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    Angry Haters...

    Right, so I'm pretty new to camming, but I announced on my *personal* Facebook that I am looking to pursue burlesque and becoming a sex therapist and already I've gotten negative feedback. Someone said let me know when you do porn, funny, funny.
    I gave a sex positive response, no reply.
    What do you girls do about haters? I have my BA and am SERIOUS about becoming a sex therapist...how do you personally convert that negative energy into something positive? I'm just NO GOOD at channeling negativity and so I'm just sitting here heated right now

    I'm so sick of how anal society is when it comes to people expressing their sexuality. I know it is something I should EXPECT, but I just get so damn frustrated with societal "norms" at times...anyway, it was a step for me, because it's the first time I've admitted on a social forum where I'm networked with friends and family about what it is that I've become involved with. I'm a cam model. I show my body for money. And there's nothing wrong with that. And there's nothing wrong with porn. There IS something wrong with people, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SwanSongs View Post
    Right, so I'm pretty new to camming, but I announced on my *personal* Facebook that I am looking to pursue burlesque and becoming a sex therapist and already I've gotten negative feedback. Someone said let me know when you do porn, funny, funny.
    I gave a sex positive response, no reply.
    What do you girls do about haters? I have my BA and am SERIOUS about becoming a sex therapist...how do you personally convert that negative energy into something positive? I'm just NO GOOD at channeling negativity and so I'm just sitting here heated right now

    I'm so sick of how anal society is when it comes to people expressing their sexuality. I know it is something I should EXPECT, but I just get so damn frustrated with societal "norms" at times...anyway, it was a step for me, because it's the first time I've admitted on a social forum where I'm networked with friends and family about what it is that I've become involved with. I'm a cam model. I show my body for money. And there's nothing wrong with that. And there's nothing wrong with porn. There IS something wrong with people, though.
    GO TO YOUR FRIENDS LIST AND HIT THAT X TO (DELETE FRIEND)
    You have your degree and are attractive, so in other words... isn't that enough? That's what you're getting from these so called "friends". I say move the negative people out of your life and do what feels right for you.

    Not everyone is going to like what you do and that's ok as long as you're not hurting yourself or others. So go out there and be you!

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    I don't deal with people who don't accept what I do. I'm Friends with some of my husband's relatives and still post prostitution news, sex-positive articles, and all sorts of controversial things. If they don't like it, they can go suck a dick they don't want to admit they're sucking If they want to be a closed-minded ass, they can take it elsewhere. Life is the longest thing you'll ever do, don't let haters barge in

    And I was a huge perv growing up, so most of my friends are too!

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    Oh girl,haters are everywhere you go,even on this damn forum!! Personally I wouldn't have made that announcement via facebook or any other social network. We already deal with enough "adult" crap on a daily basis. Don't have the time to deal with "normal" people's drama. If it were me,I would have pursued my dream/goal,then once I reached it,shouted my success from the rooftops!! There is always someone to bring you down when you're in the process of becoming something greater/higher. However I've found that once you reach that certain level of "excellence" no one has sh*t to say. I'm not saying announcing it was wrong,but you had to at least think they would have something to say. Man I don't tell anyone anything about what I do,just don't need the headache. People do their dirt day in and day out. Then all of a sudden they hear or see what we do and they automatically become "super religious". Like "didn't you just tell me how you had sex with some random guy that you "met" at a bar". Now you're telling me its wrong to show my gorgeous() body off to strangers? STFU already!! "Normal" females send nude photos everywhere just for the hell of it,camgirls send photos and get paid for it. "Normal" females sleep around for fun,escorts get paid to have fun. "Normal" females talk dirty thinking they're cute,PSO's talk dirty and get paid by the minute. As far as dancers,only "normal" girls would get on a stage(probably drunk) and dance for free Takes a "real woman" to get on that stage,rock their sh*t and make money in the process. Man I just gave myself a confidence boost. F*ck the haters,WE ARE THE SH*T!!
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    hey Swan
    Dont mind the haters, they will always, ALWAYS be there. its like the good and the bad.
    How can we appreciate the good in life, is there is no bad? we could not tell the difference.

    Just grow a thinker skin, better communication skills, good attitude and optimism and u'll be fine!and make sure you practice what you preach. I think thats key.

    At no time should you, later on in life, state that camming/sex/porn is bad, dont change your mind, make sure you are 100 % aware of your beliefs ... promise me this lol

    I recently saw on Oprah's TV channel that show called Addicted to Food.
    there was a woman there anorexic, and guess what was her carrier in life... "helping others deal with their food addiction"!!!!!!! when she could not even help herself! now thats fucked up..
    Good luck with your carrier and thanks for trying to help us, God knows we need it

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    Swan I did the same thing as you when I started modeling. I thought my friends and family would be happy for me. Like yours, they were not and they were dicks about it. 6 years in the adult industry later I do have a few things going for me

    1)The super haters and I have stopped talking to each other and so I've filled their slots in my life with better people who don't hate.
    2)My close family (parents, sisters, some aunts and cousins) have "come to terms" with it and accept me and understand a little better. LOL, my sisters even bought copies of the 40th Anniversary Penthouse I was in!
    3)I never have to worry about being "outed" to my nearest and dearest.

    Also, I'm just looking into getting my MSW and MEd so I can be a licensed sex therapist! We should compare notes on schools and internships and stuff!


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    Quote Originally Posted by SwanSongs View Post
    Right, so I'm pretty new to camming, but I announced on my *personal* Facebook that I am looking to pursue burlesque and becoming a sex therapist and already I've gotten negative feedback. Someone said let me know when you do porn, funny, funny.
    I gave a sex positive response, no reply.
    What do you girls do about haters? I have my BA and am SERIOUS about becoming a sex therapist...how do you personally convert that negative energy into something positive? I'm just NO GOOD at channeling negativity and so I'm just sitting here heated right now

    I'm so sick of how anal society is when it comes to people expressing their sexuality. I know it is something I should EXPECT, but I just get so damn frustrated with societal "norms" at times...anyway, it was a step for me, because it's the first time I've admitted on a social forum where I'm networked with friends and family about what it is that I've become involved with. I'm a cam model. I show my body for money. And there's nothing wrong with that. And there's nothing wrong with porn. There IS something wrong with people, though.
    Funnily enough I announced on FB that I have my boob op booked for the 23rd May and how I'm really excited. I got a string of shocked and negative responses. I was really surprised at how closed minded and judgmental people are. And that's just to plastic surgery. Not a chance I'd tell anyone about my "other life" lol. My boyfriend knows nd one other friend (strangely, and happily, she was also thinking about getting into it when i told her!!).

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    If I posted anything about sex work on my Facebook, I'm sure I'd be reading a lot of comments quoting Bible verses, lol.

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    Thanks to everyone who responded; you all have really good advice and a lot of insight that I appreciate...I guess I did come into this hoping that friends and family would eventually be supportive, but now I see that most people just like to dish out criticism when it comes to things they might not fully understand. Luckily, the people who posted negatively were not in my close circle of friends. In fact, one of my friends, who is a DEVOUT Christian responded positively...I also don't like surrounding myself with judgemental people, so I feel I have chosen wisely over the past few years when it comes to surrounding myself with open-minded people. It's just the not so open-minded fringe friends who give me grief. And I think I will start deleting on Facebook, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren View Post
    Swan I did the same thing as you when I started modeling. I thought my friends and family would be happy for me. Like yours, they were not and they were dicks about it. 6 years in the adult industry later I do have a few things going for me

    1)The super haters and I have stopped talking to each other and so I've filled their slots in my life with better people who don't hate.
    2)My close family (parents, sisters, some aunts and cousins) have "come to terms" with it and accept me and understand a little better. LOL, my sisters even bought copies of the 40th Anniversary Penthouse I was in!
    3)I never have to worry about being "outed" to my nearest and dearest.

    Also, I'm just looking into getting my MSW and MEd so I can be a licensed sex therapist! We should compare notes on schools and internships and stuff!
    Dude that's awesome you and I will definitely get along!!

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    Hypocrites they alllll are!

    Do you what you do! (Im debating if i should do sex therapy because i just love human sexuality in a total) because Im sure there is someone out there that admires what you do, buton the inside but they're not brave enough to actually go out about taking steps into being in the sex industry.

    There are other sexworkers besides porn stars.

    In the long run you'll have a hell of an interesting career and being your own boss while they take orders!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpeedDial View Post
    Hypocrites they alllll are!

    Do you what you do! (Im debating if i should do sex therapy because i just love human sexuality in a total) because Im sure there is someone out there that admires what you do, buton the inside but they're not brave enough to actually go out about taking steps into being in the sex industry.

    There are other sexworkers besides porn stars.

    In the long run you'll have a hell of an interesting career and being your own boss while they take orders!
    Yeah, plus having been a cam model can be incorporated into grad school work as "field research" and camming is something patients might not be SUPER puzzled over, should they come across past Adult work. I think it's a great profession all around! I also love human sexuality and feel completely comfortable talking about it. My friends are USED to me talking about sex positive feminism, so some of them might not even be that surprised (given my crazy personality) that I delved into camming

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    Quote Originally Posted by SwanSongs View Post
    Yeah, plus having been a cam model can be incorporated into grad school work as "field research" and camming is something patients might not be SUPER puzzled over, should they come across past Adult work. I think it's a great profession all around! I also love human sexuality and feel completely comfortable talking about it. My friends are USED to me talking about sex positive feminism, so some of them might not even be that surprised (given my crazy personality) that I delved into camming
    Yaaaassssssss!!

    you're giving me life right now!!

    I have the exact same mindset lol

    we'd get along great if I knew you in real life :p

    I think all of us on SW are like minded to an extent when it comes to views on human sexuality on a whole spectrum... if not, why would we all be here?

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    honestly, if there are people in your life that hate on positive choices you are making, they aren't worth being friends with! Good luck! I have always wanted to get into burlesque

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    There will always be someone hating. It either they are afraid or they never had the guts to work outside the box.

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    Quote Originally Posted by That"MODEL"Chick View Post
    Oh girl,haters are everywhere you go,even on this damn forum!! Personally I wouldn't have made that announcement via facebook or any other social network. We already deal with enough "adult" crap on a daily basis. Don't have the time to deal with "normal" people's drama. If it were me,I would have pursued my dream/goal,then once I reached it,shouted my success from the rooftops!! There is always someone to bring you down when you're in the process of becoming something greater/higher. However I've found that once you reach that certain level of "excellence" no one has sh*t to say. I'm not saying announcing it was wrong,but you had to at least think they would have something to say. Man I don't tell anyone anything about what I do,just don't need the headache. People do their dirt day in and day out. Then all of a sudden they hear or see what we do and they automatically become "super religious". Like "didn't you just tell me how you had sex with some random guy that you "met" at bar". Now you're telling me its wrong to show my gorgeous() body off to strangers? STFO already!! "Normal" females send nude photos everywhere just for the hell of it,camgirls send photos and get paid for it. "Normal" females sleep around for fun,escorts get paid to have fun. "Normal" females talk dirty thinking they're cute,PSO's talk dirty and get paid by the minute. As far as dancers,only "normal" girls would get on a stage(probably drunk) and dance for free Takes a "real woman" to get on that stage,rock their sh*t and make money in the process. Man I just gave myself a confidence boost. F*uck the haters,WE ARE THE SH*T!!
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