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    So...

    I danced for about 2 1/2 years, ten years ago, and I'm seriously considering doing it again. I have tons of questions and nerves, but one thing I'm wondering is this. I identified as bisexual for a long time, and was when I danced ten years ago. Since then I've come out gay and have been openly gay for about 2 years. I remember from back then if I wanted to avoid questions of "go out with me" I'd say I was lesbian and I would get negative reactions.

    Looks-wise, I'm very feminine with long hair and by just looking at me no straight man would guess I'm super gay.

    So is it best to say something like "I love to flirt with men but I only date women"? Should I say I'm lesbian or pretend I'm bi? What have been people's experiences with this line of conversation?

    BTW there's this amateur contest tonight that I think I'm doing and I'm super nervous. But I won one a while ago (not at a real club though, it was at a pole teaching studio). Wish me luck

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    i say just keep it lesbian! that way they know you are unattainable, but they are going to try and pull the i can switch u over to the good team ect and u mite b able to play that to more $

    whats more entertaining and interesting than a chick thats never had dick? *wink wink* nudge nudge
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    i would go with bi.

    although bluexxxtasy has a pt... ive never considered playing the gold star lesbian card. if you did this and suggested a hint of curiousity i could see this realllllly intriguing customers.
    The best thing i have heard in a strip club to date:
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    me: uhh... i think you are misunderstanding what a shotgun marriage means. A shotgun marriage means you knock me up and my daddy shows up at your door with a gun and forces you to marry me and raise the baby. You mean elope.
    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    I say " I have a gf AND a bf.... pretty casual, but two people is about the max I can do, so if I decide to drop one, ill add you to list *wink* lets go have some fun"

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    i never bring up my sexuality at work. it can simply go too many different ways. not worth it.

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    I try not to bring up my personal life ....but...almost every guy(esp. the younger ones) I talk to at the club asks me about my sexuality/sex life.

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    I am a very out lesbian that dances to said that say I don't do boys--ironically they tend to love that song & tip me well when it plays so it's become my theme song that the Djs always have to play for me. Anyhow I don't bring up my sexuality with a customer unless he brings up the questioning & the fact I am a lesbian comes into play in the convo as I refuse to lie about my sexuality & often like making up a pretend super jealous gf who doesn't want me giving out my number/or going out with my customers. Not that that stops then from trying any ways, but when I say I'm faithful to my girl or 100% lesbian they tend to stop.

    I don't get customers refusing dances or treating me different, but then again I do pretend I really enjoy teasing them--which is kinda 1/2 true sometimes as I'm gay, but something about turning on a man & tell him no/not letting him have any just kinda does it for me--same for when I was a dom or when I dom & I got to hurt little pain sluts & humiliate them. I'm just enjoy being kinda evil to men that enjoy the suffering of my control over them

    I sell myself on being the hot lesbian that gives some of the best dances & it works becuz frankly if I can grind on my gf's clit & make her come male customers are way to ez 4 me to keep happy. I also think alot about what I find hot 4 girls to do & use that to base the way I treat them so in many way I do have a upper hand--plus how many guys don't want to believe they posses the magic dick that can convert a lesbian & get a 3some w/ her & her gf trust me they soo try to believe they can even when I'm saying it'll never happen.


    I also happen to know & have dated many other lesbians in the bizz & some don't talk about their personal lifes, some having their gfs there chilling at the bar, others who clain to be bi, & some like myself that are very upfront about it. I think of the 1's I have knows all have been decent money makers if not top girls at their clubs, but then again they also were barbies that could attract any male attention they wanted. I am probably the only butch lesbian non barbie stripper I know, but I have always made what my fem barbie gfs made becuz I got game & know what I'm doing. However I have known some lesbians that tried stripping & quit becuz they just couldn't cut it or handle dealing with the custies. I know I only work 3 night a wk tops becuz I get burnt out on being in such a hetero male focused career even if I have my lovers among the dancers & I happen to attract a good number of female custies.

    Anyhow good luck to you & there is nothing to be nervous about stripping is like riding a bike & if you did it once it should just all comeback to you as it really hasn't changed all that much. I have quit & returned a few times & I get nervous at 1st about what the new girls are going to think/react as the 1st time I started they were kinda weird about me being 1 of them till they realized what a badass I become on stage, but since I have history at my club & all it's not like any1 has since dared tried me which really wouldn't work even if they tried as unlike when I started I'm very secure in my abilities as a stripper. Still sometimes I come back wondering if I want to deal w/ the men again & all that which got me burt out in the 1st place, but hey I make a good living & am good at what I do so I'm proud to say I'm a stripper even if it does get my grief from other lesbians & have them try to challenge my butch & gay cards. Still fck those repressed judgmental types as they don't pay my bills or get to be the 1s I would let between my legs. All my gfs have been understanding except 1 ex who really hates it & would try to get back with me if I quit it, but it is part of the reason why she is my ex in the 1st place.

    As long as your happy as a stripper & you know how to make money as a lesbian doing so don't sweat what to answer those guys at the club that want to be taking you home or getting romantically involved with you as none of that is really what you make your money on or part of your job any ways.
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    If you're not comfortable discussing your sexuality (re your personal life, obvs), you can get around it. I DO date men, but I would never date a man I met in a SC (I'm in a serious relationship anyway, but that's beside the point). All you have to tell him is that you can't get together with him outside of the club - personal policy, you could get fired, whatever reason. But, of course, you could have so much fun in VIP, and he can come see you at the club whenever he likes! lol
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    I danced at a couple of clubs in Louisville that had show rooms for 2 girl shows. If there was another girl dancing whom I was comfortable with, when a guy would ask me for my number or whatever, I'd say my gf might object and then bring up a 2 girl show. Bank!

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    I tend to keep it quiet, although it's never hurt my money when i have told the truth but the worry that the customer might stop spending means I try to avoid the question. Usually they ask if I have a boyfriend and I say no and leave it at that but only occasionally will I say that I actually have a girlfriend. Some guys are intrigued and think it's cool but I think there would be a lot of guys whose fantasy that you might fancy them would be ruined. I did once have a guy turn me down on the grounds that he'd rather have a girl who he might have a chance with. I still got a dance by reasoning with him that just because the other girls were straight it was unlikely they'd be attracted to him either! But still it wasn't ideal and I think it's best to play up to the male fantasy that there's a possibility we are attracted to him, telling customers you're gay will crush that fantasy.

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