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    I've always been shy and self-conscious, and I am still shy, but I feel like there must be something different about the way I carry myself now because I feel like I get so many more random compliments and approached by more people than I used to. Last night I went to a party and, at the end of the night, my friend couldn't believe how many guys had just walked up and wanted to start talking to me when I was just standing there. I've also gotten comments from strangers lately about how I'm "not very humble" about myself - and one friend told me I was getting a big head

    The second I walk into a room of people I don't know, now, instead of feeling like I can't possibly connect or make a good impression, I just have this thought in my head of "I'm a stripper - of course I'm awesome. Why wouldn't they like me?/Why wouldn't the guys think I'm hot?" even if no one in the room even knows what I do for a living lol I guess I am getting a big head

    People always have that stereotype that strippers have low self-esteem -
    does anybody feel like they've gotten more full of themselves once they started dancing?

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    My ego didn't inflate ... but my boobs certainly did !!!

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    Default Re: Did your ego inflate?

    i have gotten pretty full of myself, and honestly, i like it that way. i like being happy with myself and confident with myself, and if you like me, congrats, you've got it right, and if you don't, then you can lick my ballsagna. i don't give a shit. i get mine.

    that's my attitude and i swear to god, i go to the bar and ppl won't leave me alone. it's kind of annoying.

    another reason why i'm confused about why my bf doesn't think i'm ready to work at a club... really dude??? ppl throw themselves at me all the time. ppl want my shit. i can make money in a club.

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    you can't inflate something that was already the size of TX!
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    I'd call it more an increase in self-esteem.

    There's something wonderful about getting a job where people pay for the enjoyment of watching you dance--or just looking at you and having you pay attention to them!

    I don't know if you've ever noticed that so many women who are not dancers have terrible posture. The way some women stand, they seem to be sending out the message (through body language): "Please don't look at me!" And they are lovely women; they'd be really lovely women if they just stood up straight!

    A dancer usually has great posture; it's an occupational necessity! A dancer carries herself with confidence; she moves with confidence, since she's probably more limber than others because of daily exercise/workouts/dance classes, etc.

    As I see it, it's a job benefit that will last as long as you exercise, stay limber, work out, stand up straight, and move with confidence.

    Enjoy!

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    Nope. This job has made me much more introverted in the real world.
    Hell, I can't even look at a guy without thinking he is just after sex (not from me, but just after sex in general).
    Conversations with people out of the club are quite difficult too because I've become so used to getting paid to have conversations with people.

    Maybe I am jaded??
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    Quote Originally Posted by ZePeanut View Post
    Nope. This job has made me much more introverted in the real world.
    Hell, I can't even look at a guy without thinking he is just after sex (not from me, but just after sex in general).
    Conversations with people out of the club is quite difficult too because I've become so used to getting paid to have conversations with people.

    Maybe I am jaded??
    I honestly don't know if I'd call it "jaded"; everybody's reaction to being an entertainer is different.

    Think of Johnny Carson. He was host of The Tonight Show, Monday through Friday, for 30 years. And those were the years before cable TV; The Tonight Show was very, very popular. Johnny would be interviewing all the top celebrities and doing some of the most crazy comedy sketches you could imagine.

    You'd think that such a person would be the life of any party. Yet once the man walked off stage, he was practically a hermit! He didn't participate in the Hollywood social scene at all. He wasn't strange or anything; he was "on" only when he was onstage and kept completely to himself when he was offstage.

    As I wrote above, IME, everybody's reaction to being an entertainer is different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZePeanut View Post
    Nope. This job has made me much more introverted in the real world.
    Hell, I can't even look at a guy without thinking he is just after sex (not from me, but just after sex in general).
    Conversations with people out of the club is quite difficult too because I've become so used to getting paid to have conversations with people.

    Maybe I am jaded??

    To an extent, this happens to me. I too have thoughts that men who talk to to me just want to get in my pants - I guess I just don't care since I know I won't be sleeping with them so I just get a big head that they want to get with me and I know they won't lol

    I also don't talk much unless spoken to first. I guess it's just an internal attitude that I have that I think everyone will find me awesome regardless, rather than me developing an impulse to talk to people now. And I will say that I definitely have nights where I absolutely refuse to go out because I'm like "why would I go listen to bad, loud music in a stupid drunken crowd and be forced to make fake conversation for FREE when I could've gone to work and gotten paid to do that?" I guess that's also kind of an ego thing.... I think I'm too good to go do "normal" socialization for free anymore lol

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    Nope. I do my best to ignore all customer comments good or bad. If I listen to the five guys who call me hot there is always the one guy being an ass. I can't take anything personally in the club, it would make my self esteem go up and down and up and down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZePeanut View Post
    Nope. This job has made me much more introverted in the real world.
    Hell, I can't even look at a guy without thinking he is just after sex (not from me, but just after sex in general).
    Conversations with people out of the club is quite difficult too because I've become so used to getting paid to have conversations with people.

    Maybe I am jaded??
    partly this, partly the o.p.
    i have grown more confident, as that ego boost was waaaay waaaay overdue and i like it and wish i started dancing sooner.

    but like zepeanut says i have grown disinterested towards the general public and have been rude at times when strangers try to chat me up [coz im also a bit introverted and used to getting paid if ima make that kinda effort]

    guess you gotta take the good with the bad.
    i wished i could start dancing at 15, my self esteem was so low and looking at my pictures from that time i was quite attractive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Yup. Exactly what you said, when I go somewhere, I know I'm the hottest one there. It's to the point where I'll see very pretty girls dressed up in whatever style and just feel bad for them because they'll never be as effortless or hot as I am. And since I know I'm the hottest thing out there, I don't feel like I have to try hard or impress anyone, so I just quietly mind my own business and let people come to me. Since I'm at the top of the food chain, nobodys a threat to me so I'm very friendly, which just makes me hotter.
    yep! thats how i feel too. and i don't think theres anything wrong with it. we deserve to feel like hot bitches lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grac View Post
    I honestly don't know if I'd call it "jaded"; everybody's reaction to being an entertainer is different.

    Think of Johnny Carson. He was host of The Tonight Show, Monday through Friday, for 30 years. And those were the years before cable TV; The Tonight Show was very, very popular. Johnny would be interviewing all the top celebrities and doing some of the most crazy comedy sketches you could imagine.

    You'd think that such a person would be the life of any party. Yet once the man walked off stage, he was practically a hermit! He didn't participate in the Hollywood social scene at all. He wasn't strange or anything; he was "on" only when he was onstage and kept completely to himself when he was offstage.

    As I wrote above, IME, everybody's reaction to being an entertainer is different.
    Wow! Thankyou for that comparison--it sums up exactly how I feel. It really isn't an ego thing at all, or a 'I'm too good to talk/make friends/ect' but since that is something I do for a job I like to spend my downtime doing the polar opposite^^

    Thanks so much!!

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    I feel like people look at me more too! Like everyone knows what my secret job is or something haha its weird. I've always had good posture and everything so I don't think its that, but I think it might have given me more confidence.

    I'm not completely full of myself, I still feel insecure at times...but I do think the fact that I have people paying to have my attention at work reminds me that I shouldn't be insecure at all. I don't think I'm the hottest thing walking this planet but if I'm hot enough to dance on stage and have guys pay to have me talk or dance for them then I'm sure as hell pretty good looking

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    Quote Originally Posted by BringOnTheMen View Post
    Other girls at a bar dont intimidate me, because a) they cant compete with the girls I work with, and b) what's at stake? At work, moneys at stake, but IRL, why would other girls intimidate you? Theres nothing at stake! So I just go through life with this relaxed confidence.
    I haven't really looked at it that way but that's definitely true!

    I swear almost all girls see each other as competition..

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    My ego or self confidence hasn't really changed, but I have a lower tolerance in general for people's bullshit now. Especially coming from guys.

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    Ask me after I get my big fake tits, I guarantee I'll probably turn into an uber cunt
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    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    I swear almost all girls see each other as competition..
    So true! Girls see each other as competition allll the time and I regret that I used to be one of them. But now I also have that relaxed confidence that BringOnTheMen was talking about and I don't feel threatened at all anymore. It's true - there's nothing at stake really and since I've grown a lot more confident in myself, I feel absolutely no need to feel threatened by anyone. It's very liberating and makes me a much nicer girl to be around lol

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    I got a pretty big ego boost at first, then for some reason I got really insecure and wore frumpy clothes for a bit because I didn't want anyone to look at me. Now I seem to have mellowed out and I'm somewhere in between.

    Agreed that I don't make a lot of conversation with men for free anymore. Haha.

    And my posture is so massively improved from seeing myself slouching in the mirror all night and correcting it. I wish I had started this job years ago, for the physical and mental benefits it's given me. I can't believe I used to worry so much about feeling ugly or weird -- having guys make it rain on you a couple times a week sure puts an end to that!

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    I'd say that my self confidence definitely went up. I've come into my own after all these years of dancing. I know how to do my hair and makeup now. I know how to dress great. If you feel good about yourself then others can sense it and that makes you more attractive in their eyes. Anyone that says you are full of yourself are either A. Jealous or B. You are actually acting like an egotistical bitch and need to come down from your high horse.

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    Ask me after I get my big fake tits, I guarantee I'll probably turn into an uber cunt
    I RESEMBLE that remark !!!

    Actually, the source of any likely new bitchiness is the tendency by the vast majority of men to carry on conversations with my cleavage ! But that cleavage also helps me to quickly sort out the handful of guys who are as mature and self-confident as I am ... they talk to my face !!!


    But in terms of 'attitude problems', I actually went through that well before I ever started dancing. Thanks to whatever chromosomes, the winter I turned age 13 my boobs decided to explode from an A cup to a D cup. At that point I really wasn't paying much attention to these physical changes and neither was anybody else given that we were all wearing winter clothing. But once summer vacation rolled around, my girlfriends came to collect me for an expedition to the local swimming hole. So I threw on my 2 piece bathing suit from the previous summer and started walking down the road with my girlfriends. The first thing that happened was that the 'paper boy' riding past us on his bike promptly crashed straight into a ditch. And once I arrived at the local swimming hole, suddenly older boys who previously didn't know that I existed were paying me a LOT of attention. And this only got worse such that by the time I was a senior in high school guys in their late twenties were routinely hitting on me. Thus I was able to work through these 'attitude problems' long before I ever donned 6" heels !

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    Nah I was my biggest fan before I started dancing. The biggest thing that changed is my attitude. I don't put up with bull shit anymore and I don't stand for people talking down to me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Nah I was my biggest fan before I started dancing. The biggest thing that changed is my attitude. I don't put up with bull shit anymore and I don't stand for people talking down to me.
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    I did become more confident after dancing because my body got better (more toned and have more of an ass/boobs) and I'm stronger mentally and physically, also guys tell me how hot I am and stuff which always helps, but I do look much better at the club than in real life, with 7 inch heels, and my hair and makeup done perfectly. .

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