe this time is different
I mean I really think you like me


gosh a while back i read a blog about a girl who did this for a living... yes she lived off of being a sugar babe. I myself am on a few sites. I have never taken it farther than chatting on the sites, never meeting but i did get a few offers to meet up and would have "been given cash that day"
but in the blog I read...
on the first meeting, the guy wanted to prove his interest, after their dinner he went right to the atm and handed her 900.00.
so, that being said. I would defiantly want some type of donation, because you are an important part of the equation too. he is just as disposable as you are. make him show is interest, because there are others that want your time.
now as far as amount... I think that has to do with the extent of your relationship, lol and looks... if you have to fuck him, and he's ugly well... of course rape his wallet. but if hes matthew machoney well i might be able to negotiate my amount a little more.
I would think that when ever you have a meeting he should be spoiling you in some way.




^ And "He paid for dinner" doesn't count!! A bf does that, a sd goes beyond boyfriend duties!
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YES! of course I searched the forum, but I'm curious specifically about first meetings, like what to expect good & bad, what is acceptable, etc.
So if you want to be with me
With these things there’s no telling
We just have to wait and see
But I’d rather be working for a paycheck
Than waiting to win the lottery
Besides maybe this time is different
I mean I really think you like me





Bump! I'd love it if some girls with experience would post. Also, does anyone have a sugar daddy and a boyfriend? My SO is okay with me having a sugar daddy, as long as we don't have sex and as long there is financial gain out of it. My last SD didn't last for very long; we only went on 2 meetings and he gave me $200 at the end of each one; we were supposed to meet twice a week, for a couple of hours each day, which would have been $1,600 per month + gifts, but it didn't work out. Mostly because he lied about his age, and I felt like I was hanging out with my grandpa. Also, my SO googled his company that he owns and we found out they were illegally obtaining money and scamming people. This was my only experience.
I'm retired from the SD/SB world (although I do reserve the right to change my mind if someone made me an offer I can't refuse, but I don't plan on looking anytime soon.)
I think everyone has a different opinion on this, here is mine:
1) I did not ask to be given anything for the first meeting, although sometimes it was offered anyhow without my asking. Sometimes cash, sometimes a gift card, etc. I didn't ask for anything on the first meet because I felt it was a mutual get to know you, do we want to explore this further kind of a thing. It is perfectly okay though to ask for something at the first meet if you want. If I had incurred travel expenses outside of driving locally, I would have expected to be compensated for that but I didn't travel.
2) I would stay away from receiving your money at each meeting, I think many "SD's" who do that are really looking for a discount escort (if you're having sex.) Even if not, if you agree to that arrangement and then you can't get together once or more occasions, that can be financially precarious for you. Monthly is ideal, I've done twice a month also and been okay with it.
3) That depends on so many variables- how often you are getting together, how much time you spend, what you do, where you live and the cost of living, and what feels fair to you. Some may prefer to spoil with gifts, I personally looked at gifts, dinners, etc, as extras because those don't pay the bills. This is a really subjective thing, just don't sell yourself short or promise/do anything you're not comfortable with.


I agree with this 100%.
Here's my experiences with SD/SB.
Met my 1st one a few years ago accidentally through an adult site. Sweet guy just looking for a girlfriend like experience. Our 1st meeting was casual and he payed for the dinner. He drove to meet me for day trips/dinners every week or every other. He always arrived with a gift after our 1st meeting. He bought me shoes, a Nintendo DS, and took me on a few mall shopping spree. Payed for everything we did that day. I did spend nights with him occasionally but no sex happened {he had personal sexual issues and didn't feel comfortable with it so he never pressured}. We eventually lost contact and went our separate ways.
My 2nd one was from HotorNot out of all places. He lived in CA and was a well off musician. We talked via IM and text. He bought me shoes and stuff off my wishlist. I never met him. {But i did send sexy pictures of whatever he bought me in return to say thank you.}
Please note that I have a SO {going on 8yrs now!}. He knew nothing of my prospects and i preferred it that way. Its a long story so i rather not discuss it.
I have a new SD now from SeekingArrangements. He is very nice {just like my 1st sd} and asked me within 2 emails what i was seeking. We came to a good understanding and have been communicating via email for 2 weeks now. I want gifts from my wishlist and he has bought me shoes and a skirt thus far and i plan on meeting him soon.
From what i've personally learned and read, most men who are serious will ask or simply offer it up front without a thought.
To answer the questions:
1.) Do you ask for money for the first meeting? A small amount, large amount, or do you not ask for anything?
~I personally feel uncomfortable with being handed a envelope with money from some guy. I would prefer a gift if anything. But like Maribell said, I wouldn't require it since if you didn't really get a chance to talk about it via emails or whatever, this would be a good time to. He should naturally pay for the drinks or whatever. But a nice casual "see if we're on the same page" meeting would be suitable.
2.) Do you receive your money (the agreed upon monthly amount) in full on a certain date, or disbursed each meeting?
~Never did this so i can't comment. I'm a gift girl.
3.) What is a fair amount to ask for per month, in your opinion?
That varies. I would be thrilled with $500 a month cause it would be play money to me. But if this is going to help with living expenses it would naturally be higher. Basically what Maribell said.
Better known as... DirtyLittleSecret.
Hey ladies, I just wanted give you a thread that I know will be helpful. It's long, but please read the entire thread. There are some really good tips in there. Good Luck!
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthread.php?t=154436
yay, this thread has answered several questions of my own, too. thanks for the help!



Well for the monthly allowance, do you get the money up front or wait. And how to get around the guy thinking you're gonna run off if he gives it upfront, or you getting screwed over if you wait til another point in month




I have experience.
1. Yes I do. First and foremost the reason why you're meeting up with him. TIME Is MONEY! I ALWAYS atleast ask for $150 to make sure that they're serious (IF $150 WHEN MEETING MAKES HIM FLINCH HE'S DEFINITELY NOT WORTH IT! DON'T SELL YOURSELF SHORT!). They should already know the deal before meeting up with you!
2. I receive it in FULL before we even sit down and start the date. NO EXCUSES OR I'LL LEAVE! (WHERE'S TOURINGGF WHEN I NEED HER?)
3.Depending on how you sort things out with him. I will NEVER sleep with a SD. That's not what they're meant for. Otherwise, he can go fuck himself and go get an escort.
-LX
"Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."





^ Yes, I always ask for a donation. It's just a waste of time if you leave without any cash.
All the SD's I've talked to, I've brough up sex right away (as in, I said it will never happen). Is it better to pretend that it's a possibility so that you can get money from them or should you just be honest with them? I've lost a lot of SD possibilities because of the sex thing. I would never have sex with one; I just bring it up right away.




@scurvette For an example in email "Before meeting I usually require guys to have a meeting fee just to make sure they're serious about an SD/SB relationship (Let him know that you HAVE done this before even if you haven't. You do NOT want to get played or swindled into not getting payed). Let me know if you're still interested!" Then he'll either throw a fit before hand (which is great so you'll know he's not worth it) or he'll ask how much and you proceed from there. If he doesn't flinch on the offer then you're all good!
@sammi I never tell them upfront that I won't since it's a BIG turn off for them but I will NEVER say that I will. You're making a fantasy for them..... pretty much leading them on until you've gotten the amount of money you needed. I try to steer their mind clear AWAY from sex as much as I can but guys being guys atleast let them know that you're a lady with class NOT someone to just get paid to fuck (on discount especially). I always dress up (very classy NOT slutty) when I meet up with them so it still subconsciously is steering them away from sex but more trophy wife material.
Good luck!
"Strippers are like pet tigers. They are nice to look at but they are not for everyone."





Thanks for the info! I guess the mistake I made was by asking right away if they want sex, and letting them know it's absolutely not going to happen.





Im still seeing the same SD that I talked about having met in that one thread...he's not giving as much as we agreed upon, but still a good amount, esp considering we hardly see each other.
On our first meeting, he took me out for dinner, and he was the one who said he wanted to make sure we're both clear on what the arrangement was and how much. Not unlike the last SD that I had when we first met...it was just something to get out of the way so that neither of us would be wondering.
He just wants someone to have dinner with and spend time with every so often...he doesnt want a relationship or anyone in his "personal" life, nor does he want to be a part of mine. All he wants is the moment, someone who is a break between work and home life that he can have a nice time with, share a meal or a drink, etc.
We both laid out out expectations of what we wanted out of this, and after dinner he gave me $300.
We had agreed to something like $1200/mth and see each other once a week, but its turned into more like $800 month and we've seen each other only 3 times so far. Fair enough I figure.



I've had a sugardaddy for a few years now... He actually met my husband after we got married and they got along quite well! I live about six hours from him now, so I(we?) don't get the chance to see him very frequently. We've had sex a few times, but not for a couple of years now, and yes, now-husband knew.
Over the past couple of years we've only been able to meet for quick lunches, as I'm almost never in his town without some sort of nonsensebullshitbusiness that fills every little gap of time (grr), and he flies out of town frequently for business. I actually saw him last week, only for a quick 10 minute lunch, and he expressed surprise that my husband hadn't joined us o_O So he clearly adores us as a couple...
No matter how long I spend with him, I'm always given some sort of gift as a thank-you for the sacrifice of my time (even that 10 minute lunch date ate up about an hour of time, lolol) in addition to an amazing meal. I think how much I get is directly proportional to how much time we get together, but I've never had a monthly allowance, unless you count getting to hear about his other sexual conquests in the time we've been apart (I know I do!)
But he apparently keeps a couple of girls in each city he frequents, most of whom seem to be a lot more bitchy than I am, haha, so I get to be one of his favorites![]()

I had one sugardaddy a few years ago. It lasted two years, on and off.
1) Paying you for the first meeting - I wouldn't ask for it, just because he's making as much of a leap of faith as you are and he has no way of knowing if you look anything like your pictures or if the information on your profile is true. If I were a potential SD and was going to meet a girl from the internet and she asked me to bring money, my thought would be "What if she faked her pics or she has a horrible attitude and then I still have to give her money anyway?"
I didn't ask for it when I met my old sugardaddy. After dinner, though, he gave me $1000 and told me he wanted to see me regularly, and then we fooled around.
A different time, though, I met a potential SD and waited too long to ask! I met him twice and we slept together the second time. He had been promising money. After we slept together, I asked him to hit the ATM before he dropped me back at my place. He made excuses and told me that he would get the money to me later. I never heard from him again. Let this be a lesson! If I ever go that route again, I'll make sure to get paid before any type of hooking up happens and even before I invest more than an hour or two hanging out with him in a non-sexual way.
The first meeting should be all about negotiating money, after you establish compatibility, so you can let him know then that you'd like the money by the beginning of the second date. I would accept no excuses from him for not having it for you by then.
If you feel that you would prefer to get paid for the first date, though, might as well try. Other ladies on this thread have made it work, so it's clearly possible, and if it doesn't seem to be working then you can switch back to not asking for it.
2) I got my money every time we met. There was a fixed fee per meeting. I didn't want a situation where he gave me a fixed monthly sum and I then ended up spending more time with him than anticipated. I'm sure that he didn't want the opposite situation, either, so that worked out for us.
3) I'm not really sure what a fair amount to ask for per month would be! For me, it would depend on how sexual we were and how many times we would be seeing each other. If it's going to be pretty much platonic, then maybe a couple hundred per meeting. If you're going to cuddle and snuggle, then more than that. If it's going to be actual sex on a regular basis, then definitely more than that, he should be paying your bills at that point. I'm sure the more experienced ladies can give you better estimates depending on what's worked for them.
BTW, housewench, that sounds like an awesome setup! Primarily because your SD must be a fairly cool dude if he gets along with your husband. Most guys who want to be an SD, from what I've experienced, are not cool. My theory is that if they were, then they wouldn't need to be an SD. I wish there were more out there with good personalities!



^ Yeah, he was an AMAZING find, the only guy who contacted me on SeekingArrangement who was at all worth the time. I made sure I told him before we met that yes, I did have a (then-)boyfriend, and I would not see him during times that would take away from times we rarely had together and that HE had priority. He was fine with that, and told me that his wife had lost interest in sex YEAAAARS ago (ouch!) and so they had one of those 'don't ask, don't tell' arrangements. And I'm all about giving people what they need that they don't get elsewhere![]()





1. depends. do you mind if i wear my bathrobe to where we're going? if no, small amount. do i need to wear shoes to where we're going? if so, large amount. LMAO @ nothing at all.
2. you always collect your money up front. this was told to me the first day i ever danced and it is good advice in every situation. i will get my money when i see you. if i won't see you and you still want to give me money, that's awesome too.
3. you might try a "per meeting" basis. if you ask for it, you will probably get it. if you don't ask, don't be shocked when you don't get it.
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