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  • Only having serious relationships with the same sex

    13 14.94%
  • Sex with the same sex, doesn't have to mean a relationship

    38 43.68%
  • Even one time makes someone bisexual

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  • Depends on the issue

    6 6.90%
  • Even thinking about it but not acting makes one bi

    15 17.24%
  • Sex is sex, I'll take it away I can

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  • I don't consider myself bi though I have had same sex partners

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  • I consider myself bi though I would never date the same sex

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    I get into a discussion with a friend today. She found out a female cousin had sex once with a woman (with her boyfriend there) so now she's saying she's bisexual. I disagree and don't think having sex once makes someone bisexual. On the other hand I believe you can be bisexual even if you never had sex with a person of the same sex.

    I had sex with a woman once and have no plans to repeat it. I was in a FWB relationship about ten years ago and he asked me if I would have sex with this couple. He had been having sex with them and they wanted another woman. He knew watching him with another man was my fantasy so he said he would do it if I was with a woman. I was excited about seeing him with a man so I agreed. While it was enjoyable to have group sex, having sex with the woman was more like meh. Enjoyable, yes, but I have no reason to repeat it. My guy friend btw has had sex with many men but doesn't consider himself bi. I have another friend who has sex with women but doesn't consider herself bi because she's not in relationships with the women. In her mind bisexual means relationships. I don't know if I would agree. I don't consider myself bi and am not interested in repeating it.

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    I say its what you chase in the real world. I'm bisexual and I haven't been with a women cause I haven't found what I want yet. But I know I like men and women and I'm not going to pick a side cause people can't be true with themselves. Also I never been gay or straight. When I learned about sexuality I went straight to bisexual and never wavered.

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    I think it's up to the person in question. If they identify as Bi, then they are. If they don't they aren't. Pretty simple.

    To get oldschool with it-- labels are for soup cans! ;P
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    Quote Originally Posted by sananeko View Post
    I say its what you chase in the real world. I'm bisexual and I haven't been with a women cause I haven't found what I want yet. But I know I like men and women and I'm not going to pick a side cause people can't be true with themselves. Also I never been gay or straight. When I learned about sexuality I went straight to bisexual and never wavered.
    That's interesting and have heard that from others. I've known since I was aware of sexuality that I had no interest in women at all. I do believe in situational same sex where the only available partner is the same sex (prison, the hypothetical desert island, etc).

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    There is desire and then there is sex. Sex can be with anyone and anything. Desire is what you feel to connect and seek.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sananeko View Post
    There is desire and then there is sex. Sex can be with anyone and anything. Desire is what you feel to connect and seek.
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    Default Re: What do you consider bisexual?

    I find that experimenting or doing it for sexual thrill every so often, but with no real desire to be with a woman otherwise falls in the bi-curious "hole"... If I *have* to put a label on it that is.

    I can relate to sananeko, in that Ive never been straight or gay, Ive been bi- for as long as I can remember, and for years before my first sexual experience...I remember my barbies being girlfriends! lol...not that I made them do anything sexual at that age, it was just no different than ken and barbie, I coupled up Rockstar Barbie and Malibu barbie on lots of dates! hehe!

    Anyway...Ive been in relationships with both men and women, though the ones with men have turned more serious, Ive still had longterm relationships with 5 boyfriends and 2 girlfriends.. All the same, I dont think any less of someone for not having had a relationship with a woman who considers herself bi, there are a lot of straight and gay people who have never been in a committed or barely casual relationship and their sexuality isnt called into question because of it...

    Anyway, at the end of the day...we are who we connect ourselves to be, its not something anyone looking from the outside in can decide.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mindy Bares All View Post
    I think it's up to the person in question. If they identify as Bi, then they are. If they don't they aren't. Pretty simple.

    To get oldschool with it-- labels are for soup cans! ;P
    Exactly!
    It's in our nature to want to label and define things, but human sexuality is so fluid I think it's impossible to do so in any strict sense.

    Ultimately I also agree it's up to the person in question, and isn't necessarily tied to sexual history. By that I mean, just because a woman has slept with only men in her life doesn't mean she's not a lesbian.
    (Obviously there can be many variations on this, I was just using that as an example)
    I also believe a person's sexual orientation can change, and that's perfectly fine and normal.

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    Default Re: What do you consider bisexual?

    Strangely, the idea of kissing a girl grosses me out than the idea of going down on a woman. I'm not interested in either, but kissing seems more intimate to me and no idea why.

    I think all the responses are interesting. I'm not trying to sound judgemental it was just something that made me question things after my conversation today.

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    I remember this girl once telling me that just because she likes to fuck girls on occasions, don't make her bisexual. I'm like huh. Someone explain. I've gotten innocent girly crushes/small arousals, but not interested in having sex with women for the most part. Maybe that makes me a tad bi-curious? Only men get me horny all the way.

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    Default Re: What do you consider bisexual?

    I also just want to throw out there that there's more to sexual orientation than gay, straight, or bi.

    I consider myself to be pansexual, though I often just tell people that I'm bi because it requires less explaining.

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    Default Re: What do you consider bisexual?

    If your bf has sex with you and guys he's probably at least bisexual. He may prefer men.

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    It's a personal matter of who some1 privately relates their sexuality. Like I have always been a lesbian only before I came out I only dated guys to hide my gayness/try to fit in, stop the abuse I faced for being gay..ect..ect, but till I was with a woman I called myself str8 & then bi when I started coming out about it.

    Now that I id as a Lesbian however I still feel a attraction from certain men(mostly gay feminine male model types), but I don't think that makes me bi even though I make out barsexually with any1 hot or just for fun if I'm in the mood, but I can't see myself ever having sex w/ a man again cuz I find most of them icky & dick itself gross to me even when I used to date only guys, deny being gay, & have lots of hetero sex.

    I have no clue how that happened when as far as I can remember it's always been women that turned me on & that I have been romantically & really sexually attracted to . However still ever now & then I think oh that gay guy is soo cute. It doesn't shock me that most my ex bfs are now also gay & out. In fact I saw my 1st gay boyfriend this year at pride with his boyfriend & took pics with them both laughing about how I had a habit of turning people gay of both sexes starting with him.

    Anyhow i feel that any1 who feels they are bisexual & attracted sexually to both is bi just the same way I feel that preferring women & only sexually being attracted to them makes me a lesbian. I don't think experience or trying anything makes any1 gay or bi, but if some1 is having sex with the same sex of their free will I don't get how they would not id as gay or bi as I don't see why they would benefit from having same sex sex if it doesn't turn them on--where on the other side of the coin I can completely understand why some1 would fake being str8 & date / have sex with the opposite sex without having the desire inside as unfortunately coming out is hard to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by UV69 View Post
    It's a personal matter of who some1 privately relates their sexuality. Like I have always been a lesbian only before I came out I only dated guys to hide my gayness/try to fit in, stop the abuse I faced for being gay..ect..ect, but till I was with a woman I called myself str8 & then bi when I started coming out about it.

    Now that I id as a Lesbian however I still feel a attraction from certain men(mostly gay feminine male model types), but I don't think that makes me bi even though I make out barsexually with any1 hot or just for fun if I'm in the mood, but I can't see myself ever having sex w/ a man again cuz I find most of them icky & dick itself gross to me even when I used to date only guys, deny being gay, & have lots of hetero sex.

    I have no clue how that happened when as far as I can remember it's always been women that turned me on & that I have been romantically & really sexually attracted to . However still ever now & then I think oh that gay guy is soo cute. It doesn't shock me that most my ex bfs are now also gay & out. In fact I saw my 1st gay boyfriend this year at pride with his boyfriend & took pics with them both laughing about how I had a habit of turning people gay of both sexes starting with him.

    Anyhow i feel that any1 who feels they are bisexual & attracted sexually to both is bi just the same way I feel that preferring women & only sexually being attracted to them makes me a lesbian. I don't think experience or trying anything makes any1 gay or bi, but if some1 is having sex with the same sex of their free will I don't get how they would not id as gay or bi as I don't see why they would benefit from having same sex sex if it doesn't turn them on--where on the other side of the coin I can completely understand why some1 would fake being str8 & date / have sex with the opposite sex without having the desire inside as unfortunately coming out is hard to do.
    That's interesting how you id'ed yourself as straight when you knew you weren't. I know several people who I can see are gay but they refuse to call themselves that for many reasons. I had a guy friend who would have relationships and sex with both yet thought being bisexual was gross. I used to tell him that I don't think it's gross unless it involves underage. Otherwise, it's normal to me. Sadly though being gay is often hard to deal with in this society. A friend of my brother's was lesbian (a butch)and she fought it for years because everyone told her how disgusting she was. She killed herself because of the stress.

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    ^^^^I truly hate how we have to compartmentalize things just to make them easier to deal with for us, and in the process hurt a lot of innocent people.

    Who care's what your sexuality is, except for you and your partner?! It's no one else's business.

    I don't see why people have to be so....so....STUPID!

    I really hate that that happened to her. That really hurts me.
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    ^^^^I truly hate how we have to compartmentalize things just to make them easier to deal with for us, and in the process hurt a lot of innocent people.

    Who care's what your sexuality is, except for you and your partner?! It's no one else's business.

    I don't see why people have to be so....so....STUPID!

    I really hate that that happened to her. That really hurts me.
    It was very sad. I hate to say it but my brother and sister in law wanted her not to bring her partner to their wedding. She was devastated about that and I told my brother and sister in law how mean they were being.

    I was once asked if I would be bothered being called bi. I'm not but honestly labels don't bother me at all because I know the truth. Even if by chance I discovered I was interested in women it wouldn't bother me.

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    I've been bi since I was in early grade school. I didnt act on it but a good deal of my interest was in girls. I dont think denying it somehow made me less bi. It was the same as a straight girl remaining a virgin due to fear of reprimand.

    Serious romantic and sexual interest in both sexes makes someone bi imo. Doesnt matter if you act on it or not. Likewise experimenting does not make someone bi imo....it just means they wanna try it out and see if they are bi or straight.
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    I regularly have sex with women. Hot drunken multiple girls all falling into bed together after a night out sex. I suppose that makes me bi but I don't go around calling myself bisexual. When it comes to relationships I always want a man.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesuvsDeath View Post
    Saying "I've thought about kissing a girl, so I'm bisexual is like saying "I've fantasized about stabbing the fuck out of someone... so I'm a murderer."
    Exactly.

    I'm not bi.

    But I like kissing girls.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lacy Luck View Post
    I regularly have sex with women. Hot drunken multiple girls all falling into bed together after a night out sex.
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    I think being attracted to members of both sexes make you bisexual. It's pretty simple. If I was dating a man who was physically attracted to another man, even if he never acted on it, I would consider him bisexual. I don't know why people tend to get so weird about it with women, like you have to have fucked a certain amount of girls in order to be bisexual. I feel like a lot of women pretend to be bisexual just to get guys--I've known women like this myself. I've known girls who would make out and grope each other at clubs and bars to attract men, but they weren't actually into it, so I don't consider them bisexual. Likewise, I knew I was bisexual in high school, when I got a major crush on my best female friend. I didn't have sex with a female until I was 20, but I don't think that moment was the magical, "Wow, I'm bisexual now!" moment.

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    Personally, I think it's what you make it. If you enjoy sexual encounters with both sexes regardless of relationship status you're bisexual. This issue tends to be more difficult for men...
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    Quote Originally Posted by sierra. View Post
    I also just want to throw out there that there's more to sexual orientation than gay, straight, or bi.

    I consider myself to be pansexual,
    though I often just tell people that I'm bi because it requires less explaining.
    What an awesome concept....this is me to a tee..!

    My idea of bi-sexual is fundementally, an individual who is attracted to, and has sexual relations with both males and females.....however in my case it would also include all those in-between.

    I discovered boys around 14 or 15...and loved them. I found out about girls not long after...and loved them..! I love kissing boys and making love with boys.....and I LOVE kissing girls and having sex with girls - so in the normal 'compartmentalised' world, I'm definitely categorised as bi-sexual. Guys can pleasure me in ways that that girls cannot - and girls will satisfy me in ways that I could never receive from a guy. I'm greedy like that....and so as far as my sexual appetites are concerned, I can be, and have been, attracted to anyone who presses the right buttons in me - so I could easily go for a full-on gay girl, a transgendered girl (or guy)....or a gay guy even, if he was a great kisser and into it.

    I can go through 'phases' too....like...I'll be happily breezing along having great times with my husband - then, I see a gorgeous babe - and I'm hot for a girl again. Luckily, I have a husband who is totally chilled around this. I'm loving girls at the moment.......thick and curvy in particular gets me well turned on.

    Like 'Mindy Bares All' said, I really hate being compartmentalised or labelled by society - however until there's a better way of describing my sexual orientation - then I'm bi-sexual.

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    I dont think the label has to do with who you prefer to date. It specifically mentions sexual - as in sexual preferences. If you dont mind whether you sleep with a man or a woman then you are bisexual in my books. I wouldnt live with a woman in a relationship (although I have thought I could at times) but I am attracted to both males and females and comfortable having sex with either so I consider myself bi-sexual. I imagine one day I won't sleep with women anymore but I will still consider myself bi-sexual, just repressing my attraction to women. I dont see myself being attracted to 80 year old women when Im 80... but who knows I might be wrong haha.

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