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    Default Guys falling in love with you - problem!!

    I did a search and I didn't see any threads relating to this topic in the way I need advice. If it's a repost, someone kindly point me in the direction of an original thread? (I may very well just suck at proper search terms. lol)

    So - there's a lot of threads and posts on here about making guys fall in love with you to get them to spend more money. It seems most girls on here don't have a problem getting guys to spend a little bit, but they want advice on getting a guy to fall in love so they'll spend more.

    My problem is the opposite. I have no issue getting these guys to fall in love with me - but getting them to spend money instead of pulling the, "I really like you - can we go out sometime/can I get your number/buying dances would be awkward now that I like you so much/etc."

    Does anyone else have this issue? How the HELL do get them to spend money after they're head-over-heels?
    "The mood is important. You can't get a lady with force.
    ...sweet things alone are not enough. Seduce me with more fire."

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    Default Re: Guys falling in love with you - problem!!

    It simple. You tell them if they really care about you then they would be tipping and buying dances from you than doing the same thing all these guys lie about.

    I always tell then how all these men in here say they rather take me out to dinner than help me out by buying dances.. Then I keep talking about how then they say they can take me away from here and I ask they why.. I love it there and how it makes me feel bla bla bla... Its almost like the girlfriend effect. They want them for sex but not for the talking.

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    Default Re: Guys falling in love with you - problem!!

    i have this problem too.. what i do is make it clear that i need to work. once a guy was in love with me but only had enough for 2 dances. afterwards i left to make money from other customers and he was staring at me miserably in the corner. a month or so later (i only work 2-3x a week) he came in to see me and spent 3-400 on me in dances!! i wasn't even going to talk to him cause i thought he was broke but apparently he learned his lesson lol! i hope this method works out for you!

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    Default Re: Guys falling in love with you - problem!!

    ^ great advice.Ok I needed to revamp that post. I say leave them alone or spend minimal time with them after they get their dances , I would politely thank them and move on. If they try to follow you around, I would just state to them ooh so you want another dance? If they say no then say ok well let me know when you do and just move on to chat with someone else. I think when you keep bringing up $$$ then it will make sense. Some guys will obviously try and flip out saying "ooh you only want me for my money". Which is almost the dumbest thing a man could say in this environment.

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    Default Re: Guys falling in love with you - problem!!

    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    ^ great advice.Ok I needed to revamp that post. I say leave them alone or spend minimal time with them after they get their dances , I would politely thank them and move on. If they try to follow you around, I would just state to them ooh so you want another dance? If they say no then say ok well let me know when you do and just move on to chat with someone else. I think when you keep bringing up $$$ then it will make sense. Some guys will obviously try and flip out saying "ooh you only want me for my money". Which is almost the dumbest thing a man could say in this environment.
    If they say this, they ain't going to spend anyways...walk away...Or say, "well you only want me for my body." And see what they say....lol

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    But what if he is totally hot?? Lol. I had this happen and I was able to explain that I had bills to pay and that making money was my job, so Id be back if he decided he wanted another dance. He bought 3 more And then I agreed to dinner cause he was soooo my type. Spend money on me darn it, make it rain!!

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    I hate it when the guys who fall in love sit there miserably, like Heatherette wrote.

    Its especially weird when you're four chairs away hustling one guy after another. They really make me feel like I'm doing something wrong the way they sulk and stare.

    I used the line that I love the club and am my most wild self when I'm there and we could go on private dates in the VIP or champagne rooms and have more fun than anywhere else. When the guy kept insisting on buyng me a ticket to Cancun to go with him I tried to get him to spend it on me in the club. Didn't work but I think if he actually had the money on him, he might have spent it. Gave him my club hotmail if he wanted to set something up in the club later on. I'll see what happens.

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    Once a guy decides he only wants to spend on you outside the club, it's not likely that he will buy dances anymore. Just start ignoring him and find new guys to make money off of. Or if he keeps asking for a date say you'd love to and mention you have 3 kids under the age of 5 at home and gush about how you've been looking for the perfect step-father figure for them. Hmm so when was that date? Guarantee you'll never see that guy again.

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    Men and kids that are not their own.. They don't seem to mix very well..

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    if a guy starts talking about doing OTC and I can't talk him out of it, I stop talking to the guy. I don't do OTC period.

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