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    So my question is two fold, the 1st is on MGF I've been contacted by a few men who want me to use and abuse them, via CAM? I'm not all to certain how it works (i.e. humiliation, small penis stuff, etc) So if anyone can provide any insight on that, awesome.

    Now the next thing is kinda extreme, I was approached by a friend of a friend into him being my submissive. No sex, but he's into being my personal toilet for 500? I'd heard of that before but have to admit that I was a little shocked that he came at me like that. Ehhhh anybody ever gone this route?

    Any help would be great

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    I will be back to answer this later, it's almost 4am and I iz sleeepy! But for now use the search function because I'm pretty sure I've asbwered some of these questions a few times over already. Have a good night!

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    You don't have to necessarily be a "by the book" Mistress, but you do need to have a creative mind and a good vocabulary. Also, don't be afraid to ask him questions about what he envisions or what his Mistress fantasy is, because many will have no clue when they are new to it and will just say "I want to be dominated"...that phrase alone doesn't help.

    Mistress camming can be done, but it is more challenging than having a true slave relationship where you are actually there in person to oversee everything and personally dish out punishment. It's also easier to do when the paying guest has a cam, not impossible, just easier.

    With online gigs, you will find that many just want to be verbally humiliated, told how to jack of, or they want to show you what a slut they are. From my experience, few really know what true submissiveness is all about and few will pay for the amount of time required to build that relationship, for it does require trust and most of these guys just want a "happy ending" at the end of their show. Not too many opt for the "you can't cum until you visit me 4 more times"...some may, but they are the few who are disciplined enough.

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    Oh, and as far as the real life experience your friend wishes to have, if it were a friend, heck yeah I'd do it! Is that $500 a pop or is that for a punchcard of 10 sessions?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kittykrane View Post
    "I want to be dominated"...
    That phrase makes me want to pull their hair out, one tiny section after the other, slapping them in between.

    I actually wanted to post a thread about this recently, because for some reason I get a lot of subs, even though I don't advertise that. I know about different types of Domme fantasies and scenarios, but I find online domming to be puzzling and just like you said, I think most of these guys have no idea what dom/sub relationship usually is.
    I find it especially hard when they don't do c2c (most of my regulars with a subbish character). I do some verbal taunting and stuff, but really...what exactly do I do? I can't exactly cane them or make them kiss my ass for half an hour. If I say "you're not allowed to touch", without a cam, what tells me he's not furiously pumping?

    I don't pretend to be a professional Domme, but I enjoy doing these shows (that is, when I'm not frustrated about what I previously written) and making money from them. Girls who do online domming...can you offer some practical advice on what to do, if you're comfortable with it? If you don't want to post it, I'll happily accept PM's. Thanks!

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    ...........and there is nothing wrong with accepting money for domme shows. We are all online to make money. Don't listen to the people that shoot you the "You have to be a real domme to understand" BS. Things like financial domination/small cock humiliation has very little to do with BDSM. IN RL you just can't go and post an ad, call yourself a domme because it doesn't take much to kill a client.

    Check out www. club-tierra. com, www. bitchybeauty.com, and for REAL online domination. Bitchy beauty is a very nice woman. Be careful with how you approach her though and she'll give you some tips.

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    I don't advertise as a Domme either, just another cammer that has the experience. I do all types of shows, whatever I can do to make that money! And the one time I did offer strictly Domme stuff, I was bored out of my mind and the guys were driving me crazy..I seemed to get more freeloaders in that category. Keep your options open!

    Yeah, financial domme is very hard to do and many aren't serious . I actually avoid those guys and the blackmail ones too because they are so full of sh*t. I mean, you say, Ok, tip me 25 GOLD to get my attention and do they do it? Nope....So they obviously aren't serious enough.

    But SPH (small penis) is EASY! Anyone can laugh at a tiny sausage and make fun of it and tell him how useless it is. Yup, you don't have to be a TRUE domme to do that.

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    @ KittyKrane... It's 500 for the one time, lol gotta get through that first then if its cool then I'll think long term... Thanks for the insight too!

    @MistyRose ... I've enjoyed everything leading up to the show... Imma bossy and demanding bitch anyway and someone wants to pay me to be myself? lol What more can a girl want? I'm also interested in any advice you get on online domination...

    @TouringGirlfriend... Thanks for the the insight & the links, going to go check them out now

    You ladies are great, so non judgemental!... Anywhere else in the world I would of just gotten E-Bashed lol Ya'll are the best!

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    Haha, you are welcome! Well then take that $500 and let him have it girl! That's a big turn-on for many guys..I personally don't see anything wrong with #1. Cutting loose with a deuce though, LOL, not so sure I'd do that and really, who can do that at will anyhow? Say stuff to him like "your tongue better be as soft as Charmin"!

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    Oh and I'd never poop on anyone LMFAO! Yeah go ahead and make that money but it's not my style at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kittykrane View Post
    Haha, you are welcome! Well then take that $500 and let him have it girl! That's a big turn-on for many guys..I personally don't see anything wrong with #1. Cutting loose with a deuce though, LOL, not so sure I'd do that and really, who can do that at will anyhow? Say stuff to him like "your tongue better be as soft as Charmin"!
    I like naked chicks.

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    The thing with humiliation is being able to gauge when you hit the right note with them. Some are just frustratingly vague. Pay attention to how they respond to certain insults. I find that if you think of the WHY then the HOW becomes easier. You know the end that the submissive is seeking and you can take them there.

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    Please do research--as in, reading physical books by respected BDSM authors. You'd be surprised how much misinformation there is, and that's what leads the sub guys to ask Dommes to do things that they don't actually do, ever.

    It'll also give you a huge edge on the competition as it's easy to be a "repeat offender," but it takes balls to be original.

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