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    For all the retired girls I have a couple of questions. First, how many years did you dance? Also what did you do when you retired. Also for all the girls still dancing what do you think is the perfect age to quit if you did this 5 + years? And please I know everyone is different ect, I just want your opinion.
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    I danced for 13 years ... I think. I was actually a fairly late starter to the world of exotic dancing since I spent several years after high school obtaining a degree in Respiratory Therapy and working in NY / NJ hospitals as a Respiratory Therapist before I quit to start dancing.

    As to what I'm doing now, mainly soaking up rays ... floating around the Caribbean ... visiting Mayan ruins ... growing teakwood ...

    IMHO the perfect age to quit dancing is when you have saved and invested enough money that you can live comfortably for the rest of your life on the 'passive' income provided by your savings and investments !

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    I danced 5 years in clubs but much longer doing bachelor parties (more than 10 years). When I retired from club dancing I ended up working in PR and radio and later computer fields but was already working in pr and radio when I quit the clubs. I don't think their is a perfect age to retire just when you can't handle it anymore. If you dread going to work and it distresses you (this happened to me) then it's time to quit.

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    Four years. I graduated from college and took a job in industry. I was only 22 when I retired. I think I had some good years left. Even now, I'm 31 and I think I stack up pretty well when I go to visit the clubs with my BF.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    I danced for 13 years ... I think. I was actually a fairly late starter to the world of exotic dancing since I spent several years after high school obtaining a degree in Respiratory Therapy and working in NY / NJ hospitals as a Respiratory Therapist before I quit to start dancing.

    As to what I'm doing now, mainly soaking up rays ... floating around the Caribbean ... visiting Mayan ruins ... growing teakwood ...

    IMHO the perfect age to quit dancing is when you have saved and invested enough money that you can live comfortably for the rest of your life on the 'passive' income provided by your savings and investments !
    Normally this is the part where I'd laugh & tell you I'm insanely jealous. However, I'm just going to say I'm thrilled for you! Somewhere recently I heard the line "don't ever be jealous, just think of it as showing you it's possible for you to have the same thing(s)". That's sooooo true.

    I'm not mentioning how long I've danced, but Avalon is about ready to retire & we started about the same time... I believe the same year. I started really young, went to college, & I'm still dancing. I really love it... & I'm not even close to being ready to retire. I think I'll probably keep dancing another 10-15 years. After that I *might* retire. I have a business venture I'm planning for when I quit dancing, something that as far as I know has never been done. My real issue is I think to fully get out of this industry would probably be very depressing for me simply because I really love it. Plus, I'm an entrepreneurial spirit, so I don't think I could really just sit back & "relax" even if I say I will. I'd probably still be working business deals here & there. I do think floating around the world would be nice though... which I totally plan to do & have included in said plans. I just want to know I'll be in good company... & somehow I trust Melonie has already got that one down as well. Actually, she's given me a lot of inspiration on this idea... even though I've never mentioned it. Anyhow, who knows where I'll finally retire to... that probably will depend on the state of the world economy & if I actually have any family by then.

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    I danced for 14 years and now how have a lucrative professional career that's honestly not much fun. I miss dancing and the attention and freedom that it entailed. Unlike Melonie I spent most of my dancing years floating around the Caribbean and doing the fun stuff... now I have to work hard pretty much everyday, but I'm still very content with the choices I made and the goals I've attained.
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    I danced 7 years... I think you just know when it's time to quit...mainly when it doesn't make you happy anymore. I left dancing debt free... and saved enough to sit on my ass while I finish up my last 2 semesters of school. I still think about going back sometimes.. just because that life became so much a part of who I was... and I miss the fast $$ But I knew it was time to go... it didn't have anything to do with looks..or $$ or even being burned out... I just stopped wanting to do it.

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    I danced for 9 years. I've been booking dancers for private parties since 2005. I also currently work the door at a strip club. The perfect age to quit is when you are ready to quit. I know dancers who are still dancing at age 50. I can't imagine doing it much longer than that because plastic surgery doesn't help the damage that dancing does to your body over time.

    I just really love this business and can't see myself being happy doing much else.


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    Thank you all for your replies. I am 27 and have been dancing since I was 21. I guess I was looking for a magic # like 30 or 35 maybe even 28. I am just anxious about what i am going to do after this. I am starting school soon but I always worry about not being happy in the straight world and not making enough money.
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    Oh, and the way I knew it was time to quit was one night I was standing in the dressing room and some song I hadn't heard for a while came on...I said "I haven't heard this since it was still on the radio when I first started dancing." The girls standing next to me replied, "I was in kindergarten when this first came out."

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    That really did happen, but it's not really why I retired. I left at 31 (physically at my peak I think) because I was in my last year of law school and I didn't want the transition to "real life" to be quite as jarring as it would have been if I waited until school was over too.

    There was another reason too... the industry had changed. I liked to dance on stage and hated, I mean HATED doing any sort of champagne room/hustle sort of thing. I had my regulars that would come in and tip me for hanging out with them at the bar or because they liked the shows I did on stage. I liked the social aspect of my job, both the dancers and the customers.

    I never planned to retire from work altogether when I was done dancing...it was just the job I had until I moved on to do something else. That attitude started getting harder and harder to maintain as you were expected to do and show more in the clubs.

    When I started dancing in 1989 (and yes, I realize some of you were not born yet) the rules were different. Most of the northeastern/midwestern clubs were only topless, most had absolutely NO contact, and the champagne room concept really hadn't been invented yet. I got paid to be pretty on stage, and I made very, very good money doing just that. But as the industry evolved and became more mainstream (and especially after the invention of internet porn) guys wanted more and more and wanted to pay less and less to get it. And girls were willing to give it. It became less about the fantasy of sex then about the sex itself, and I didn't like that part. It's not that I have any issue with sex work, (hell, I'm considering doing some camming on the side right now for kicks and extra dough) it's just that it was a separate world than stripping was for me and I didn't want it to change. In that regard I guess that most of the girls from my early years were more like burlesque performers than modern day strippers. That's not to say dancers didn't escort and such back then, of course they did, it just wasn't as prevalent as it is now.

    My short point in that LONG story was just that you'll know when you're ready. LOL.
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    I'll stop dancing when I don't make good money any more.

    When I was younger I used to tell myself "I'll quit when I'm 30."

    Yeah right. I just got started making money when I was 32.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Shameless Vixen View Post
    Oh, and the way I knew it was time to quit was one night I was standing in the dressing room and some song I hadn't heard for a while came on...I said "I haven't heard this since it was still on the radio when I first started dancing." The girls standing next to me replied, "I was in kindergarten when this first came out."

    LOL

    That really did happen, but it's not really why I retired. I left at 31 (physically at my peak I think) because I was in my last year of law school and I didn't want the transition to "real life" to be quite as jarring as it would have been if I waited until school was over too.

    There was another reason too... the industry had changed. I liked to dance on stage and hated, I mean HATED doing any sort of champagne room/hustle sort of thing. I had my regulars that would come in and tip me for hanging out with them at the bar or because they liked the shows I did on stage. I liked the social aspect of my job, both the dancers and the customers.

    I never planned to retire from work altogether when I was done dancing...it was just the job I had until I moved on to do something else. That attitude started getting harder and harder to maintain as you were expected to do and show more in the clubs.

    When I started dancing in 1989 (and yes, I realize some of you were not born yet) the rules were different. Most of the northeastern/midwestern clubs were only topless, most had absolutely NO contact, and the champagne room concept really hadn't been invented yet. I got paid to be pretty on stage, and I made very, very good money doing just that. But as the industry evolved and became more mainstream (and especially after the invention of internet porn) guys wanted more and more and wanted to pay less and less to get it. And girls were willing to give it. It became less about the fantasy of sex then about the sex itself, and I didn't like that part. It's not that I have any issue with sex work, (hell, I'm considering doing some camming on the side right now for kicks and extra dough) it's just that it was a separate world than stripping was for me and I didn't want it to change. In that regard I guess that most of the girls from my early years were more like burlesque performers than modern day strippers. That's not to say dancers didn't escort and such back then, of course they did, it just wasn't as prevalent as it is now.

    My short point in that LONG story was just that you'll know when you're ready. LOL.
    I too am an older retired dancer and saw exactly what you did. I started in 1993 (I graduated high school in 1989)and the clubs were much more cleaner than what they became. I hated hustling and struggled to hustled champagne rooms. Getting a guy to spend $10 wasn't hard but getitng him to spend hundreds was much harder.

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    I was a dancer for 5 years. I knew it was time to stop when I no longer enjoyed going and had other passions I wanted to persue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by devilkitty View Post
    For all the retired girls I have a couple of questions. First, how many years did you dance? Also what did you do when you retired. Also for all the girls still dancing what do you think is the perfect age to quit if you did this 5 + years? And please I know everyone is different ect, I just want your opinion.
    I danced for 9 years- 18 to 27. Upon retirement, I started working as a bartender, and ended up LOVING it. I, like Kellydancer, "grew up" in air dance clubs, so when contact became a regular thing, it was really bad for me. I also got to the point where I dreaded work and it began to really upset me. I started having night terrors because of it, so I decided to leave.

    The perfect age doesn't really exist. Depends on when you meet your personal goals, how your looks are holding up, how you feel mentally and physically, and what your financial situation is. You have to realize that this is NOT something you can do forever, and use the capital you have coming in now to get the ball rolling for the future.

    I personally believe it is easier to quit if you have a support system, and are a dual income household. I was able to quit last year because my husband works, was very supportive of any choice I was comfortable with. If it's just you, then you have to tread a little more carefully and plan more meticulously.

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    Thanks everyone. I appreciate all the responses and support.
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    I danced for almost 7 yrs before I retired. After that, I continued through college, which I will graduate next year!! I went back to work for high end designers and fragrance modeling. I still did these things while I was dancing as well. I never stopped working in corporate america while being a dancer. Because I needed to make a smoothe transition when I left the industry and it worked out pretty well. You will need to make a decision and goals for yourself so that you don't get sucked in too deep and still dancing when your 40 or 50!! So you should take advantage now, save your money and plan a future for yourself. Because one thing you have to remember is that your looks and body won't last for too long, so you need to make the most of it while you have a chance. Best of luck to you.
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