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    so as most of you know im pretty open minded and dont take shit too seriously unless it hits the fan in epic proportions.
    i kinda dont know what to do.
    my bf usually has a S&M fetish him being the sub. i was checking my email when i found several different links to porn sites regarding transexuals fucking male slaves.
    i dont even know what to think right now?
    i asked him and he said it came up by mistake then i said no theres several different searches you ran here and here and he went all defensive and embarassed.
    im kinda in a rush if u need more info ask
    plz help??
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    Default Re: confused about porn found

    *removed the quote*

    Some fantasies are just that fantasies, not to be shared. I would leave that one alone, and he may share at his own time when ready. Being confronted on something that personal when unprepared would make anyone defensive. Then knowing it is discussed with random strangers world wide never to be erased in data caches every where..................... a breach of trust.

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    I kind of agree with Army Sgt...UNLESS you have other reasons to believe that he has any gay tendencies.

    If he seems to be an otherwise straight hetero, I'd brush it off as some sot of curiosity. If he has ever....EVER given you any other reason to think he may be latently gay, I'd want to know more about this.

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    Does he have you fuck him in the ass with a strap-on? If so he may be one step away from acting out his fantasies with a real live transsexual if he has not already.
    Last edited by safado; 04-30-2011 at 01:41 PM. Reason: trying to be more sensitive

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    Default Re: confused about porn found

    ^^^ Could you please be a little more sensitive to this topic?

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    It's also possible that he looked it up out of curiosity.

    Does he have a large collection of this type of porn saved on his computer or anything?

    I don't usually condone invasion of privacy like this, but can't you use your computer's/web browser's history to see in what order he looked the sites up?
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    Quote Originally Posted by safado View Post
    Does he have you fuck him in the ass with a strap-on? If so he may be one step away from taking it up the ass from a transsexual if he has not already.
    Agreed!!! This may be his ultimate fantasy! meaning he would want to do this in real life if he could get away with the social stigmas associated with it.

    I also say double wash your toys and starting adding "yoplait" to the shopping list because he may be dipping into your toy stash for alittle alone play.

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    Also some subs like a dash of sissification, feminization or forced gay or bi. He may want you to push his limits even further. Like make him suck some guy part or make him please the next 20 guys at a "glory hole". It could just be him wanting his limits pushed to a level that he (behind the scenes truly desires) but would never actually do on his own. Meaning he would say "well I did it because I was told to" rather then I did it because I really wanted to and liked it.

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    I wouldnt worry about it, watch his behaviour and actions. Most people watch porn that will never happen, nor do they want to act it out. Porn is for curiosity and fantasies. He probably was just curious, enjoys watching it, its different/taboo, not something thats plain vanilla.. Doesnt mean he will act upon it.

    Hell, if my SO or whoever saw some of the porn I sometimes go about, they would freak haha! But I wouldnt act on it, thats the difference. Having an open and honest communication is your best friend, if you two have it, he will tell you whether he wanted to try it. Being open about the idea is a better route for him to open up if anything does pop up in his mind.

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    That whole wanting to get fucked in the ass thing usually goes hand in hand with the male sub thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anouk.oui View Post
    so as most of you know im pretty open minded and dont take shit too seriously unless it hits the fan in epic proportions.
    i kinda dont know what to do.
    my bf usually has a S&M fetish him being the sub. i was checking my email when i found several different links to porn sites regarding transexuals fucking male slaves.
    i dont even know what to think right now?
    i asked him and he said it came up by mistake then i said no theres several different searches you ran here and here and he went all defensive and embarassed.
    im kinda in a rush if u need more info ask
    plz help??
    something very similar happened to me once. i met a guy online through mutual myspace friends once. he was a college athlete, HUGE muscular guy, but there were a couple of "warning" signs i guess when it seemed like he was obsesed with his asshole and whatnot. so i googled his myspace username and a few online dating sites came up... two were specifically for men who were seeking trannies it really, really threw me off and i immediately stopped talking to him. It's just not my thing. I know some people will say otherwise, but if you like cock and you are a man, you aren't straight - period, a cock with heels and lipstick is still a cock. It's not fair to lie to the person you are dating. now i always google guy'
    s email addresses, and their usernames if i find them online. There was another guy who's email I googled and a forum dedicated to the admiration of large penises came up LOL turns out he was a member and posted his email address on his profile page... I don't think he was gay or bi though, I think he just admired his own large penis and wanted everyone else to as well

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArmySGT. View Post
    Some fantasies are just that fantasies, not to be shared.
    THIS. Honestly... if you're okay with him looking at porn PERIOD... don't bother trying to puzzle through some of the stuff he looks up.

    If someone confronted me about some of the shit I looked up... I'd be embarrassed to say the least! I'd certainly be defensive enough to lie lie lie about why that came up on my computer. LOL
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    Do NOT freak out about this. Everyone has fantasies that they would never actually act out. Hell, it might not even be a fantasy of his, but just a passing curiosity. It doesn't even have to be something that turns him on. Hell, I've looked up numerous things online just for the, "They're doing WHAAAAATTTT?" factor.

    Perfect example of this is two girls one cup. I sincerely hope there isn't anyone in this world who is actually turned on by that video... yet, somehow, everyone seems to have watched it.

    Point is, people look up all kinds of stuff online for all sorts of reasons. It isn't any indication that they want to act out those things in real life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    Also some subs like a dash of sissification, feminization or forced gay or bi. He may want you to push his limits even further. Like make him suck some guy part or make him please the next 20 guys at a "glory hole". It could just be him wanting his limits pushed to a level that he (behind the scenes truly desires) but would never actually do on his own. Meaning he would say "well I did it because I was told to" rather then I did it because I really wanted to and liked it.
    Quote Originally Posted by Trem View Post
    That whole wanting to get fucked in the ass thing usually goes hand in hand with the male sub thing.
    Agreed. If he's submissive, he might like it simply because he doesn't like it, if that makes sense. I think this speaks more to him enjoying the domination and humiliation of the transexual ass-fucking idea, and not to some sort of hidden homosexuality.
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    i would like to start off by saying thank you for once again reminding me to post anything thats a bit of a sensitive topic to ladies only. i kinda expected most blues would try to pick an arguement somehow before helping answer the question and confuse everyone and leave the topic unanswered but i thought i dont wish to limit any other blue who may have had a similar experience and would not mind sharing. please keep in mind this place is for asking for and sharing advice and yes it may be on the internet but it dont have his full name address and phone number attached to it. most of you are from the states anyway. it is a touchy subject already and i cannot believe some of rude and sarcastic responses above.

    okay so i left it a day and decided to bring it up with him again. after a bit of skirting around the topic he said he was curious and he likes the humiliation aspect of it. there was also some searches for female dommes with strapons penetrating a male sub so i think it may have more to do with that then the actual gay thing. he said he didnt want to tell me coz he knew my first bf turned gay and i would worry about him.

    then he also pulled out a goody bag of sex toys hes been hiding from me for over a year including two strapons, a ball gag, few different handcuffs, a butt plug ,some medical things, rope and duct tape. i wish i found that first befor the porn it would have been easier to put the pieces together. and of course if he made it more known to me he wants to be dominated and we had all these toys to play with we could have started having a bit more fun a few months ago.

    then we both felt better, im sure he didnt mind opening up and not keeping this part of him hidden from me and now i know he doesnt really wanna fuck trannies or guys, its part of some roleplay hes into.


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    also he made it really really clear to me that he does not like guys and not curious about it. as most sites in the history that came up were either dommes with strap ons or inflicting humiliation and anal play on a male subject or a tranny domme i think the conclusion to draw from his porn taste has to do with his S&M tendencies and desire for more anal play.
    i would say more but so many insensitive idiots found their way to this thread im not sure i feel comfortable about it.
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    Personally...I get off on and look up some decidedly weird stuff, I would be pretty mortified if anyone was checking up on me and would probably drop dead on the spot if someone were to accuse me of actually doing or wanting it.

    Fantasy is just that...fantasy. I think, either youre cool with it that hesinto porn or youre not. If you dont think hes actually trying to find and have sex with other women cause he sees it online, then why think hes actively trying or even wanting to find and have sex with trannies?

    Thats just picking and choosing what you find acceptable for him to look at and fantasize about....which to me is a bit controlling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anouk.oui View Post
    then he also pulled out a goody bag of sex toys hes been hiding from me for over a year including two strapons, a ball gag, few different handcuffs, a butt plug ,some medical things, rope and duct tape. i wish i found that first befor the porn it would have been easier to put the pieces together. and of course if he made it more known to me he wants to be dominated and we had all these toys to play with we could have started having a bit more fun a few months ago.

    then we both felt better, im sure he didnt mind opening up and not keeping this part of him hidden from me and now i know he doesnt really wanna fuck trannies or guys, its part of some roleplay hes into.


    then we had great make up sex
    I'm so glad that things worked out so well! There was nothing to worry about after all.
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    Ah! you were posting the same time I was!!! Okay, I think its great that he was able to open up to you and that both of you can explore his fantasies together...! That says a lot about your relationship too...

    ...I WAY too shy to bring up or mention what Im into with any guy...only one, my ex-bf has found me out and thats because he was brave enough to bring it up to me as his personal fantasy. And even so I was still so self conscious that he knew LoL!

    Good news on the outcome

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