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    Do you do this? I have recieved tips after a lap dance before, but I've never asked for one (probably why I've only gotten a few).
    I've been working as a bartender for years, and am new to this industry. I'm trained to think that outright asking for tips is rude and shouldn't be done. I would call some folks out for not tipping at the bar, but usually only the real jackasses. It seems weird to me to ask for a tip from a custy who's spent a decent amt of $$$ on me and was generally well-behaved.
    If you do ask for tips, how do you go about it? Do your custies ever get turned off or irritated? I can't figure out if the whole "it wouldn't hurt to ask" idea is true here.
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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    When you are done with dances, you can sometimes get away with saying, "well, after all that fun, it's $XX, plus whatever tip you'd like to add", or some variation thereof. I do that, and guys don't seem to get annoyed by it. Or when they ask how much dances are, you can say "a minimum of $XX", or "$XX, plus any tip".
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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I think it depends on the club culture. Tipping isn't the norm in my area, both for stage shows or private dances. It happens, but it's rare and not expected. Because of this, I don't ask for tips since that's just not what customers expect.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I worked with a girl who always said "the better the tip the the hotter the dance." I think that might backfire but then again....most "lines" potentially could. I sometimes can use that line as long as you pair it with a flirty wink and playful smile and as long as your not already dragging a customer back.
    And on that note....I think knowing when/who to ask for a tip, not just HOW is key.
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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    If it was under 150 or so I'll say something like "that was one dance, that will be $25 minimum", or "that was 4 dances, that is $100 minimum". So they can choose whether or not they want to give more as a tip without feeling pressured to give a tip, and without making myself look greedy.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    Before the recession and everything that followed with it, almost every guy tipped me for a lapdance. The tips started at $5 and went up from there.

    Now, with many hurting financially, I'm getting tipped less and less or not at all. Getting tipped or not really makes a difference in my overall profit. Since dance prices in my area have lowered, I've had no choice, but to tell custys that the price of the dance does not include a tip.

    It's rare, but I have gottened a few attitudes here and there, but I have to look out for me, and I've found that I get more tips through prompting guys to tip me then not at all. I always state this with a smile and very nicely.

    I don't feel embarrassed about doing it and I don't think it's rude. Its just become routine for me like quoting dance prices. It comes off very natural and my success rate is motivation enough to keep it going.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    "So it's $20 and tips are appreciated"
    "So 2 dances is $40 but I LOVE tips"

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I think you have to be careful when asking for tips... because it could backfire and make you look greedy.

    Some of the suggestions given are really cute though. I just don't do it. More times than not, the customers tip me regardless.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I always ask after.

    Me: Was that alright for you?
    Them: Oh yes!!
    Me: Did I earn myself a tip?
    Them: Of course!!

    Then I keep talking while they reach for their wallet so they're not uncomfortable/inclined to leave without tipping.

    The only exception is if I think they will spend much more. If I reckon I can get them in VIP I don't ask for a tip, I just go straight for the kill. Or if they had to borrow money from a friend to get the dance.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I always ask, sometimes I get an extra 10 or 20 sometimes nothing!!

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    i say just ask, the worst that can happen is if they say no, i find that if they dont wanna tip they'll just try to change the subject but sometimes they feel bad and they generally will, u never know ur luck i guess

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    If I don't ask, they don't tip because so many girls here just grab their $20 and run. Those extra $2 or whatever they deem a good tip, adds up at the end of the night.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I have just gotten in the habit of trying to scurry off without giving them their change instead of asking for tips. I know it sounds shady, but it works many times. And if they do stop me, then I just act like I didn't realize what they handed me & apologize then ask them how much change would they like back. Oops!

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    At the end they always ask how much to pay me and I'll say "it's $xx unless of course you want to pay me more" and they always tip after that. I don't say it in a rude "give me your money!" way, I say it in a "cute, joking, get lost in my big doe eyes and empty your wallet" way.

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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    If they ask how much they owe me I say x for dances and tips for the phenomenal time are always appreciated.. with a big smile.. Always cutesy .. never greedy

    even if they just give you an extra couple dollars it can add up over the whole night. And, some guys get confused and will tip 20% lol. whatever works.
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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    I love asking for tips! On the floor, I tell the customer the price of a lapdance is "xx per song, and whatever they want to tip", I repeat this before I start every lapdance, then at the end I say "ok, your total is xx plus whatever you want to tip!" very rarely do I get tipped less that $5, sometimes they even ask me how much to tip, and I tell them $5 per song is pretty standard. I've noticed the more songs they buy, the less they tip...I'm sure that would never fly with bartenders and restaurants, usually the bigger the tab/bill, the bigger the tip needs to be!
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    That's "$100 for the dance... and $100 for me. "
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    Default Re: Asking for tips after private dances

    If I knew that the guy was from out of town or didn't have potential to be a regular for some reason, I would usually ask. It's obnoxious, annoying, and "greedy," but you'll make money off of it almost every single time...so you really can't blame strippers for asking.

    Expecting a tip is one thing, but there is technically no harm done by asking someone if they'd like to tip you.

    Delivery is everything though--this thread has some great ways to ask for a tip without making the guy feel like he has to tip you.

    I would almost never ask potential regulars for tips, though. I found that it does tend to turn people off (this is regional, of course).

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    That's "$100 for the dance... and $100 for me. "
    lol that's a funny line! do you ever get guys who actually will tip you 100%?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Oksana23 View Post
    lol that's a funny line! do you ever get guys who actually will tip you 100%?
    I sure do. LOL
    More typically I get $20-40 or so... but sometimes people LOL and give me some pretty large tips.
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